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Sundown Devotional: Forgive and Remember

MsDora, a certified Christian counselor, explores facts, attitudes and habits that can help us maintain our physical and mental wellbeing.

Forgive and Remember. Photo by Shelley Steinhorst

Forgive and Remember. Photo by Shelley Steinhorst

The Devotional

Forgive us our sins, as we have forgiven those who sin against us.
Matthew 6:12 (NLT)

In 1995, Azim Khamisa lost his twenty-year old son to a bullet from fourteen-year old Tony Hicks. In Khamisa's Muslim faith, the mourner is encouraged forty days after his loss, to channel his grief into a deed of compassion. He reached out to the offender's grandfather and guardian to offer his forgiveness.

In his CBS interview, the father said that he expected to see a killer in Hicks, but instead, when they met, he saw a soul very much like his own. Khamisa now corresponds with Hicks and has become a surrogate father who promises to be there when the prisoner is paroled in 2027.

Khamisa’s philosophy is that having rescued Tony Hicks with his love, he has given Tony the tools to rescue many others. What representation of God's love for us who are offered redemption through the death of His Son!

While we may struggle to forget the betrayal, disappointment, humiliation caused by offenses, we do not want to forget the positive effects of forgiveness which can empower us to move forward.

  • Remember that God forgives us continually and abundantly, so we can afford to share His forgiveness generously with others.
  • Remember that forgiveness frees us from resentment and hate which imprison only us, not our offenders.
  • Remember that forgiveness grows our resilience and character strengths; it makes us stronger, not weaker, when we move forward.
  • Remember that forgiveness clears our minds to appreciate the contributions of departed loved ones; it does not fill us with regret over opportunities they did not get.
  • Remember that only after we forgive, does God reveal how what seems like the greatest evil, He can turn into the greatest good. (Genesis 50:20)
  • Remember that we are forgiven as we forgive. (Matthew 6:14)

Love, joy and peace of mind are beneficial to our well-being. They do not reside in hearts that are crippled with thoughts of retaliation and revenge. We do ourselves a life-giving favor when we accept into our hearts and lives the principles of God's forgiveness.

Prayer: Thank You, Heavenly Father the gift of Your forgiveness. Please help us demonstrate our gratitude by sharing this boundless gift with those who offend us. In Jesus' name. Amen.

Forgive everybody.

Forgive everybody.

Ten Forgiveness Quotes to Remember

  1. “Forgive others not because they deserve forgiveness, but because you deserve peace.” ―Jonathan Huie
  2. "Forgiveness is the fragrance that the violet sheds on the heel that has crushed it." ―Mark Twain
  3. "There is some good in the worst of us and some evil in the best of us. When we discover this, we are less prone to hate our enemies. ―Martin Luther King, Jr.
  4. “To be a Christian means to forgive the inexcusable because God has forgiven the inexcusable in you.” ―C.S. Lewis
  5. “A broken friendship that is mended through forgiveness can be even stronger than it once was.” ―Stephen Richards
  6. “True forgiveness is when you can say, "Thank you for that experience.” ―Oprah Winfrey
  7. “Not forgiving is like drinking rat poison and then waiting for the rat to die.” ―Anne Lamott
  8. “The practice of forgiveness is our most important contribution to the healing of the world.” ―Marianne Williamson
  9. "It's one of the greatest gifts you can give yourself, to forgive. Forgive everybody." ―Maya Angelou
  10. “The truth is, unless you let go, unless you forgive yourself, unless you forgive the situation, unless you realize that the situation is over, you cannot move forward.” ―Steve Maraboli
Forgive ... you deserve peace. Photo by Max Dawncat

Forgive ... you deserve peace. Photo by Max Dawncat

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© 2016 Dora Weithers


Dora Weithers (author) from The Caribbean on May 13, 2016:

Shauna, it is also difficult to know beforehand how you will respond to an offender; there are so many variables. Also, time by itself doesn't heal the wound; we have to intentionally work at the healing. Thank you so much for your valuable input.

Shauna L Bowling from Central Florida on May 13, 2016:

Beautiful hub, Dora. Forgiving isn't always easy. Sometimes, time has to go by to heal the wounds before we're able to forgive. In the case of the man you feature at the end of this post, I don't know if I'd be able to forgive someone who killed my son, or anyone I love for that matter. Hopefully, I'll never have to find out.

Dora Weithers (author) from The Caribbean on April 20, 2016:

Nell, it's all good if you take your time to forgive. You may remember the offender and the offense but what you want to forget is the hurt; you cannot carry that forever.

