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Three Poems: Romancing, Reminiscing, and Reflecting on a Relationship

Updated on September 23, 2016
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Glenn Stok is an award-winning author who shares inspiration with a vision learned from personal experience and studies of social behavior.

Introduction


After several attempts at working on a relationship with the intent of making it last, and to be the last, there were certain things that stood in the way.

Below are three poems, expressing three stages of a failed relationship.

The first poem is about the revival of a prior relationship as our paths once again crossed. Synchronicity brought us back together, if only for a short time, to grow closer together until the final departure.

The second poem evaluates the challenging relationship as it ends.

When we are deeply involved it’s difficult to see the forest for the trees, as the saying goes. However, once we are on the outside looking in, the mistakes become clear.

Finally, the third poem reviews the mistakes with the clarity of being alone once again. I describe how we were just working on the outer periphery of the relationship without concentrating on its inner core.


Synchronicity Marks a Revival

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After a breakup for reasons unclear

Our paths once again cross and I see my dear.

It was unexpected with no thought involved.

But it opened communication for problems to be solved.

She told me she was leaving in a week to visit her family.

Without thinking I offered a ride to the airport merrily.

We both agreed to enjoy the week before her departure

With no heavy discussion and just some nurture.

We agreed that we’d talk a month later upon her return.

So we went with the flow and discovered much to learn.

We got to know each other more than before.

It's surely a feeling that may endure.


Only the Present Survives

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Unsure at first, then feelings develop

Craving for more and caring envelops

Attentive to her delicate cues although she may not have known

Accepting all differences and desiring a future sealed in stone

But she found one thing disparaging

and no longer was acknowledging

With futile team effort she wanted to be freed

Recognizing challenges and appreciating her need

Set free when requested only because of love

What more can I give with no sign from above

The past now cut off, leaving only fond memories

The future cut off too, without further discoveries

Only the present remains,

Heartbroken


The Essential Necessity: Trust

Once we're on the outside looking back in, the mistakes become clear.
Once we're on the outside looking back in, the mistakes become clear. | Source


What are we doing with this relationship?

Are we just here for the companionship?


Concentrating only on the periphery

leaves us eventually feeling jittery.


We haven’t focused on its inner core

although we’ve had a great rapport.


By avoiding what really mattered

we came to a state of feeling battered.


We missed out on developing a true experience

and bringing our relationship to actual deliverance.


If only we were able

to make our feelings stable


Knowing and understanding one another completely

would’ve helped discover mutual needs so sweetly.


Trust in the process

could’ve bound our hearts regardless.


This, I feel, is necessary to create a bond throughout

that cannot be broken by fear or by doubt.


A Meaningful Quote


This leaves me thinking of something Isaac Asimov said in his book Fantastic Voyage II: Destination Brain (1987):


“In life, unlike chess, the game continues after checkmate.”

— Isaac Asimov

© 2016 Glenn Stok

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      Tim Mitchell 12 months ago from Escondido, CA

      Thanks for sharing Glenn. I 'feel' and see wisdom . . .

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      Mary Wickison 12 months ago from Brazil

      I think in relationships there is always one party who believes it could still work out, but if one person isn't happy, a relationship can never survive.

      Your poems are ones which most can relate to as many of us have experienced the same .

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      Glenn Stok 12 months ago from Long Island, NY

      tsmog - Thanks Tim. I guess wisdom comes with time. For some it just takes longer, requiring more heartaches to learn from.

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      Glenn Stok 12 months ago from Long Island, NY

      Blond Logic - You're right Mary. In addition, if one person isn't happy and the other loves her, he is willing to let her go since her happiness is the most important. Problem is, she later changes her mind. But without anything being any different it would only repeat the same pattern.

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      Kaili Bisson 12 months ago from Canada

      Well done. I especially like the first one, as it is full of hope :)

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      Glenn Stok 12 months ago from Long Island, NY

      Kaili Bisson - The first poem was full of hope because it was a precursor to the second one. I guess all relationships begin with hope.

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      Dora Isaac Weithers 12 months ago from The Caribbean

      In such a situation, the "fond memories" will have to become agents of comfort, and sadness doesn't have to last forever. Grief may turn to gladness after a while.

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      RTalloni 12 months ago from the short journey

      These poems on unrequited love remind of a folk song or ballad. With continuing verses I imagine that you could turn them into one!

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      Glenn Stok 12 months ago from Long Island, NY

      MsDora - Absolutely! Time heals all wounds, as the saying goes.

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      Glenn Stok 12 months ago from Long Island, NY

      RTalloni - What a great suggestion! I actually did that once, making a verse I wrote into a song by creating a melody to go with it. You reminded me of that. I'll have to try it with these poems to see what I can make of it. All I would need is contact with a professional singer who could take my words and melody and add an instrumental to put it to song. Anyone interested?

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      FlourishAnyway 12 months ago from USA

      Break ups are difficult, and men often take them more worse than women. Especially when you don't understand why, it's hard. I'm sorry for your heartbreak.

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      Glenn Stok 12 months ago from Long Island, NY

      FlourishAnyway - Thanks for your kind words.

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      Thelma Alberts 12 months ago from Germany

      Beautiful! It´s hard to have an ending relationship. Thanks for sharing these awesome poetry.

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      Glenn Stok 12 months ago from Long Island, NY

      Thelma Alberts - Thanks Thelma.

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