The Heartbreak of Verbal Abuse ~ A Poem

When Theresa writes poetry, the inspiration comes from her or her family's true life experiences, which results in dramatic poetry.

Song of Solomon 4:7

All beautiful you are, my darling, there is no flaw in you."

God sees you as a masterpiece, as you are made in His image!

Dedicated to all the Beautiful Women in the World, Who Have Been Told Otherwise

You gave him your heart at a very young age

Now, from jaded eyes, sadness emanates

Grapples, does your scarred mind with its

Constant companion . . .

The unanswered question of WHY, penetrates

Remembering back to the days of your youth

Running into the arms of your future full of hope

Oh, yes, he was the answer to all of your dreams

Dejected, now each day you are attempting to cope

This day will be no different than any other day

You just knew he was the one who could set your heart free

Yet through it all, your heart remains loving and tender

Despite, hidden deep within, a desire to one day just flee

Striving ever harder in an attempt to please

In hopes of dispelling the harshness of such vile speech

Still nothing you could ever do will make him happy

As the words attach to your soul like a blood-sucking leech

Held hostage by his words which are so demeaning

Despondent, your heart conflicts with what your mind knows so well

While he is enjoying every minute of your life full of torment

Forlorn, you will rise yet again to another day of pure living hell

Working tirelessly to help provide for your family

At times when your face may reflect just a little hint of joy

This day is no different than any other day

Soon, at you, he spews words that kill and destroy

Sacrificing for your children, whom you do so adore

Still devoted are you, a faithful mother and wife

And through all of this, your heart remains loving

Surviving this dismal existence full of unrelenting strife

Despite all, your heart attempts to continue to sing

So what, you wonder, is the reason behind such disdain?

Your loving heart aches each and every waking moment

Why must he cause you a lifetime of pain?

You are so very strong to have held on this long

It is past time to rise above this and set your heart free

Echoing, endless echoing, are his choice of words to wound

Revelation . . . this is not living life, nor who you are meant to be

Once unveiled eyes reveal this is anything but love

Daring to escape and the hope it creates

You gave him your heart at a very young age

Now, from jaded eyes, sadness emanates

POLL

Scripture on the Tongue

An evil man is trapped by his sinful talk, but a righteous man escapes trouble. Proverbs 12:13

From the fruit of his lips a man enjoys good things, but the unfaithful have a craving for violence. Proverbs 13:2

National Coalition Against Domestic Violence Statistics

* One in every four women will experience domestic violence in her lifetime.

* An estimated 1.3 million women are victims of physical assault by an intimate partner each year.

* 85% of domestic violence victims are women.

*Historically, females have been most often victimized by someone they knew.

* Females who are 20-24 years of age are at the greatest risk of nonfatal intimate partner violence.

* Most cases of domestic violence are never reported to the police.

Reference: National Coalition Against Domestic Violence

A Glimpse of the Love of God . . .

Beloved One,

My love for you is totally safe

My love is free for the taking

My love is overflowing in abundance

My love for you may be taken without question

My love does not diminish in its taste

My love is pure and will never sour

My love for you produces no ill effects

My love has healing properties

My love gives you strength

My love for you is pure joy

My love exhilarates the soul

My love, you are . . . my love

Love God

Beautiful Quotes of Truth from Scripture

I praise You because I am fearfully and wonderfully made, You're wonderful, I know that full well.

Psalm 139:14

For the Lord sees not as man sees: man looks on the outward appearance, but the Lord looks on the heart."

Proverbs 18:21

God Can Change the Hearts of Men

I just wanted to tell you all you're beautiful and that I love you,

and that no matter who you are, what you do, no matter what you believe

and no matter what you have done, God loves you too.

I love to pray daily for myself Psalm 51: 10-12,

Create in me a clean heart, O' God; and renew a right spirit within me. Take not your Holy Spirit from me, but restore unto me, the joy of your salvation to sustain me."

© 2013 Faith Reaper

Comments

Faith Reaper (author) from southern USA on October 30, 2019:

Aw, thank you, Shan ... see there, you are sweet. I’m happy to see two new comments, plus your comment, on this hub, especially being it was published a long time ago, but I see that it’s on the new site, LetterPile, now. Maybe that’s why there are new readers. I scrolled down all the comments to see if you had maybe commented six years ago, but I didn’t see one from you, but I’m glad you found it now.

Shannon Henry from Texas on October 30, 2019:

I guess I've never seen this beautiful message of yours. it came up in my feed today, though. You know, you're often calling me sweet, but I'm here to tell you that I've got a rather saucy side, too. You, on the other hand, always seem to know what to say and when to say it. I've no doubt that this hub of yours is relatable to far too many, yet here you are to encourage and share God's love.

Faith Reaper (author) from southern USA on October 30, 2019:

Hi Lora,

Thank you for your most generous and insightful comment here. Yes, unfortunately this scenario seems to play out far too often where women fall victim to such abuse at the hands of a loved one, and do not know what to do or where to turn. The most important thing is that they leave the toxic relationship as soon as possible and seek help. I appreciate your comment.

