Three Poems: Romancing, Reminiscing, and Reflecting on a Relationship
After several attempts at working on a relationship with the intent of making it last, and to be the last, there were certain things that stood in the way.
Below are three poems, expressing three stages of a failed relationship.
The first poem is about the revival of a prior relationship as our paths once again crossed. Synchronicity brought us back together, if only for a short time, to grow closer together until the final departure.
The second poem evaluates the challenging relationship as it ends.
When we are deeply involved it’s difficult to see the forest for the trees, as the saying goes. However, once we are on the outside looking in, the mistakes become clear.
Finally, the third poem reviews the mistakes with the clarity of being alone once again. I describe how we were just working on the outer periphery of the relationship without concentrating on its inner core.
Synchronicity Marks a Revival
After a breakup for reasons unclear
Our paths once again cross and I see my dear.
It was unexpected with no thought involved.
But it opened communication for problems to be solved.
She told me she was leaving in a week to visit her family.
Without thinking I offered a ride to the airport merrily.
We both agreed to enjoy the week before her departure
With no heavy discussion and just some nurture.
We agreed that we’d talk a month later upon her return.
So we went with the flow and discovered much to learn.
We got to know each other more than before.
It's surely a feeling that may endure.
Only the Present Survives
Unsure at first, then feelings develop
Craving for more and caring envelops
Attentive to her delicate cues although she may not have known
Accepting all differences and desiring a future sealed in stone
But she found one thing disparaging
and no longer was acknowledging
With futile team effort she wanted to be freed
Recognizing challenges and appreciating her need
Set free when requested only because of love
What more can I give with no sign from above
The past now cut off, leaving only fond memories
The future cut off too, without further discoveries
Only the present remains,
The Essential Necessity: Trust
What are we doing with this relationship?
Are we just here for the companionship?
Concentrating only on the periphery
leaves us eventually feeling jittery.
We haven’t focused on its inner core
although we’ve had a great rapport.
By avoiding what really mattered
we came to a state of feeling battered.
We missed out on developing a true experience
and bringing our relationship to actual deliverance.
If only we were able
to make our feelings stable
Knowing and understanding one another completely
would’ve helped discover mutual needs so sweetly.
Trust in the process
could’ve bound our hearts regardless.
This, I feel, is necessary to create a bond throughout
that cannot be broken by fear or by doubt.
A Meaningful Quote
This leaves me thinking of something Isaac Asimov said in his book Fantastic Voyage II: Destination Brain (1987):
“In life, unlike chess, the game continues after checkmate.”— Isaac Asimov
© 2016 Glenn Stok