Nell Rose from England on April 20, 2016:

If I I do something wrong I do tend to admit to it straight away, and apologise, but I am not very good at forgiving, I think I said this before on another hub I tend to be a bit like an elephant! I never forget, but thats something I am working on, wonderful hub as always, nell

Dora Weithers (author) from The Caribbean on April 16, 2016:

Deb, thanks for your affirmation. The past does hold us in a place that no longer benefits us; forgiveness pushes us into a better future.

Deb Hirt from Stillwater, OK on April 16, 2016:

You definitely speak the truth here. For some people, it is better to forget the past and look forward to the future, as there will be additional lessons to build upon, in order to make one a better individual.

Dora Weithers (author) from The Caribbean on April 16, 2016:

Thanks,Flourish. One thing not to forget is that one day the tables will turn and the offended now will be the one seeking forgiveness.

FlourishAnyway from USA on April 15, 2016:

Especially when you have wronged someone important to you, it is key to try to seek their forgiveness. Do it without delay. Many people do not know the correct way to apologize, instead offering wimpy excuses for apologies such as, "I'm sorry IF I made you upset." I appreciated your advice.

Dora Weithers (author) from The Caribbean on April 15, 2016:

Well said, Theresa. Put another ways, when we accept God's forgiveness for ourselves, then we can pass it on. Thanks for your contribution.

Theresa Jonathan from Maseru, Lesotho on April 14, 2016:

We all struggle to forgive ourselves for various reasons. The truth is, we cannot give what we do not have. Forgiving is giving love, this is why we have to learn to forgive ourselves too so that we can give because we have love and compassion for others.

Dora Weithers (author) from The Caribbean on April 14, 2016:

Shanmarie, don't forget that you're only human and that you deserve forgiveness no less than the other people you forgive so easily. Forgiving yourself is really accepting that God has forgiven you.

Dora Weithers (author) from The Caribbean on April 14, 2016:

Sukhneet, you're very kind. Thanks for being so encouraging.

Shannon Henry from Texas on April 14, 2016:

I can forgive others so easily, but I tend to take much longer to forgive myself for things, especially those things that result in the end of a relationship important to me. The points you bring up here are spot on, though.

Sukhneet Kaur Bhatti from India on April 14, 2016:

Very well-written and heart touching

Dora Weithers (author) from The Caribbean on April 10, 2016:

Thanks for your feedback, Janelle. We hear so much about forgetting which does not really happen, but there are many things worth remembering.

Pennington on April 09, 2016:

This is a very interesting and unique Hub. MsDora, You have addressed an important,needed topic, forgiveness and shared some very vital points and lessons in what not to forget after we forgive.

Dora Weithers (author) from The Caribbean on April 09, 2016:

Faith thanks for all the important points you add to the topic. We cannot too much about forgiveness!

Faith Reaper from southern USA on April 09, 2016:

Important topic here and you've done a stellar job in covering the overall effects of forgiveness, MsDora. Yes, this is a tough one, but to make amends or forgive as soon as possible, as God tells us, is a must.

When we hold onto that unforgiveness, it can literraly make us physically sick. In His Word, as you know, it tells us it can rot us to our bones!

Although we forgive, it doesn't mean we automatically are able trust that person as that takes time. I know that is hard for the offender to understand.


Dora Weithers (author) from The Caribbean on April 09, 2016:

Thanks Rajan, for your affirming input. I appreciate you.

Rajan Singh Jolly from From Mumbai, presently in Jalandhar, INDIA. on April 08, 2016:

So many lessons for us in here. I believe the point 3 and 4 to be the most important ones for forgiving others. We all are imperfect and need peace of mind and forgiving others is so satisfying and peaceful.

Dora Weithers (author) from The Caribbean on April 08, 2016:

Bill, thanks for the double blessing! "The only one who suffers from unforgiveness is the unforgiving one." Perhaps you needed to stress that.

Dora Weithers (author) from The Caribbean on April 08, 2016:

Manatita, more love to you!

Dora Weithers (author) from The Caribbean on April 08, 2016:

Bill, preach away! Glad to write something you can use; and when you don't preach it, share the link anyway. Thanks for your encouragement.

Dora Weithers (author) from The Caribbean on April 08, 2016:

Jodah, thanks for your kind comment. Great that you're being a good example to your wife; hope that eventually she'll learn because it is a learning experience. Best to both of you!

William Kovacic from Pleasant Gap, PA on April 08, 2016:

Another job well done, Dora! Another very practical and helpful hub! The hard part may be for many living it out. I've been there- done that, and those were the most miserable days of my life. The only one who suffers from unforgiveness is the unforgiving one. Thanks for writing on this much needed topic.

manatita44 from london on April 08, 2016:

I don't always respond, but I read and re-read nearly all my and others comments. I note your kindness here, Dee and I do appreciate same. Love as always.