Faith Reaper (author) from southern USA on October 30, 2019:

Hi Brenda,

Thank you so much for reading and commenting. Yes, that has to be one of the most painful things to hear, especially from someone you thought loved you.

Lora Hollings on October 29, 2019:

A very moving poem about the agony victims of abuse face daily and their courage in the face of such pain! Your excellent article helps to make these victims realize that they deserve so much better than to live in such misery where their personal safety is also at risk. It also makes us more aware of just how prevalent this abuse to women is. I hope that women who are in this situation will seek out the help that they need by going to a center that helps victims of domestic violence and get the help they desperately need to get out of such a toxic relationship! Thanks for sharing.

BRENDA ARLEDGE from Washington Court House on October 29, 2019:

A very heartfelt poem. It is so hard when one hears words like these from a man she thought was her soulmate.

You painted the agony one feels perfectly.

Great write.

Faith Reaper (author) from southern USA on September 23, 2019:

Thank you for reading, Priya! I’m glad it moved you.

Priya Dinesh from Bangalore on September 13, 2019:

Such a moving poem Faith, I'm touched!!

Nelly Dawson on January 27, 2018:

No problem! Yes, that is absolutely true.

Faith Reaper (author) from southern USA on January 26, 2018:

Thank you, Nelly. Well, I believe those who harm others verbally have most likely been harmed verbally too. So, I probably shouldn’t have made such a statement being that is probably the case. I guess that’s why it seems to be an endless cycle unless they receive help.

Nelly Dawson on January 26, 2018:

Hi Faith! You are super welcome! I can only imagine such pain your loved one must feel...Right, it's very heartbreaking and I too will never understand how a person could treat someone as such.

Faith Reaper (author) from southern USA on January 25, 2018:

Hi Nelly! Thank you for reading and for the “breathtaking” comment. I have a family member who experienced this and I wrote this after hearing her describe what she went through ... I’ll never understand why or how one person can do this to another ...

Nelly Dawson on January 24, 2018:

"What a powerful message?" The way that you were able to convey the pain behind domestic violence and describe in many cases what a woman(though men experience this too) feels when she experiences such treatment is breathtaking. I love it! Thank you for making awareness of Domestic Violence through your poem.

Faith Reaper (author) from southern USA on July 15, 2015:

Oh, darling and beautiful Missy,

Thank you for sharing here to add much to the topic of this poem. You are a courageous and beautiful survivor, who deserves to be respected for the lovely woman you are. I am so glad you said "was" as in past tense. Yes, it seems those silver-tongued devils zoom in on the very young girls and attempt to dominant their spirit.

I am sorry about the seven years of living hell you had to endure, but I am glad you have become free and who you are meant to be in this life. I am glad you prayed for He hears and He answers. Never believe the lies.

I am happy you found this inspirational and helpful.

Hugs and much happiness to you in this life ---You are beautiful, always remember!

Faith Reaper (author) from southern USA on July 15, 2015:

Oh, my goodness, Audrey,

Your comment has blown me away! I am so humbled you think so, especially being the brilliant and gifted true poet you are ...so thank you from the bottom of my heart. This one means a lot to me.

Hugs

Missy Smith from Florida on July 14, 2015:

Hey Faith, this poem describes my first long relationship I ever had perfectly. I was a 17-year-old naive girl who fell for a silver tongue devil that was nine years older than I.

When I turned 18, I moved out of my family home and in with him, and it was seven years of hell. There were years I remember thinking I was never getting out of this misery.

I cannot describe the verbal lashings I received, not only behind closed doors, but in front of family, friends, and even strangers. I still remember the pity they had in their eyes for me. It makes you feel so lost.

This was a great poem with many important things added, such as, all the bible quotes. When I finally got out, I was completely destroyed, all I could do was pray and believe God would bring me back to life. I was so dead inside and out.

Great work with lots of inspiration and helpful information. :)

Audrey Howitt from California on July 14, 2015:

Dear Faith--this remains one of the most moving poems I have read here at HP--

Faith Reaper (author) from southern USA on October 05, 2014:

Hi Vellur,

Thank you so much for reading and I appreciate your kind comment. It is an important message which unfortunately must be shared.

God bless.

Nithya Venkat from Dubai on October 05, 2014:

Great poem with an important message, very well expressed.

Faith Reaper (author) from southern USA on July 10, 2014:

Hi deergha,

So great to see you stopping by to read! Thank you for your most generous comments.

I appreciate the vote up and more and share

Hugs

deergha from ...... a place beyond now and beyond here !!! on July 10, 2014:

A very heartfelt work dear Faith. Loved reading it. Very strong and much needed massage indeed. Take care and keep up the good work. Many smiles your way my friend.

Votes way up and shared across.

Faith Reaper (author) from southern USA on April 23, 2014:

Aw, Patricia! I cannot even bear the thought of you having to go through such in this life dear one ... and thrilled at the same time you have escaped such torment! I can see you doing such and being there for those who are suffering. I am sorry one of your dearest friends has also had to go through something like this and glad once again to know she found her way back to who she truly is in this life!

