Ruby writes from the Philippines. She teaches communication subjects in HEI. She enjoys gardening, travelling, and learning new things.
Communication issues are normal in all aspects of life. Some of these communication problems destroy precious relationships. They tear down friendships, families, and organisations. That is why, whether it is in the home, in church or at work, good communication is necessary. Thus, learning and applying these biblical principles below outlined for us by God, are helpful for any organisation or person who desires success in any form or type of communication. Let's spend time to peruse these valuable principles.
Use communication to build up those who hear.
Ephesians 4:29(KJV) states, "Let no corrupt communication proceed out of your mouth, but that which is good to the use of edifying, that it may minister grace unto the hearers."
This verse strikes a sharp note for me. This is because each time I speak, what normally comes from my mouth does not always edify or build up. This text then reminds me that every time I open my mouth, I need to be conscious of what comes out of my mouth. It tells me that I must use my speech to bless those who are listening to me. It gives me the idea that I have the responsibility to inspire my audience or those I am talking to. Whether they are in front of me, or anywhere I can reach them with my communication. This boils down to that one single point, Communication is to be used to build up people and not destroy them. This is a very basic function of communication, a foundational principle.
Speak the right words at the right time.
Proverbs 25:11(KJV), goes "A word fitly spoken is like apples of gold in pictures of silver."
People may have the right words to speak. But oftentimes, they don't have the right time. A fitting speech so to speak, is done with the right words and the right time. Sometimes when I speak, I often have regrets afterwards. This happens when at times I speak at the wrong time although I have the right words. Or at times,I have the right time, but I have the wrong words. The verse simply reminds me that I must be concerned that I have the right words and the right time each time I speak. Leilah Gifty Akita comments, "The right word said at the right time is sacred utterance."
Listen first before responding.
Proverbs 18:13(KJV) says, "He that answereth a matter before he heareth it, it is folly and shame unto him."
I find this verse is very straightforward. Anyone who replies before listening is considered foolish and shameful. That is how King Solomon calls those people. You see, communication is a two-way process. Whenever someone speaks, the other party is expected to listen. Although most people love to talk than listen, listening is a fundamental principle in communication. I've learned a couple ended up in divorce due to the fact that, none of them cared to listen. But as I thought about it, that divorce could have been prevented by just listening to each other.
Carefulness in speaking saves anyone from troubles.
Proverbs 13:3(KJV) affirms, "He that keepeth his mouth keepeth his life: but he that openeth wide his lips shall have destruction."
Guarding one's mouth when speaking is very vital in all types of communications. This helps me to reflect on my own speech and even the daily conversations I make with anyone. You see, often troubles arise among people from careless speech and unguarded mouth. Many quarrels in organisations or groups, stem from gossip, from saying words inappropriately.
The more words we say, the more mistakes we make.
Proverbs 10:19(KJV) reads, "In the multitude of words there wanteth not sin: but he that refraineth his lips is wise."
To me this verse is a universal declaration. It speaks of a stark reality in life. When we have many words, we have more errors. Most people I observed are so verbous when they speak. They use a lot of words in their speeches, and often without much sense. But this text tells me to slow down with my words. It whispers to me like, "Have, less and few words please. Yes, few but sensible words. The less words you use in your speech, the better." This way, we can avoid making more mistakes.
It is a fact that challenges of communication come to all people everyday in all walks of life. However, practising these biblical principles of communication among families, groups, and organisations, could avoid many troubles. When we use these principles, more family problems could be prevented. There would be more organisational issues that could be solved. And more breakups among various types of relationships could be lessened or stopped. Ellen White asserts, "Speech is one of the great gifts of God. It is the means by which the thoughts of the heart are communicated. It is with the tongue that we offer prayer and praise to God. With the tongue we convince and persuade. With the tongue we comfort and bless, soothing the bruised, wounded soul. With the tongue we may make known the wonders of the grace of God. With the tongue also we may utter perverse things, speaking words that sting like an adder."
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