MsDora, a former teacher and Christian counselor, presents practical Scriptural principles for joyful everyday living.
And he [Esau] . . . said, “Who are these with you?” So he [Jacob] said, “The children whom God has graciously given your servant.” ―Genesis 33:5 (NKJV
Esau had threatened to kill Jacob, his younger twin, for stealing his birthright―the status of leadership in the family. Jacob ran away from home. Twenty years later, he returned with thirteen children. When Esau saw them and asked who they were, it would have been enough for Jacob to say, “They are my children.”
But, according to the Bible Commentaries, Jacob was serving notice to his brother that because God had given him the children, he was obligated to protect them. He was warning Esau that if hurting the children was part of his revenge plan, he should expect a fight. The children were his most precious assets—assets God had chosen for him.
What if we accept our children as our most precious gifts from God? Would we chase the difficult one away from home, telling him that he is more than we can handle? Or would we tell him that the God who gave him to us, will also give us the wisdom to love and train him effectively? If we chose to cooperate with God for our child's salvation we would mature in Christian graces like love, patience and self-control.
It is tempting to brag about the dominant genes that we passed on to the smart child, to affirm him at the expense of the less capable children. Yet, God deserves the credit for giving us a talented child, who is full of potential and easy to love.
Do we remember that God also gave us the adult child who chose the wrong path and ended up broke or in prison? It is our responsibility to intercede for him as long as we live, to offer practical help as a token of unconditional love. Going forward, let's promote better parent-child relationships by accepting the reality that each child is God’s gifts to us.
Prayer: Heavenly Father, thank You especially for the children You have given us. Please teach us how to love them, so that they will always enjoy their relationship with You and with us. In Jesus’ name. Amen.
Ten Quotes About Loving Our Children
- “If I had my life to live over... Instead of wishing away nine months of pregnancy and complaining about the shadow over my feet, I'd have cherished every minute of it and realized that the wonderment growing inside me was to be my only chance in life to assist God in a miracle.” ―Erma Bombeck
- “Give the children love, more love and still more love – and the common sense will come by itself.” ―Astrid Lindgren
- “Accept the children the way we accept trees—with gratitude, because they are a blessing . . . You don’t expect trees to change, you love them as they are.” ―Isabel Allende
- “Your kids require you most of all to love them for who they are, not to spend your whole time trying to correct them.” ―Bill Ayers
- “I don't remember who said this, but there really are places in the heart you don't even know exist until you love a child.” ―Anne Lamott
- “I'm inspired by my own children, how full they make my heart. They make me want to work to make the world a little bit better. And they make me want to be a better man.” ―Barack Obama
- “The best thing a father can do for his children is to love their mother.” ―John Wooden
- “Show love to your children. You know you love them, but make certain they know it as well. . . Call upon our Heavenly Father for help as you care for their needs each day . . . You need more than your own wisdom in rearing them.” ―Thomas S. Monson
- “My plea...is a plea to save the children. Too many of them walk with pain and fear, in loneliness and despair. . . Every home, regardless of the cost of the house, can provide an environment of love which will be an environment of salvation.” ―Gordon B. Hinckley
- “Children are gifts. They are not ours for the breaking. They are ours for the making.” ―Dan Pearce
More Sundown Devotionals
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Every healthy heart longs for an embrace, none more meaningful than when the Lord holds us close. This poem aims to appreciate His love, complete with His embrace, in various episodes of our lives.
- Sundown Devotional: Searching Takes Time
One quick search will not yield all we need or all we can get to improve our lives. It takes time. Is the intensity of our desire to find reflected in the intensity of our search?
- Sundown Devotional: Trust and Commitment
Can we respond with a bold “Yes” that we are wholly committed Christians, no matter the consequence? It would be foolish to say that we are, if we’re not. And if we’re not, are we willing to be?
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