Thank you for sharing here, which adds so much to the topic of this hub to bring awareness and to give hope that even after having been through such an ordeal.

Angels and much love to you and your lovely friend. I sure do miss you and your amazing hubs.

Always remember just how very beautiful you are ... VERY.

Hugs and much love,

Faith Reaper

Patricia Scott from North Central Florida on April 23, 2014:

Dear Sweet Faith

The passion and conviction with which you speak for so many has moved me to tears.

Having escaped such an experience personally, I have been the shoulder for a number of those who fought to escape this tortured life. I am passing this along to one of my dearest friends who has just found her way back to herself.

Angels and hugs and hi and all to you...I miss you...love ps

Faith Reaper (author) from southern USA on April 23, 2014:

Hello WiccanSage,

Thank you for reading on this painful topic. I am glad you found the poem to be moving, and I do hope that by bringing more awareness will move hearts to escape, change or do something to reach out to others who need someone, even just to listen.

Blessings

Mackenzie Sage Wright on April 22, 2014:

Very touching; such a painful subject, and this poem is very moving. Thanks for sharing your work.

Faith Reaper (author) from southern USA on April 21, 2014:

Hello Cresentmoon,

Thank you so much for reading. I am sorry I did not see your comment until now. It just noticed the up arrow, but no comments showing. HP asked if you were spam, so I said no.

I am so sorry about the many members of your family experiencing such. Yes, many times long after the abuse, it still holds a powerful grip on many it seems. It is always so wonderful when someone breaks free from that terrible cycle of pain and existence.

I do hope this hub helps at least one person somewhere who reads.

Blessings.

Cresentmoon2007 from Caledonia, MI on April 21, 2014:

This hub has a clear message about verbal abuse as well as other forms abuse can come in. There are many members in my family who have experienced abuse from the people they should have been able to love and trust. Some of us I call survivors. Others I still believe are under the power of a person who abused them who is well gone, his life no longer with us. Keep in mind that abuse can come from women as well... my uncle was abused by an ex gf for many years. I love this hub. It has a great message to share.

Faith Reaper (author) from southern USA on April 11, 2014:

Hello Mary rite,

Thank you for reading. Welcome to HubPages and hope you will soon have some hubs to read! There are many, actually hundreds, maybe even thousands of writers here on HP and I hope you read others' wonderful work too.

Blessings,

Faith Reaper

Faith Reaper (author) from southern USA on April 10, 2014:

Thank you for sharing and your insight, dear Flourish.

You are so right, we just never really know. I have a very close family member who went through this and we never knew a thing and thought her husband to be "Mr. Wonderful" but she is free now.

I do hope that women or men who are going through such, are brave enough to tell someone and get out as quickly as possible for their life and those around them are in danger.

Blessings

Faith Reaper (author) from southern USA on April 10, 2014:

Hi Dear Jamie,

Thank you for sharing your experiences, especially from the aspect of a man, no matter, male or female, abuse in any way, shape or form is so wrong and breaks my heart whenever I hear of such.

I love the person you are, beautiful and of high value, no matter what you were told back when you were growing up. I think you sharing here will help to bring awareness too, and that there is hope for all who have endured such in this life! You are brave, strong and beautiful.

Hugs and much love,

Faith Reaper

Faith Reaper (author) from southern USA on April 10, 2014:

Aw, dear Crafty,

I am so sorry you had experienced such with your first husband. And thrilled to hear you are married to a wonderful man now.

It is a sad reality for far too many women indeed.

Hugs and blessings

Faith Reaper (author) from southern USA on April 10, 2014:

Thank you, Audrey, for your comment. These situatios are truly heartrending indeed.

Blessings

FlourishAnyway from USA on April 10, 2014:

We have no idea how much abuse happens. A friend of my daughter's exists in a family where the mother is abused by the father. On the outside she is extra outgoing and you may never know it. The effects of abuse are showing up in the daughter's behavioral problems and acting out at school. We have no idea.

Jamie Lee Hamann from Reno NV on April 10, 2014:

I am not a female and have not been in a relationship of abuse as an adult. But I grew up around viciousness and hate, screaming and torment, and even though I survived and I am the person I am today I feel like my heart was broken a million times at a very young age. Thank you for writing this, your message is very important. Jamie

CraftytotheCore on April 10, 2014:

I was mentally and emotionally abused by my first husband. Fortunately, I've always had faith and turned to it when times became too much to bear. I am married to a wonderful man now, but I know all too well the struggles women face in abusive relationships.

Audrey Howitt from California on April 10, 2014:

Just a heart wrenching write!

Faith Reaper (author) from southern USA on September 28, 2013:

Hi lyric!

Well, my goodness, dearest lyric, I have been dropping the ball on seeing my comments! Please forgive me for just now coming across this comment here.

Thank you so much for your most kind and generous comments as always dear friend.

Yes, the stats are so sad indeed, far too many women are finding themselves in these types of scenarios. That is a wonderful thought for this article to possibly even help one person would be awesome.