William Kovacic from Pleasant Gap, PA on April 08, 2016:

Well Dora, another masterpiece. You give us so much to better our lives. I wonder , do we take advantage of it? If not, it sure isn't your fault. I may use some of these ideas some Sunday morning if that's okay with you. Have a great weekend!

John Hansen from Queensland Australia on April 08, 2016:

Thank you for this wonderful hub, Ms Dora. It has such an important message for us all. Fortunately, I am good at forgiving people. I don't forget what was done, but do forgive, My wife, however, has things and people in her past that she can never forgive. Great reference from the Bible, though. I love Joseph's story.

Dora Weithers (author) from The Caribbean on April 08, 2016:

RTalloni, thanks for your encouraging comment. Thanks also for the book referral; I will follow it up.

RTalloni on April 08, 2016:

Rare would be the person who finds that this topic does not strike a chord in their heart and mind. The perspective you offer could be very helpful to many. One of the most beneficial books covering the topic comes from Chris Brauns, titled Unpacking Forgiveness. It offers amazing help to those who suffer from serious injury by others.

Dora Weithers (author) from The Caribbean on April 08, 2016:

Theresa, thanks for your input. Every sentence in your comment is a vital addition to the topic. I appreciate you.

Theresa Jonathan from Maseru, Lesotho on April 08, 2016:

A very good subject indeed MsDora! Adults struggle with forgiveness; children do this easily hence Jesus remark that we have to learn from them. Keeping negative energy is harmful and will surely harm one who does not forgive. It is hard when the offense has a scar to remind one. Forgiveness indicates spiritual maturity and it is long learning process which will transcend our graves.

Dora Weithers (author) from The Caribbean on April 07, 2016:

Mary, thank you for sharing from your experience. It helps when a reader validates the lesson with personal affirmation.

Dora Weithers (author) from The Caribbean on April 07, 2016:

Word, it's true that the peace of mind resulting from forgiveness is worth the effort. Thanks for your input.

Dora Weithers (author) from The Caribbean on April 07, 2016:

Thanks Manatita, for your contribution to the topic. Your devotional prayers for forgiveness show in your loving, peaceful nature. You're a treasure.

Mary Wickison from Brazil on April 07, 2016:

Hi Dora,

This hub rings true with me. It took me a long time to forgive and move on with my life.

Now when I see this in other people, I try to encourage them to forgive, to release themselves from that prison. I think many find it difficult and feel safe in 'blame mode'. It can almost be like a crutch for people.

I truly feel sorry for those who can't see their way to forgiveness.

Al Wordlaw from Chicago on April 07, 2016:

Hi Dora, This hub was very well articulated. To forgive is to allow the forgiver to become freer. We learn lessons in life via various experiences, people whom we come in contact with people that we don't come in contact with. It is to a forgiver's benefit to forgive another no matter what the situation is in order to move on without bearing the weight of pain and sorrow any longer. It seems that when you forgive a person for doing you wrong then the offender is left with guilt and remorse sooner or later. Anyway, thanks Dora.

manatita44 from london on April 07, 2016:

Short, sweet and meaningful. One of the most powerful messages of our Lord. Indeed, it is for our own good, yet alone anyone else. You ended well, and I commend this beautiful story. True forgiveness touches the Heart and is very vast and pretty effective.

In our Path, the Invocation is sung every day. This is nearly always followed by one of forgiveness, then one of Prayer. I have done this for 33 years! Higher blessings.

Dora Weithers (author) from The Caribbean on April 07, 2016:

Tamarajo, what an important addition to the topic! Thanks for the illustration from your own experience and for the response from Jesus. I truly appreciate you!

Dora Weithers (author) from The Caribbean on April 07, 2016:

Denise, thanks for sharing from your own experience with such a beautiful attitude. Your contribution is very valuable.

Dora Weithers (author) from The Caribbean on April 07, 2016:

Thanks, Alicia. Forgiveness is an important topic, and it is a challenge to do justice to it. Only too happy to share what I can.

Tamarajo on April 07, 2016:

A beautiful lesson Dora! I recall in my youth harboring much unforgiveness. I then lived my own life so irresponsibly that I ended up on the other end needing to be forgiven of so much more. The testimony of Azim and Tony is a wonderful exhibit of the humility that is required on either side.

I like Jesus response to his offenders that I think is useful and has enabled me to let whatever occurs to be between that person and God and helps to let it go...

