The Challenges of Raising Children Biblically
Raising children by biblical principles isn't an easy task. The patterns of this world often contraindicate this way of parenting.
John 15:12 (KJV) This is my commandment, That ye love one another, as I have loved you.
We are made in Christ's image therefore, we should reflect His characteristics. There are modern trends that don't agree with what the bible says. We emphasize the importance of treating others with love and respect regardless of their lifestyle choice. We also encourage our children not to join cliques. Most groups like this exclude others.
Isaiah 33:15 (KJV) He that walketh righteously, and speaketh uprightly; he that despiseth the gain of oppressions, that shaketh his hands from holding of bribes, that stoppeth his ears from hearing of blood, and shutteth his eyes from seeing evil;
We have taught our children to exercise caution when it comes to what they listen to and what they watch. The phrase "you are what you eat" is similar to the phrase "you are a product of your environment." Some television programs, social media, and music glamorize negative behaviors such as violence, fornication, or rebellion. We must guard what we allow into our spirits.
1 Timothy 2:9-2:10 (KJV) In like manner also, that women adorn themselves in modest apparel, with shamefacedness and sobriety; not with broided hair, or gold, or pearls, or costly array; But (which becometh women professing godliness) with good works.
We discourage our children from wearing articles of clothing that may be eye-pleasing to the opposite gender, even if it is in style.
Titis 3:1 (ISV) Remind believers to submit to rulers and authorities, to be obedient, and to be ready to do any honorable kind of work.
How we treat others reflects our character. It is also important to obey our leaders and authority to maintain order in our society.
These are values that do not always match the morals of others. We stand out from the crowd when our behavior doesn't reflect those around us.
Why fit in when you were born to stand out!?
We have learned that people target those that are different from them. Our children have been called names, left out of group events, and talked about.
It's frustrating for both parents and children. When our children stand firm in their values and their faith, it often leaves them standing alone.
It's Challenging Standing Alone
There are times when our children want to retaliate in a negative manner, rather than out of love. Sometimes our children want to wear the latest fashions. They feel rejected when their name is left off of the guest list and it makes them angry when someone talks about them.
Standing out isn't always easy.
Those who stand for nothing fall for anything.
What Can You Do To Help Your Child?
- Be the example that you want to see in your children. (If you want your child to respect others, do so yourself. If you expect them to dress appropriately, do so yourself.)
- Teach your children to take their problems to God. Pray with them. 1 Peter 5:7 (KJV) Casting all your care upon him; for he careth for you.
- Be available. Appoint a time to listen and talk with your children. (Every night we turn off all distractions. We have a family dinner together and talk. Choose a time that works for your family.)
- Remind your children Jesus was also rejected. It does not matter what other people think of them. What matters is what Christ thinks of them. He loves and accepts them. Their true identity is found in Christ. Psalm 139:14 (NIV) I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well.
- Do something as a family. Watch a movie or have host a family game night.
- Have a slumber party or a social gathering of your own.
- Join groups or clubs. Local YMCAs, churches, and libraries often hold events.
Being mistreated and left out is difficult at times. Stand firm on the values that are important to you and your family. Live in a way that is pleasing to God. Don't allow the ways of the world to contradict your beliefs.
Do you think children who are different from others are bullied more often?
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