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The Art of Forgiveness

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Forgiveness is one of the keys to having peace in your mind, heart, and soul. Through this, it will show how we care and love the person.


True Forgiveness

True forgiveness is the medicine that heals the deepest emotional wounds. It closes the door on the past and gives you grace and motivation to move forward and enjoy the life God wants you to live.

The Bible tells the story of how our relationship with God was broken by sin, and how He implemented His wonderful plan of salvation to restore that relationship. It is the story of forgiveness through Jesus Christ.
God’s Word promises that, when we confess that Jesus is Lord, and believe that God raised Him from the dead, we will be saved from the consequences of our sin! Even believers who have strayed from God’s path can have a renewed relationship with Him. When we confess our sins, He is faithful to cleanse us.

It’s possible to be forgiven and yet still feel unforgiven! When this happens, we should doubt our feelings, not our God. If you’ve trusted Christ as Savior, live boldly. The love God gives us is unconditional, bought at a great cost; and only response of love can satisfy Him.


Forgive and Be Forgiven

There are different scenarios when this has been given or accepted.

  • When You're the One Hurting

    Before you talk to the person who has hurt you, talk to God; then arrange to talk to the person one-on-one. God expects you to make the first move, even when you are the one who has been offended. Taking control of the situation reduces the damage, and keeps you from becoming bitter.
    Even if the other person is wrong, let God use you as a “paramedic” of His mercy. Tell them you want to see the relationship healed. You don’t get to choose who you’ll forgive.

  • When You're the One in Need of Forgiveness

    God is more than willing to forgive you; however, He may allow you to experience painful consequences in order to motivate you toward obedience. When your actions hurt others, you need to admit that what you did was wrong and say you’re sorry. Not only is it the right thing to do; it can actually shorten the agony and help you put the incident behind you!

  • After an Apology Has Been Given and Accepted

    Work hard to not bring up the offense again. Keeping score only works in competitive sports; it’s disastrous in relationships. Practicing true, unconditional forgiveness requires us to focus on a person’s worth, not their weaknesses. You must turn your heart away from what was, to what can be.
    Our tendency is to wonder, “Why should I forgive and forget?” Several reasons! Firstly, because God’s Word tells you to do so. Secondly, because you yourself will continue to need forgiveness. Thirdly, because you weren’t built to carry the stress that goes with resentment. You may have heard it said that resentment is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die. Our souls weren’t made to thrive under those conditions!


You Are the Owner of Your Heart

Each day, you must monitor, direct, and correct what goes on there. You can’t blame your bad attitude, resentment, and unforgiveness on others—you are responsible! When somebody offends you, it’s up to you whether you let bitterness take root. You can’t control what others do, but it’s the “inside” part—the part you can control—that God holds us accountable for. Forgiveness allows us to take back our power and not let the events embitter, limit, or destroy us.

Forgiveness also doesn’t mean the relationship always stays the same. It takes time to rebuild trust and make sure repentance is genuine. In fact, if the offense is abusive or puts you in danger, forgive, but maintain a safe distance.

The Lord says that vengeance belongs to Him. Don’t usurp His authority by trying to get even; take your hands off the situation and let Him work it out. He doesn’t want your nights filled with misery and turmoil. Why give somebody that kind of control over your life? What’s important is what happens in you, not to you. So forgive, forget, and move on!


Everyone Makes Mistakes

Not everyone learns from their mistakes. Don’t let yours go to waste! When your pur­pose is to put others first, God will help you to become more compassionate and sensitive to the feelings of others, as well as more discerning of how you’ve gotten off track in the past. Guard your words and actions by thinking about how they affect the people in your life.

Regardless of how badly or how often you have failed, God won’t give up on you. So don’t give up on yourself! Nothing you’ve done is beyond the scope of His grace. Others may give up on you, but not God. Like a child learning to walk, when you fall, get back up again.

Love is a command; forgiveness is an act of obedience. “He has given us this command: whoever loves God must also love his brother.

When we’re suffering, God seems distant and inaccessible. But He’s not. The Holy Spirit who forever abides in you is closer to you than the air you breathe. He’s equipped, willing, and able to comfort you. He will sometimes do it by reminding you of a Scripture verse, a hymn, a sermon you heard, and so on. When He does, believe what He says. Say to yourself repeatedly, “The God of all comfort lives permanently in me!”


Bible Verses

Allow me to share these verses with you all.

Romans 10:9-10

If you declare with your mouth, "Jesus is Lord", and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved. For it is with your heart that you believe and is justified, and it is with your mouth that you profess your faith and are saved.

1 John 1:9

If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness.



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