Rev. Margaret Minnicks is an ordained Bible teacher. She writes many articles that are Bible lessons.
Rejection comes in many forms. Perhaps you felt rejected if you were the only child not chosen to be on a baseball or basketball team while in school.
Perhaps you did not get the job you knew you were qualified for and the job went to someone less qualified. Perhaps your parents favored your siblings over you. You might feel rejected because a significant other tells you he or she doesn't love you.
When you are repeatedly rejected, it takes a toll on you and you wonder if something is wrong with you to cause people to reject you. When you are rejected over and over again, you expect to be rejected by others and even by God.
You were created by God, and God did not create you to be rejected. God created you and made you acceptable through Christ, not because of what you have done, but what God has done through His son, Jesus Christ. When Jesus died on the cross, He paid for all your sins and covered you with His love. Therefore, accept what Jesus did for you.
Don’t worry about what people say about you because God created you and Christ made you acceptable. God is with you. God is for you.
Rejection is a feeling just as acceptance is a feeling. In fact, feeling rejected is the opposite of feeling accepted. Rejection hurts. It is really not a good feeling at all. It will be easier to deal with rejection if you remember that it doesn't mean you aren't important or valuable.
Also, keep in mind that even though you feel that you are being rejected, it might not actually exist.
Social rejection is the type of rejection that can be emotionally painful. That's because we are social beings and we need to feel loved and accepted by others.
Abraham Maslow and other theorists have studied rejection and concluded that everybody needs love and confidence that he belongs. Those are basic needs for people to be socially healthy.
Threefold Antidote for Rejection
When you feel rejected, there are some things you can do to lessen the pain. There is a threefold antidote for rejection.
- Put God first.
- Second, embrace God's opinion of you.
- Third, accept what God says about you instead of what others say.
1. Put God First
You should put God first in all of your doings. No matter what it is, God knows about what is going on with you, and God cares.
Sometimes people get wrapped up in the opinion of others and neglect what the Word of God says. What God says is more important than anything people can say about you. After all, you are God's creation made in His own image. God knows you while others only know about you.
Therefore, put God first in all you do and feel even when you feel rejected.
2. Embrace God's Opinion
In order to know what God thinks about you, you must read what He says. Throughout the Bible, God says good things about you. So, what are some of the things God says?
Here are four things God wants you to remember to help you deal with rejection.
- You are completely accepted. “Jesus made us acceptable to God” (Titus 3:7). Jesus made you acceptable to God when He died on the cross for you no matter what you have done or will do.
- You are unconditionally loved. There is absolutely nothing you can do to make God love you less. God is not like some people. He will never stop loving you because His love is not based on what you have done but on who He is. Isaiah 54:10 says, “The mountains and hills may crumble, but my love for you will never end.”
- You are totally forgiven. Jesus died on the cross and gave His life as payment in exchange for your sins. Therefore, if you have accepted Jesus as your Lord and Savior, then you are totally forgiven. Romans 10:9 says, "That if thou shalt confess with thy mouth the Lord Jesus, and shalt believe in thine heart that God hath raised him from the dead, thou shalt be saved."
- You are valuable. You are a child of God and “have been bought and paid for by Christ” (1 Corinthians 7:23). Jesus Christ paid for you with His life. That’s how valuable you are.
If you can remember that you are accepted, loved, forgiven, and valuable to God, then you will be able to handle rejection when it happens to you.
3. Accept God's Opinions
By faith, accept God's opinions of you.
- You are a new creation in Christ. (2 Corinthians 5:17)
- You are a child of God. (John 1:12)
- You are an heir. (Romans 8:17)
- You have been chosen. (Ephesians 1:4)
- You have been adopted. (Ephesians 1:5)
- You are redeemed and forgiven. (Ephesians 1:7)
- You are sealed with the Holy Spirit. (Ephesians 1:13
- You are made alive in Christ. (Ephesians 2:4-5)
- You are raised and seated with Him in the heavenly places. (Ephesians 2:6)
- You are God’s workmanship. (Ephesians 2:10)
With all those things going for you, know that God has not rejected you, and He never will.