Rev. Margaret Minnicks is an ordained Bible teacher. She writes many articles that are Bible lessons.
We might have all experienced a broken heart. Even though the causes might have been different, the hurt was the same. There are many causes of a broken heart, such as grief, disappointment, fear, shame, rejection, or ridicule.
The least expected people can break your heart. Your loved ones such as family and friends can break your heart. At times they do it unintentionally. However, the hurt is still the same.
It is good to know that God cares about our hurts and pain. The good news is that God has a remedy for our broken hearts.
Remedy for a Broken Heart
God knows about our hurts. He understands our hurts. God is with us when we are hurting. He hurts and weeps with us. Actually, it is in our pain that God is closest to us, whether we realize it or not.
“The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit” (Psalm 34:18).
Since God has a remedy for a broken heart, you might wonder why He doesn't prevent it from happening in the first place. Do know that God does not make you hurt, but He does allow it to happen.
Below are four reasons God allows heartbreaks.
1. To Teach a Spiritual Truth
It is possible that God allows your heart to be broken to show you some things. The main thing God wants to show you is that He works all things for good “for those who love Him,” according to Romans 8:28. That simply means God can turn bad things that hurt into good things for those who love him.
God has not left us when we are hurting. God is right there with us. He will heal our aching hearts while He is getting us to learn a permanent spiritual truth that was caused by temporary circumstances. In other words, our hurt is a down payment on that truth.
So, what is the truth that God wants us to learn? The first three words of Romans 8:28 are "And we know." That scripture is not for everyone who reads it in the Bible. It is only for those who know "that for those who love God all things work together for good, for those who are called according to his purpose.”
2. To Expose an Idol in Your Life
This reason will help those who have been hurt by a broken relationship. God allows you to be hurt rather than allowing you to continue in a relationship that is bad for you.
Unfortunately, some people stay in bad relationships they know are bad for them. They stay and make the other person an idol rather than God. When people choose to love something more than God, the Lord will show them signs that the relationship is bad. A broken heart is a big sign that people should pay attention to.
God doesn't want His children hurting just as an earthly father doesn't want his children hurting. Therefore, God allows a temporary broken heart to prevent greater hurts in the future.
3. To Teach You to Listen to Warnings
God allows our hearts to be broken to teach us to listen to His warnings. Warnings are listed throughout the Bible. Every "Do Not" in the Bible is a warning that comes with consequences.
You can only ignore God’s warnings so long before He lets you learn the lesson the hard way. It is always best to listen to God's warnings and heed them.
4. To Overrule Your Own Desire
You might think you know what is right, just, and perfect for you. While you fail in that area, God knows what is right, just, and perfect for you. God allows your heart to be broken so He can overrule your desire. Therefore, He will step in and give you better things that will not break your heart.
God alone knows the future and what is best for you. God can look ahead and see what we cannot see. So God in His gentle kindness often says “no” to things we want now because he knows in the future we won’t feel the same way.
When you remain faithful to God after a relationship heartbreak, oftentimes God will give you an even better relationship. You will then realize why God said no concerning someone you thought you wanted. You will understand that God let your heart get broken then because He wanted to give your heart to someone completely different later.
We can still trust that God’s ways are better than our ways because He knows things that we don’t know. As Isaiah 55:8-9 teaches us:
For my thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways my ways, declares the Lord. For as the heavens are higher than the earth, so are my ways higher than your ways and my thoughts than your thoughts.”