Rev. Margaret Minnicks is an ordained Bible teacher. She writes many articles that are Bible lessons.
A question often comes up about their marriage in heaven. One day a group of men came to Jesus with a specific question about marriage. They wanted to know if a woman had been married seven times on earth, which man would be her husband in heaven.
The answer Jesus gave shocked the men in the group. Perhaps you will also be shocked by His answer that is recorded in Matthew 22:30, Mark 12:23-25, and Luke 20:34-36. So, how did Jesus answer?
And Jesus said to them, “The sons of this age marry and are given in marriage, but those who are considered worthy to attain to that age and to the resurrection from the dead neither marry nor are given in marriage, for they cannot die anymore, because they are equal to angels and are sons of God, being sons of the resurrection.” (Luke 20:34-36)
People are designed to be in relationships, to love, to be loved and to belong. The first one to have an intimate relationship with is God because God created us to be in a loving relationship with Him. If we can't love our Creator, then we can't love the Created.
The highest form of a relationship on earth is the institution of marriage. Based on this, we should be in both vertical (with God) and horizontal relationships (with people).
Of all the scriptures dealing with marriage, this is probably one scripture married couples don't want to know about. They want to think they will be married to their spouse in heaven. They wonder how can heaven be without marriage.
Marriages on Earth
One of the main reasons for marriages on earth is to procreate the earth with children. Jesus said there will be no marriages in heaven because no one dies and there would be no need to increase the population by replenishing heaven as on earth.
Procreation is not the only reason there will be no marriages in heaven. There will be no reasons for sexual pleasure or being loved by only one special person in heaven.
“At the resurrection people will neither marry nor be given in marriage; they will be like the angels in heaven” (Matthew 22:30).
Marriage: The Most Intimate Union on Earth
Marriage is the most intimate of human unions on earth. Marriage was designed by God as a picture of the union between Christ and His Church. Marriage was instituted by God at creation with Adam, the first man and Eve, the first woman. However, marriage is merely a temporary image of God's relationship with His redeemed people.
There will be intimacy in heaven, but not as the marriage as you know it. According to the Book of Revelation, there will be only one marriage, and it will be between the Lamb of God and His Bride.
"Let us rejoice and exult and give Him the glory, for the marriage of the Lamb has come, and His Bride has made herself ready; it was granted her to clothe herself with fine linen, bright and pure” – for the fine linen is the righteous deeds of the saints. And the angel said to me, “Write this: Blessed are those who are invited to the marriage supper of the Lamb.” (Revelation 19:6-9)
Marriages End on Earth
Marriages end when one of the spouses dies. They will not be married to each other in heaven no matter how much they loved each other on earth. The plan God has for the formerly married and the never-married people is far more intimate and beautiful in heaven than it was on earth. It will be a perfect and everlasting union with God with absolutely no chance of a divorce, separation, or marital spats.
Married people might wonder why God would eliminate such pleasure in heaven. That's because God will replace it with something better than anyone could ever imagine. You cannot grasp a greater pleasure than to be married to the person you love on earth. You might be surprised to know the pleasure you have on earth is only a glimpse of what it will be like in heaven with God.
God wants you to know that He is not taking anything away from you. Instead, He will replace it with something far more intimate and superior than an earthly marriage.
Marriage Is Only for This Life
Marriage ends in this life. What we will experience in heaven will be so much better than anything we have ever known, even a good marriage. Therefore, we can expect something in heaven to more precious than an earthly marriage. We don't know what it will be because it will be too much for our finite minds to phantom. One thing that is known for sure is that there will be no deficits in heaven. God will give us what is better than anything we have ever had on earth.
Heaven will be an improvement over this world in every area. The pleasures of this world are only foretastes to the superior pleasures in the age to come. That's what Paul meant in 1 Corinthians 13:10, “When the perfect comes, the partial will pass away.” Paul continued, " Now I know in part; then I shall know fully, even as I have been fully known (1 Corinthians 13:9–12).
What Solomon Said
Solomon called this age “life under the sun.” He encouraged married men to "Enjoy life with the wife whom you love, all the days of your vain life that he has given you under the sun, because that is your portion in life and in your toil at which you toil under the sun" (Ecclesiastes 9:9). Perhaps if married couples knew this, they would be more loving to their spouses while they are under the sun because they won't get the chance to love each other more than anyone else in heaven.
The best human pleasures we have in this world are only suited for “life under the sun." That means there are human pleasures that are reserved only while we live and breathe on earth. There is no sun in heaven. Therefore, what happens under the sun while here on earth will not happen in heaven. Besides, the pleasures known by the natural body in this age are inferior to the pleasures of the spiritual body. That's because the pleasures on this earth are only foretastes, preludes, and pointers and signs of what is to come. When the perfect comes, those things pass away.
Rejoice Because No Marriages Will Be in Heaven
There are reasons that marriages will end when people die and go to heaven. Remember, the marriage vow includes the words "till death do us part."
- Marriages will end because its procreating purpose is not needed in the resurrection (Luke 20:35–36).
- Marriage ends because all its pleasures are temporary and preludes to something that is so much better than the human heart can imagine (1 Corinthians 2:9).
- Marriage ends so that the married and the unmarried will be equal to have the fullness of joy and pleasures forevermore (Psalm 16:11).
- While marriage is great on the earth, it will be no more because it isn't strong enough to be part of God's eternal plan.
- Marriage is an earthly gift from God to be entered into only while on this earth. You cannot take your marriage into heaven even though there is a myth that says you can.
- People won't be married in heaven because it would signify a division that distinguishes married people from single people who never got married. Everyone will be equal in heaven with no first ladies, prom kings, prom queens, and beauty pageant winners. Everyone will be equal in the sight of God. God will have the same intimacy with everyone.
- Marriages end with death and will not continue in heaven because heaven is an improvement over everything on this earth, including marriage which is just a foretaste of what God has in store for all of His redeemed.
- Marriage will not be missed in heaven because the intimacy with God will be so enriched that there will not be room for anything else.
God wants people to rejoice because there will no longer be only a prelude or a foretaste. It will be “What no eye has seen, nor ear heard, nor the heart of man imagined, God has prepared for those who love him” (1 Corinthians 2:9).
- No Birthdays in Heaven
Those who have died can be honored and given tributes by you on earth, but there are no birthdays in heaven.