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But I'm Just A Mom...

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You did that!!??

We women are emotional beings are we not? Whether you are a working mom or a stay-at-home, a home schooling mom or a send your kids to school mom, many of us share something in common (besides the obvious of being moms). We are all women and very often overthink things, starting with our purpose in this crazy and wonderful life.

A little while ago I was going through a bunch of boxes that are stored in our closets (you now those boxes that sit there forever, untouched, but you can't throw away...ya, one of those) and my kids pulled out a newspaper clipping from when I was in my younger years. They asked me what it was about and I proceeded to tell them that it was covering a fundraiser that I had organized. You should have seen the look I got! To say they were surprised would be an understatement. They could not believe it and continued to ask, "You did that!" I laughed it off but deep down, the fact that they could not believe that their mother was capable of doing something like that stung a bit.

Have you had a moment like that? A moment that reminds you that at one point in time your life looked much different and your accomplishments were measured differently.

That evening I reflected on what had happened that day and the feelings that my children's comments had brought and I came to the conclusion that their comments had stung because it made me feel as though I wasn't being seen as anything other than "just mom".

What does God say about us 'just moms'...

I talked to my husband about what I was feeling and how somehow being 'just mom', something I love and wouldn't have any other way, also stung because it made me feel as though there was no set purpose. We chatted about it and eventually it lead to what God says about moms. Here are three times that God spoke lovingly about us moms:

"She is clothed with strength and dignity, she can laugh at days to come." Proverbs 31:25

"Her children rise up and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praises her: 'Many women have done excellently, but you surpass them all'." Proverbs 31:25-29

"Honor her for all that her hands have done, and let her works bring her praise at the city gate." Proverbs 31:31

You see, in God's eyes you do have purpose, a very important one at that. Even though our job is often thankless and those to do lists only seem to get longer with nothing being checked off, your purpose, if nothing else, is raising Godly men and women. You my friend, are the one that holds all the pieces of your family together, the glue you can say.

The Glue

Those boxes that I just talked about...I am a box checker! Anyone know what I mean?? Making lists and checking boxes has always been something that gets me going and gives me a sense of purpose and achievement. Well, enter motherhood and those lists, boxes and lack of ability to check them all off can quickly make me go from 'organized' and 'have purpose or goals' to 'hopeless' and 'unable to meet the goals I set out'. How do I change that (and don't get me wrong it isn't easy and I still very often get into a rut about it)? Rather than focusing on ticking off all the boxes, I look at my list as something that keeps track of my to-dos in an organized way. Every day I will pick one or two things off that list and focus on doing those, making sure that what I pick is realistic and I that am not setting myself up for failure. Most importantly, I remind myself that my children are my priority and my purpose. Making sure I raise them up in a loving and caring home, teaching them all the values they need, to be children of God, trumps the accomplishment I feel when I check off my boxes.

See you are the glue. The glue that holds their little hearts together when something upsets them. The glue that fixes the boo-boos when they get hurt. The glue that makes sure their sports clothes are washed so they can go have fun. The glue that makes meals to nourish the little bodies and provides quality family dinners around the table. Although it may seem as though your are not there, not seen, or your work is not appreciated because they only come to you when they need something, remember, they come to you when they need something. You are their constant and you do have a purpose!

We as mothers question so much of what we do and very often carry around the mom guilt, but of all the things to worry about or question, do not question your purpose or your worth for that matter. When you get down in the rut of feeling all the feels just remember, God himself saw you, praised you, and put you right where He wanted you to fulfill the purpose the He has set out for you. He trusted you with His children, so that you may teach them and guide them in His ways. He trusted you because He knows your ability and your worth.

You are enough, you are enough and you have a purpose so important that God himself picked you!!

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