"For to this you were called, because Christ also suffered for us, leaving us an example, that you should follow His steps: “Who committed no sin, Nor was deceit found in His mouth”; who, when He was reviled, did not revile in return; when He suffered, He did not threaten, but committed Himself to Him who judges righteously;"

I Peter 2:21-23 NKJV


Encouraging read

God bless

Dora Weithers (author) from The Caribbean on April 07, 2016:

Frank, you're privileged to have the experience. Even if the good feeling was the only thing we received from forgiveness, that would be worth it. Thanks for your comment.

Dora Weithers (author) from The Caribbean on April 07, 2016:

Eric, the last statement of your career is a classic. Thanks for your valuable input.

Denise W Anderson from Bismarck, North Dakota on April 07, 2016:

This concept parallels my own experience having to walk away from my career as a School Psychologist. It took me quite a while to forgive those involved in the ending of my employment. Once I was able to do so, however, I found that there were lessons learned that I could not forget, and didn't want to forget. Because of those lessons, I am now nearly five years at my current employment. The best life lessons seem to come from the most difficult of circumstances!

Linda Crampton from British Columbia, Canada on April 07, 2016:

This is a great hub containing very important information. Thank you for sharing such valuable advice, MsDora.

Frank Atanacio from Shelton on April 07, 2016:

the positive effect in forgiveness.. yeah I can feel the good when I forgive.. and hope others can feel the good when they forgive.. what a wonderful hub MsDora as always top shelf.. :) Frank

Eric Dierker from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A. on April 07, 2016:

What a wonderful article. Timeless in it's wisdom. I think I will apply this today. Resentment is a horrible waste of the mind and soul.

Dora Weithers (author) from The Caribbean on April 07, 2016:

Devika, I have found that we can forget the hurt, and remember the good side, the lessons et cetera. Thanks for your comment.

Dora Weithers (author) from The Caribbean on April 07, 2016:

Chitrangada, nothing is more important than peace of mind. Thank you for sharing.

Devika Primić from Dubrovnik, Croatia on April 07, 2016:

Hi MsDora You shared a beautiful and thoughtful hub. I forgive easily off-course its never easy to forget. Interesting lots to think about from this hub.

Chitrangada Sharan from New Delhi, India on April 07, 2016:

What a wonderful hub with words of wisdom; everyone must read and apply.

You are so right in saying that forgiving someone means we have to move on and move ahead. We are all humans and we may do mistakes.

I am glad that I am able to do that, that is forgive and forget. Because ultimately it is for my peace of mind.

Thank you for this excellent hub!

Dora Weithers (author) from The Caribbean on April 06, 2016:

Jackie, it's a privilege to understand forgiveness as well as you do. Thank you for sharing.

Dora Weithers (author) from The Caribbean on April 06, 2016:

Thanks, Ron. I agree. Thanks for adding that emphasis on moving forward.

Dora Weithers (author) from The Caribbean on April 06, 2016:

Bill, that would be great. Still, it helps if the conscientious among us do the best they can. Thanks as always for your input.

Dora Weithers (author) from The Caribbean on April 06, 2016:

Hi Sally. That's a difficult situation when the wrong doer continues to offend; but you don't want to weary yourself by keeping score, so I suggest separating yourself without animosity and resentment. It's like watching a drunkard crossing the freeway; you have to let him go for your own safety, and you don't have to keep cursing him. When he sobers up and gets back on the sidewalk, you can choose to continue your conversation.

Jackie Lynnley from the beautiful south on April 06, 2016:

Really great subject Dora and I am so glad I learned to forgive at an early age. It really is so good for us and frees us up of stress and tensions being made and hurt by people. I think I managed it to start with putting myself in the offenders shoes as to why they acted as they did and it was so much easier. I mean someone hurt or offended them and rather than forgive they became bitter and took it out on others.

Forgiving is so much better for us than to not.


Ronald E Franklin from Mechanicsburg, PA on April 06, 2016:

These are all great points, MsDora. I especially identify with your last - the choice to move on is necessarily also the choice to forgive. Failure to forgive holds you in bondage to the past.

Bill Holland from Olympia, WA on April 06, 2016:

Such a wonderful lesson. How wonderful would life be if the majority among us practiced this? Well done, Dora!

Sally Gulbrandsen from Norfolk on April 06, 2016:

Ms Dora

Oh that word, forgiveness, such a difficult one for me! I do wonder sometimes, what happens when the wrong doer continues with his or her wrong deeds? Those words 'I forgive you' hang heavy on, such empty words which resonate whilst the perpetrator continues with his or her dastardly deeds.

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