I appreciate the votes up and share. You're the best!

God bless you and yours,

Faith Reaper

Richard Ricky Hale from West Virginia on September 13, 2013:

Faith, very inspirational article to women. Wow, I can't believe those stats, it's truly sad. Women have come a long way and they've worked hard to get there. You could be a speaker Faith, your words ALWAYS touch the heart, you have a very special gift my dear friend. Beautiful poetry and inspirational words. Voted up, useful, awesome, interesting, beautiful, and shared on FB and Twitter.

I hope this article reaches many more women because women are still treated as the weaker sex and it's not right. Equal rights for all women.

Faith Reaper (author) from southern USA on August 12, 2013:

Hi Dearest Romeos,

So happy to see you here reading and leaving your very insightful comments and sharing a bit too. I am sorry about your dear mother, as it does take hold of one's mind and changes people no doubt about it, unless they are able to break free.

I appreciate your understanding of my poem and generous comments left here this night.

Well, as far as being overworked, yes, that has not slacked up any, but such is life. I was just about to publish another hub believe it or not, actually was able to write a bit.

I know I may have missed some of your amazing poetry, so I shall be coming your way soon.

I appreciate you sharing.

Bless you, Faith Reaper

Romeos Quill from Lincolnshire, England on August 12, 2013:

This was a wonderful Hub article, dearest Faith Reaper; I understand where you're coming from, as my own mother was married to a devil for over forty years which turned her into a cold woman, which she has never quite recovered from since, so you can imagine what life was like growing up in that household, but I guess that this is one of the extremes that can happen when being yoked with an unbeliever who thought he was God.

Your verse is so forthright, honest, and cuts right to the quick of what I'm sure a lot of unhappily married women feel, and you have poignantly expressed such deep emotions beautifully.You have a wonderful gift of empathy, and I trust that life is treating you well, and you are not overworking too much :) Sharing.

Take care;

With Warmest Regards,

R.Q.

Faith Reaper (author) from southern USA on July 26, 2013:

Hi Shona Venter,

Thank you so much for your visit here this day. I appreciate the voted up.

Nice to meet you.

Blessings, Faith Reaper

Shona Venter from South Africa on July 26, 2013:

Inspiring words for those who have been through abuse of some type or another. Voted up :-)

Faith Reaper (author) from southern USA on July 23, 2013:

Hi Laurinazo,

I have missed you! So glad you are here now though. Hope you are back writing too.

Thank you so much for the kind comment.

God bless, Faith Reaper

LJ Scott from Phoenix, Az. on July 23, 2013:

Very worthwhile article, worth reading a few times ...thanks Faith

Faith Reaper (author) from southern USA on July 21, 2013:

Hi Dearest PS!

Just now able to get on here to try to catch up a bit, after my granddaughters just left to go back home about an hour ago.

Well, I am always so very glad when you stop by to read at any time dearest friend! God bless you for sharing of such, and praise Him for the wonderful man you now have in your life, for you deserve the best this life has to offer!

Hugs and Angels to you from southern USA and many blessing too,

Faith Reaper

Patricia Scott from North Central Florida on July 21, 2013:

I don't know how I missed this. Faith, this is so powerful. My first husband made me feel less than worthy. I was never just right. Never exactly what he was looking for. It wore on me for years and finally he left after nine years. And it was the BEST thing that ever happened to me because I found a most remarkable man who made me feel again and to believe in myself once again.

thank you for sharing this.Angels and hugs and blessings are on the way ps

Faith Reaper (author) from southern USA on July 10, 2013:

Hi Dearest Sparklea!

I just love seeing your lovely, smiling face pop in, and I know I most likely say that every time you do pop in, but it is true!

You have made a great point here about the one abusing and that they are suffering from low self esteem, and you have hit the nail on the head with your comment. Exactly, they are existing.

You have such a loving heart for all others, so I am not surprised that your heart aches so for the victims . . . me too.

Thank you for that great scripture there precious heart.

Blessings always to you too,

Faith Reaper

Sparklea from Upstate New York on July 10, 2013:

Faith, voted up, useful and awesome. It is hard to believe there are such cruel people in this world.

'while he is enjoying every minute of your life filled with torment' shattered me...to think someone would be happy to make another person suffer so from WORDS.

But they do exist...and that is the correct word! People who treat others this way are not living...they are existing with low self esteem and doing their best to raise themselves up by putting others down.

I don't know why good people marry bad people. I see it all the time...A wonderful husband or wife who is treated so bad by his/her spouse.

FORGIVE me for being so judgmental, but my heart just aches for these victims. SO VERY GLAD to see freedom reign for this person.

This hub is truly needed to awaken others and, hopefully encourage any who are going through this to, as the Bible states, "shake the dust off your feet and go on to another city." Blessings always, Sparklea

Faith Reaper (author) from southern USA on July 01, 2013:

Hi Dearest Kim (ocfireflies),

So nice to see you here this day as always!

