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In order to do God's will, we must control our tongues and fashion our speech or the way we talk about each other to be in alignment with the teachings of Jesus Christ. With today's society there is a hardness or a meanness out there that must be defeated first by the way we control our words and the things we say. The United States has been at war for almost twenty years with mass shootings increasing along with violent crimes. This type of cruelty and hardness of today's society is like a hardness of bones. The bones can be calcified or hardened by speaking evil or what Ancient Hebrew referred to as "Lashon Hara" which translates as "Evil Speech". This includes gossip, slandering someone, or saying words that wound. The Bible says, "You shall not go up and down as a slanderer among your people."-Leviticus 19:16
With the divisive election that came within the past few years how many people are guilty of saying something that has offended someone? With politics, if you state your beliefs and they contradict someone else's views or beliefs, the person may perceive what was said as a personal attack on them even though that was not how it was intended. The Bible says, "With patience a soft tongue will break a bone."- Proverbs 25:15
What this verse is actually saying is that gentle speech and using the tongue for good have the ability to overcome obstacles which are like bones or the hardness of society. In the verse, the term breaking is actually meaning persuading or stopping quarreling and arguing. How many obstacles are overcome by harsh speech or putting others down? The quarrel or argument is seen as something as strong as bones, or in reference to "hardness".
Proverbs 14:29 states, "Gentleness and kindness overcome the most powerful and obstinate." This proposes the idea that forbearance and patience overcome succumbing to vengeance, wrath, vindictiveness, and anger. There is also a German Proverb that says, "Patience is stronger than a diamond" or that patience breaks iron. While using the tongue for evil and speaking harshly causes long suffering, embitters, and causes pain along with wrath, using the tongue for good breaks the hardness of human nature.
Often you see people who claim they are religious and yet choose not to practice the Christian faith. "If anyone thinks he is religious and does not bridle his tongue but deceives his heart, this person's religion is worthless."-James 1:26. This basically means that Christians are supposed to stay away from gossip, fowl words, putting others down, and other things that cause strife and evil. To speak words that destroy is of the Devil. But, to speak words that encourage, protect, heal, and build other people up is of God. It is also our Christian duty to ask God for help with trying to control our tongues. All people are made in the likeness of God including our enemies.
For every kind of beast and bird of reptile and sea creature, can be tamed and has been tamed by mankind, but no human being can tame the tongue. It is a restless evil, full of deadly poison. With it we bless the Lord and Father, and with it we curse people who are made in the likeness of God."
— James 3:7-9
Most people have enemies or people they have encountered or been hurt by. Some may want revenge or an "eye for an eye". However, the Bible says not to do this. Even our enemies were made in the likeness of God and his teachings. The Bible actually says, "A soft answer turns away wrath but a harsh word stirs up anger."-Proverbs 15:19
So how do we stop quarreling and break the hardness of society? We do this by controlling our tongues and what we say. In order to break the hardness of nature we have to look towards the kingdom of God and not earthly things. We have to align our hearts with God and not take refuge with who is in our political office at the time being, or whether or not whatever status we have here on Earth is good or not, whether or not we are rich or poor. Yet, instead we are to look for the Kingdom of God and how we stand in His eyes and obey His teachings. By doing so we are creating a refuge in God. The Ancient Hebrew term for this was "Chasah" which is a place of protection from distress, pain, danger, and hurt. One of the main ways we do this is by controlling our speech and making sure we are saying things God would want us to.