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How to Handle Personal Attacks

Rev. Margaret Minnicks is an ordained Bible teacher. She writes about spirituality as well as many other topics.

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No one sets out to be attacked by words and deeds from people in their inner circle, family members, co-workers, and people in their own church. However, it happens all the time. That's because we live in a world where some people think putting others down will elevate them. That is so unfair.

Mistreating others goes against everything that is in the Bible. God wants people to be righteous and fair to His people just as He is. It grieves God when His people are mistreated because that is not the reason He created them.

Until our dying day and even after, there will always be some people who misunderstand us and just don’t like us even if we have done nothing to deserve the evil way they treat us.

Since we are often criticized, judged unfairly, attacked, and rumored about, we want to retaliate and do the same things to the people who are doing those things to us. However, the Bible says not to do that. There is something more effective. So, what should we do?

Let God Be Your Defender

In the natural, our first reaction is to defend ourselves by attacking back and fighting fire with fire. We want to criticize back. We want to insult back. We want to throw stone for stone. That is a waste of time and energy because those methods will never work. However, there is something you can do.

You can depend on God to defend you rather than trying to defend yourself. God's defense methods are so much better than yours.

“I depend on God alone; I put my hope in him. He alone protects and saves me; he is my defender, and I shall never be defeated. My salvation and honor depend on God; he is my strong protector; he is my shelter” (Psalm 62:5-7 GNT).

Do What Jesus Did

Be like Jesus and do what He did when He was often attacked. He did absolutely nothing when He was falsely accused, lied about, and unfairly criticized. Our flesh might want to do or say something to our accusers, but Jesus' way is the best way.

“When [Jesus] was insulted, he did not answer back with an insult; when he suffered, he did not threaten, but placed his hopes in God, the righteous Judge” (1 Peter 2:23 GNT).

Do What David Did

You might say you can't do what Jesus did because He is both divine and human, and what He did came much easier for Him than it will be for you. David is another example in the Bible who was human like you.

King David was criticized and attacked for most of his entire life. People and even one of his own sons wanted to kill him because they were jealous of him. Even so, David maintained his relationship with God and said this:

“I depend on God alone; I put my hope in him. He alone protects and saves me; he is my defender, and I shall never be defeated. My salvation and honor depend on God; he is my strong protector; he is my shelter” (Psalm 62:5-7 GNT).

People are going to be jealous of your success like they were of David's success. People will attack you for many other reasons. People might attack you for no reason at all. Be like David and let God be your strong protector, your Savior, your defender, and your shelter.

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Don't waste time and energy on trying to retaliate against those who attack you. You will never get any results that way. God doesn't want us to stoop to our attackers' level. If so, we are no better than they are. Be like Jesus and David by doing or saying nothing at all.

Something else to know is that when people attack you, it says more about their character than about you and your character.

Get in the habit of leaning on God as your defender in the midst of attacks. Also, get in the habit of refraining from retaliating against those who hurt you with their words and deeds even though in the flesh you have a desire to do to them exactly what they do to you.

Let God be your defender. He can do a better job at it than you can.

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