Oh, sweetest Kim, I am so sorry that you have experienced such. That pangs my heart to know, as you are such a beautiful and precious person.

I am glad my poem touched you and I appreciate you sharing about yourself here, which adds much insight to the subject matter of this hub.

Healing can indeed take a very long time, precious heart.

I appreciate the votes up.

Gentle hugs to you this day, Faith Reaper

ocfireflies from North Carolina on July 01, 2013:

Faith,

This piece touches me on so many levels. I know what it is like to be that woman you describe in your poem. And I also know that even when you physically remove yourself, the emotional damage can linger for a very long time. I appreciate how you offer hope and affirmation.

Voted Up and Beautiful!

Best Always,

Kim

Faith Reaper (author) from southern USA on June 14, 2013:

Hi dreamseeker2,

Yes, it does sum it all up.

I am so glad you were able to break free from such a situation! That makes me smile here this day. Thank you for sharing.

I appreciate the votes up.

Hugs, Faith Reaper

dreamseeker2 on June 14, 2013:

I like what the first person who commented said. Something to the effect, 'do not let other dictate who you are'. It kind of sums it all up. Only you know who you truly are and what's within your heart. You and your maker. Good, yet sad words of truth for so many going through it.

I use to relate to it first hand, but was able to get out of my situation over time...voted it up and beautiful!

Faith Reaper (author) from southern USA on June 10, 2013:

Hello joym7,

So nice to meet you. Thank you so much for stopping by to read and leave a lovely comment.

I love that video by MercyMe, a Christian band.

Blessings, Faith Reaper

Joy from United States on June 10, 2013:

after reading this I could remember MERCY poem. Beautiful touchy poem.

Faith Reaper (author) from southern USA on May 26, 2013:

Dearest of the precious hearts, Cat,

I am so humbled by your words, and I am sorry to just now be getting back to you for leaving such a wonderful comment, as it was so late, I went on to bed :)

I believe I am an hour ahead of you there.

Thank you precious heart, and I always do pray that if just one person is helped by this, then I was meant to write it, and the Lord will use it to glorify Him and not me.

(HUGS and more HUGS))), Faith Reaper

Cat from New York on May 25, 2013:

My hand in over my mouth and the tears are streaming down my face. You have no idea how much your words mean to me... it is almost awkward to hear someone say such honest, loving words. Thank you so much! You are surely a role model to all and I know that those you touch, think the world of you and I certainly understand why. You are such a beautiful woman with an equally beautiful soul. Thank you, again. You've made my evening... and probably week :D

Thank you and big hugs to you, you are a lifesaver and I'm blessed to know you, Cat

Faith Reaper (author) from southern USA on May 25, 2013:

Oh, Cat,

Thank you for sharing your story here. It has blessed me so much this day, knowing that you are free from such and that you are such a loving and positive role model for your precious children.

This type of scenario happens to all persons from all walks of life, the highly educated and most intelligent, beautiful women, such as yourself can get trapped into this type of thinking when they are told of such day in and day out! You are beautiful and I hope you always remember that, especially that you are of very high value, more valuable than any of the rarest gems on this planet. Just remember to see yourself as He see you, and how much He loves you.

I, too, kept seeing your wonderful comments on those I follow, and I thought, well, I must pay her a visit!!!

Special hugs and love to you precious heart and beautiful one, Faith Reaper

Cat from New York on May 25, 2013:

Faith Reaper,

I'm glad I finally made it to your pages! I've seen you around for a long time (don't tell anyone else, but I've been too intimidated to come over; something about beautiful, intelligent women do it? :-)

Honestly, I am almost grateful in a weird way, that I have been in an ugly relationship because I've realized how much damage it can do to a person's self-esteem and emotional and psychological well-being. Now, my goal is to give my kids the strength that someone must've forgotten to give me and so, left vulnerable. I strive, every day, to help build my children's sense of worth because there are ugly people out there and I wan't my children to recognize them. I think one of the biggest problems is when someone has a compromised self-esteem, it is easy to find truth in what others say. I can personally say that I started believing the demeaning things that were said to me and I assumed that someone would only say such things if there were truth behind it. That was wrong and I was wrong, but now I know. I think that's a big reason why, despite how obvious it seems to an outsider, someone living in abuse doesn't understand that they are better than that and even if they catch glimpses, they don't feel they are strong enough to walk away from someone who has been so powerful for so long. This is just wonderful and I have it pinned. I'm hoping the right person sees it and it goes viral :D

There is no doubt in my mind; this has already helped people.

Thank you so much and God bless you, you are certainly special! Hugs and love, Cat

Faith Reaper (author) from southern USA on May 25, 2013:

Hi Cat,

So glad for your visit here this day! Thank you so much for the heartfelt comments. It does break my heart to no end, especially when you have family who have suffered through such an ordeal.

I praise God for those who are brave enough to finally leave, as anything is better than staying. Once they understand that fact, then they are able to break free! However, the statistics are so very disturbing as most return to their abusers and wind up dead eventually.

I appreciate the votes up and share.

