A Rude Awakening, a Massive Effect; the Day the World Stops Turning, Part 4
A good conversation begins with showing an interest in the other person, knowing what you want to say, active listening, asking an open-ended question that gets the conversation going; and the desire to have a valid conversation.
If you want to ensure, you share a suitable conversation that doesn't result in wasted time and nothing productive being said. You need to learn and practice the right strategy on how to talk endlessly about something that you don’t have the slightest interest in. And the best way to do that is through expressing a natural curiosity for what the other person is telling you.
When it comes to sharing a conversation, you don’t have the slightest interest in, it probably feels like two people join you to have lunch. They are sitting together and sharing a conversation and you just happen to be seated there. More than likely, the other two people can tell when you aren’t actively listening and that you do not share their same interest.
One of the best ways to share a good conversation is through asking good questions that show you’re interested and willing to be engaged. You like a girl/guy that you just met and you hope he/she is interested in you too.
But the moment, you both come face-to-face, it seems as if you are at a loss for word, it can happen. Especially if you are a person who loves to talk about yourself and you are sitting and listening to someone continuously talk about something that you have the smallest interest in.
When you find yourself at a loss for words, it happens when you meet a guy/girl you feel attracted to, you say “hello,” and possibly exchange smiles, and share with each other your opinions and talk on a few topics that can make a conversation seem regular.
Eliza wants a conversation that will take her a step or two forward towards how to get the guy of her dreams. She agrees to talk to Monty; except she has done everything within her ability to prolong the conversation. Eliza knows they need to talk and a conversation is needed to discuss what transpired between them, but it is not easy, especially since she is highly extroverted.
She starts the conversation with a basic, routine, “Hi! How are you?” But after this, she found herself stuck in small talk unable to get deeper into the conversation and it left her at a loss of what to say next.
Eliza allowed herself to start the conversation before she found common ground. Therefore, she was caught up in an awkward moment in the conversation where she believes what she was about to say isn't good enough and she struggles to know what to say next.
As Eliza was having a conversation with Monty, she notices suddenly his eyes drop, she panics, but immediately realizes, she has to create and share good conversation for a potential relationship.
Love is not to be purchased, and affection has no price. St. Jerome
She made a quick decision to salvage the conversation by telling Monty, "I'm feeling a bit overheated right now, and I need something to drink, will you accomplish me inside and we can talk about this over a drink.
Monty was happy to agree, He assists Eliza by opening the door as she walked inside, he walks in behind her. She asks Flo, the maid to please bring two drinks to the dining area.
Flo, though her ears were deceiving her, this was the very first time Eliza used a word like please and she’s NEVER been nice to her. All she could think, I don't know who this young man is but if he can change Eliza attitude, she hopes he hangs around more often.
It took Eliza a few minutes to get herself together, but shortly after Flo brought the drinks, she took a deep breath and said to Monty, "I'm sorry I acted the way I did. I was acting and saying what I thought was okay for me say and take action."
From a child, I was raised to believe, I can do and say whatever I pleases and "NO" was a word I didn't hear, I am not trying to justify my action because there isn't any justification for what I have done and I had no right to be like that to you."
I let my childhood upbringing take control of my life, I know it will be hard for me to completely change everything I am used to doing in short time, but I am willing to fully integrate into my adult self to control the child's emotional state and do better. I know it will take time, but I will make the necessary correction in my life and I hope we can develop a friendship.
Monty was so pleased with Eliza apology and he understood what she shared with him. He said to her, “I appreciate your apology, and your willingness to make amends and most of all I appreciate your effort to acknowledge your mistake.
I will admit, I was confused by your approach and it really felt awkward, but no harm was done and I’m looking forward to putting this mishap behind us so we can move forward.
You can't control who you fall in love with. Travis Kalanick
He tells Eliza, I have dreams that allow me to see premonitions into the future, I saw your pain in my dream. Although I can foretell of the future, I was not aware of your upbringing and wasn't exactly sure what to expect when I decided to come, but the gift of the dream means more to me than any aggressive behavior so, I came because I want to help you get through your pain.
After hearing these inspiring words from Monty, Eliza's heart melts and skipped a beat almost at the same time. She immediately understood that nothing can be taken for granted and the reason she's was so attracted to Monty. He's one of a kind, a rare individual that doesn't and probably will never ever exist again.
This day marks a new beginning and existence of Eliza, the conversation she had with Monty increased the amount of meaning in her lives. A meaning that doesn't simply represent radical behaviorism. She felt in her heart, she no longer has to wonder openly, or intensely, about the meaning of her life, she felt fate had given her an opportunity to develop and mature to be who she was intended to be.
Eliza was willing to give up the brat of a princess life, she was so familiar with so that she can be free to live as she desired. That doesn't mean she can't be a princess, just not a brat that rain down storms on the people around her without a cause.
Her new mission is the reflection toward knowing how she would begin her new life. Eliza has lived 16 years ruling with an iron fist, now that she was given a new heart one can't wait to see how she's a proceed.
She reflected back on the dreadful child, she had been raised to rule as she pleases and how she sacrificed others inclination for her pleasure. Eliza realizes, she was like a slave master, and that if she desires to be free, freedom has to be more desired by the master than the slave. Perhaps, this means she can start her new mission within the household for a life of liberty to the maidservant.
Eliza and Monty sit and talk for a little over an hour about almost everything, Monty has spent longer than he should. He knows he needs to go to proceed with a day he already behind in fulfilling.
He hugs Eliza and tells her he’s happy she's feeling better, but he has to go. She gives him her telephone number and tells him; she would like to keep in touch. Is this the beginning of a wonderful relationship? Sound like Eliza has opened the door for a romantic relationship, but the question is will Monty walk through the door and accept?
Eliza asks questions that allowed her to get to know Monty personality, not just surface information about him. She acquired the information to learn if they have a substantial connection.
She even opens the lines of communication between her and Monty, but how deep do the links between them go? Eliza is interested in a romantic relationship, but that doesn't guarantee that Monty wants a relationship that more than friends with Eliza.
Stay tuned on this journey of princess brat, a spoil little girl born into royalty, but desires to mature and develop into a sophisticated young woman. Learn what's next for Monty and Eliza and so much more in part 5 of, A rude awakening, a massive effect; the day the world stops turning.
A Rude Awakening, a Massive Effect; the Day the World Stops Turning, Part 4!
A quote by Travis Kalanick states, "You can't control who you fall in love with, do you agree?
Alan Jackson - Where Were You When The World Stopped Turning
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