God bless you precious heart. Hugs and love, Faith Reaper

Cat from New York on May 25, 2013:

Faith Reaper,

Forgive me if I am guilty of any typos, but I'm having a heard time seeing through my terribly tearful eyes! This just has to be one of the most beautiful things I've ever read! I wish I would've read this a long time ago. The problem with abuse of any kind is the victim starts believing they're worthy of it and it is a very lonely place to be. This is so empowering and I am so moved how you reached out like this for others. There is just too much beauty here to list and the songs... oh my goodness, let the tears flow!

Up, awesome, beautiful, interesting and useful! This is a "must share"

Cat

Faith Reaper (author) from southern USA on April 15, 2013:

Hi suzzette,

Thank you so much for your kind words. You're the best! That is certainly a disturbing percentage!

I can see you being a loving and kind person to all you come into contact with no doubt.

Verbal, physical or any kind of abuse is just wrong. Those who are in such situations, especially adults should get out as soon as possible.

My heart breaks for children in abusive situations, as they cannot stand up for themselves. I pray they tell someone, anyone in authority!

God bless, Faith Reaper

Suzette Walker from Taos, NM on April 15, 2013:

Faith: This is a beautiful hub and so necessary in this world today. Why we are so mean and heartless and abusive to one another I don't understand. Your poll shocked me. 45% of the people answering have been abused at one time or another. What an awful percentage! I taught for eleven years in an inner city school and I know the horrible messages some of these kids get at home and then come to school so depressed because they think they will never amount to anything. It breaks my heart. Sometimes, I was the first person in their life to tell them they were worthy and wonderful. I am amazed at how cruel some parents are to their own children. I am so glad you wrote this hub - you are so caring and thoughtful and there are many that need to hear your message! Bless you!

Faith Reaper (author) from southern USA on March 09, 2013:

Oh, Deaerst deergha,

Thank you so much for the very kind words, and I am so sorry you had to experience such dear heart. It pains my heart to think of you going through something such as this. I praise God you are okay now! You are beautiful and loved, please know.

Hugs and love, Faith Reaper

deergha from ...... a place beyond now and beyond here !!! on March 09, 2013:

A very profound work direct from heart. Everything here can be related so well by so many as it is so obvious from the comments overflow here. I am also one of them sure. Very nice poem dear Faith. All votes up and shared as well. God bless you always and take care. I hope you enjoy a very nice weekend ahead.

Faith Reaper (author) from southern USA on March 07, 2013:

Hello viveresprando,

Nice to meet you, and thanks for stopping by to read! You are so right, it CAN be done. I appreciate your great comments to add much to the subject of this hub here. It is a sad reality far too much in this life for many.

God bless, Faith Reaper

viveresperando from A Place Where Nothing Is Real on March 07, 2013:

So much emotion and heartbreak. Sometimes we feel trapped by our emotions and bound by our love for someone who breaks us down everyday. Once in this position it is a struggle to break free, but it can be done.

Faith Reaper (author) from southern USA on March 05, 2013:

Hello Michael Beskalis,

Wow, thank you for such a most amazing and beautiful comment here. I am so humbled by your kind words. If there was a button to push for most amazing comment, I would here. Thank you for your concerned and caring heart, which is evident. Also, thanks for the interesting stats too, and you are right, it is most likely so much higher this day than back at that time, unfortunately.

I appreciate your wonderful comment which adds much to the subject of this hub. Will have to check our your writing, as you write so beautifully in a comment!

God bless you. In His Love Always, Faith Reaper

Michael Beskalis from San Francisco on March 05, 2013:

Well...wow. you've taken the story of too many unfortunate women and penned the tragedy beautifully. It breaks my heart to know that every night by the time we get into our beds to sleep at least 200 women and children are beaten to death here in the US. and the stat is old. God knows how many more today. May their tears bend the gates of heaven and leave puddles at His throne. May He surround them with His mightiest angels and comfort them with peace and grace and overwhelm them with wisdom to find a way out. Thank you so much for writing this! And don't stop writing. You indeed have a gift. Use it and keep being the voice to those who can't afford to speak.

Faith Reaper (author) from southern USA on February 27, 2013:

Hello SiberianWolf,

Nice you are here stopping by to read. Yes, sadly, too many can relate, as you have stated, very sad indeed. Wow, I am so very humbled by your lovely comments.

Much love and respect back to you, Faith Reaper

Eric T. Shortridge from MidWest on February 27, 2013:

Very powerful... I can tell from the comments that many can relate... sadly to say... a formidable pen you wield my friend... Much love and respect

Faith Reaper (author) from southern USA on February 23, 2013:

Hi Ryem,

Thanks so much for stopping by to read. I appreciate your kind words and, yes, a lot really do suffer in silence. My prayer and hope is that if one person is helped, even the smallest of ways, then it has served its purpose.

God bless. In His Love, Faith Reaper

Ryem from Maryland on February 23, 2013:

Faith, this hub is so beautiful. A lot of people suffer in silence and I'm sure your words helped some of them.....it's a great thing.

Faith Reaper (author) from southern USA on February 15, 2013:

Oh, God bless you dearest girishpuri.

Thank you for reading dear heart.

Have a lovely weekend.

God bless. In His Love, Faith Reaper

Girish puri from NCR , INDIA on February 15, 2013:

I can't say much, there are tears in my eyes.. God bless you, Faith

Faith Reaper (author) from southern USA on February 09, 2013:

Dearest Minnetonka Twin (Linda),

Thank you dear heart, and God bless your beautiful sister for getting out of the abusive marriage. I am so glad God revealed how beautiful she is no matter what her husband told her.

Your poem is amazing and I wanted to share it here too, and thank you for writing such a powerful poem and sharing.

May God's peace and love wash down over you and your sister.

God bless you always. In His Love, Faith Reaper

Linda Rogers from Minnesota on February 09, 2013:

Dearest Faith-your poem is heart-breaking and evokes such emotion in me. As you know, my sister was married for thirteen years to a very abusive man. Thankfully, my sister's beautiful spirit returned eventually. Your words of comfort from our Dear Lord really touched me and gave me hope after reading about the abuse. Thanks for educating others that may be involved in an abusive relationship and for reminding us all we are all perfect in his eyes. God Bless my sister in Christ.

P.S.-thank you for putting a link of my poem here.

Faith Reaper (author) from southern USA on February 09, 2013:

Hi Dim,

Wow, thanks so much for the great comments here. I am so humbled, especially coming from you, an amazing poet and writer. This kind of abuse is everywhere and when I see it first-and in someone's life I love personally, it just breaks my heart to no end to know of its devastating effects overall.

I appreciate the vote up and share.

God bless. In His Love, Faith Reaper

Dim Flaxenwick from Great Britain on February 09, 2013:

Absolutely amazing poetry. So beautifully written yet baring all about the horrors of living with abuse.

You did some wonderful work here.

Voted up and sharing.

Faith Reaper (author) from southern USA on February 08, 2013:

Hi Icbenefield,

I appreciate your visit here. Thanks so much for your lovely comments.

God bless you. In His Love, Faith Reaper

lcbenefield on February 08, 2013:

Faith, Thanks for shaing such a beautiful work. I appreciate the Scripture you have chose to go with the poetry. This is such a needed message for so many people.

Faith Reaper (author) from southern USA on February 08, 2013:

Hi DDE,

Thanks for reading and I appreciate your insightful comment.

God bless. In His Love, Faith Reaper

Devika Primić from Dubrovnik, Croatia on February 08, 2013:

Giving your heart to someone you love from a young age that is so true you have expressed something here which is often overlooked.

Faith Reaper (author) from southern USA on February 08, 2013:

Hi lovedoctor (sweet Marlene),

I am so happy to see you here reading! I appreciate your most wise words written here. Yes, there are for sure red flags to warn one early on, as you have stated no doubt. Women must learn to heed such warning signs. I normally can spot them immediately, and with me, being a woman, that intuition just naturally kicks in, thank goodness. I have seen this first-hand with people in my life who I love dearly . . . the small putdowns, then laughing and joking afterwards, then I just know . . . a sad reality for so many, unfortunately.

You are so very welcome, and it is always my pleasure to make note of one who is such a sweet friend to another. Debbie is the best too without a doubt! I really enjoyed Debbie's interview and was glad to get to know her sweet friend,YOU, even better.

God Bless. In His Love, Faith Reaper

Faith Reaper (author) from southern USA on February 08, 2013:

Hi kj force,

So glad for your visit here this day. Wow, thanks for the insightful comments here, and you are so very right.

I will most certainly will have to join you in your "weed garden!"

Hugs and blesssings, Faith Reaper

lovedoctor926 on February 08, 2013:

Hi Faith, My heart goes out to those women who have gone through this situation. It's a terrible position to be in. Verbal abuse can leave permanent scars that can last for a lifetime. Women need to pay attention to the red flag warnings before getting involved with someone. Those signs are there for a reason. Verbal abuse are often sugarcoated truths. It is often in the form of a put down or joke followed by a just kidding or laughing out loud. A very good hub with a powerful message. Faith, thank you for the nice compliment and kind words you posted about me on debbie's hub the sweet marlene. much appreciated. God Bless.

kjforce from Florida on February 08, 2013:

Faith Reaper..How we feel about ourselves starts as children..sometimes adults do not realize the damage that they can do very often by their words to a child..and as we grow, the emotions are reflected in our relationship with others. I write about the

" WEEDS " of life..which is a metaphor for the " survivors " of life in all phases...

Hope you will all join me in my " weed garden "...loved your words..thanks for sharing your thoughts...

Faith Reaper (author) from southern USA on February 05, 2013:

Hi ignugent!

Yes, it is very hard to look at the reality of this sometimes brutal life. Yes, sacrifice is the perfect word here, much sacrifice . . . it is very disturbing to know of those going through such.

I appreciate your keen insight into the poem in your comments.

God bless. In His Love, Faith Reaper

ignugent17 on February 05, 2013:

Sometimes I try not to look at the reality of life. Your poem really tells us the pain a person feels in sacrificing for others.

Faith Reaper (author) from southern USA on February 03, 2013:

Hi teaches,

So great to see you here reading! Thanks so much for reading and I appreciate your wonderful comments. Yes, they are all more valuable and beautiful than what they have been told no doubt!

God bless. In His Love, Faith Reaper

Dianna Mendez on February 02, 2013:

I have met a few women and know some that have been abused. Words hurt more than the physical at times. Your words will comfort many out there who need to hear they are so much more valuable than what they were told. This post reminds me of the song Britt Nicole sings "More Than Gold".

Faith Reaper (author) from southern USA on February 02, 2013:

Hi LadyFiddler,

Thanks so much, and you do as well.

God bless you. In His Love, Faith Reaper

Joanna Chandler from On Planet Earth on February 02, 2013:

No probs have a good weekend

Faith Reaper (author) from southern USA on February 02, 2013:

Hi Rolly,

So glad for your visit here. I appreciate the great comments and, yes, that is a beautiful thing to see a survivor blossom into the person who he or she is meant to be, and still able to love others despite what they may have been through. There is a long healing process, and there is always hope.

Thanks so much for your kind words concerning my poem and the message I am attempting to convey here.

Hugs and Blessings to you too, Faith Reaper

Rolly A Chabot from Alberta Canada on February 02, 2013:

Hi Faith Reaper... touching and a reminder of those we know who stand and continue to take the abuse for the sake of the children. It is a blessing to watch the abused simply pack up and start all over again. Yes it is difficult and yet after the fact they begin to again build confidence and become the person they were called to be...

Excellent poem and the message is powerful...

Hugs and Blessings

Faith Reaper (author) from southern USA on February 02, 2013:

Hi livingsta,

You're welcome, and I appreciate your thought-provoking comments here, which add much to the subject of this hub. Yes, His love never fails.

I appreciate your kind words here concerning the writing of this hub.

God bless you. In His Love, Faith Reaper

livingsta from United Kingdom on February 02, 2013:

Thank you for this hub. It really helps, when you sit here wondering what went wrong. The worst part is that you are abused, but you still love them with all your heart and stay on, hold on thinking one day it will all change. Not many think that God is there to love them unconditionally and His love never fails. This is a very motivating hub. Thank you again for sharing this! God bless!

Faith Reaper (author) from southern USA on February 02, 2013:

Oh Dearest Eddy,

Bless you my precious friend from Wales, and thank you for sharing your powerful story with us all here. You are so very brave dear one. I am glad you were strong enough to get out and now live a life filled with love. You have moved me with your story.

I am so glad you pointed out those particular words of my poem, as I almost did not put those in when I was going through the editing part, and now I am blessed that those particular words spoke to you.

Yes, it is often misunderstood that those who are being abused are weak, but that is not the case as you and Leslie have pointed out here.

Sending you lots of hugs and love to you this day, Faith Reaper

Faith Reaper (author) from southern USA on February 02, 2013:

Hi ananceleste,

Oh, God bless you dear one for sharing your powerful story here. You are an amazing person. You should write about your story if you have not done so. Forgiveness is necessary in all situations no matter what to be able to move on. Wow, I have never heard of such a story as your story. You are so brave to share this here with us, and I am so glad you did. Yes, one must feel loved by one's significant other no doubt!

I pray this hub does help at least one person to have the courage to break free from the violence, as that is not love. I pray they do click on the link to get important facts and helpful information they need. And with God's love, peace and strength, they will be able to break free.

Again, God bless you for sharing your story here. In His Love, Faith Reaper

Eiddwen from Wales on February 02, 2013:

You are so very strong to have held on this long

It is past time to rise above this and set your heart free

Echoing, endless echoing, are his choice of words to wound

Revelation . . . this is not living life, nor who you are meant to be

Oh how true ; this was me for the first four decades of my life.However I found the strength to rise up and disown my parents and left my abusive alcoholic husband of 26 years back in 2002.Today I live my life as ME with the most wonderful man ever, my partner,my best friend and soul mate..

The alcoholic is almost bedridden due to his drinking ;this speaks for itself and the abusers are the ones who are weak and pathetic.

Thank you again for sharing your words and I wish you a wonderful weekend.

Here's to so many more hubs for us both to share on here.

Lots of love from my little corner of Wales.

Eddy.

Faith Reaper (author) from southern USA on February 02, 2013:

Hi my lovely friend Leslie,

Thank you so much for taking the time to read and we will certainly miss you next week!!!

You are awesome, and I thank you from the bottom of my heart for leaving such profound comments here which add so much to this hub, as to the understanding of why and who it affects, and you are so right, it happens to the best, the strongest and the smartest. Many think it only happens to the very weak, but that is not the case, and I thank you for pointing out that very important fact. as well as to just why it is so hard to escape.

You are beautiful too and oh so very wise.

I appreciate all you have stated here so very much, as well as the vote up and share!

Hugs and love to you always, Faith Reaper