The Heartbreak of Verbal Abuse ~ A Poem

Such a moving poem Faith, I'm touched!!

No problem! Yes, that is absolutely true.

Hi Faith! You are super welcome! I can only imagine such pain your loved one must feel...Right, it's very heartbreaking and I too will never understand how a person could treat someone as such.

"What a powerful message?" The way that you were able to convey the pain behind domestic violence and describe in many cases what a woman(though men experience this too) feels when she experiences such treatment is breathtaking. I love it! Thank you for making awareness of Domestic Violence through your poem.

Hey Faith, this poem describes my first long relationship I ever had perfectly. I was a 17-year-old naive girl who fell for a silver tongue devil that was nine years older than I.

When I turned 18, I moved out of my family home and in with him, and it was seven years of hell. There were years I remember thinking I was never getting out of this misery.

I cannot describe the verbal lashings I received, not only behind closed doors, but in front of family, friends, and even strangers. I still remember the pity they had in their eyes for me. It makes you feel so lost.

This was a great poem with many important things added, such as, all the bible quotes. When I finally got out, I was completely destroyed, all I could do was pray and believe God would bring me back to life. I was so dead inside and out.

Great work with lots of inspiration and helpful information. :)

Dear Faith--this remains one of the most moving poems I have read here at HP--

Great poem with an important message, very well expressed.

A very heartfelt work dear Faith. Loved reading it. Very strong and much needed massage indeed. Take care and keep up the good work. Many smiles your way my friend.

Votes way up and shared across.

Dear Sweet Faith

The passion and conviction with which you speak for so many has moved me to tears.

Having escaped such an experience personally, I have been the shoulder for a number of those who fought to escape this tortured life. I am passing this along to one of my dearest friends who has just found her way back to herself.

Angels and hugs and hi and all to you...I miss you...love ps

Very touching; such a painful subject, and this poem is very moving. Thanks for sharing your work.

This hub has a clear message about verbal abuse as well as other forms abuse can come in. There are many members in my family who have experienced abuse from the people they should have been able to love and trust. Some of us I call survivors. Others I still believe are under the power of a person who abused them who is well gone, his life no longer with us. Keep in mind that abuse can come from women as well... my uncle was abused by an ex gf for many years. I love this hub. It has a great message to share.

We have no idea how much abuse happens. A friend of my daughter's exists in a family where the mother is abused by the father. On the outside she is extra outgoing and you may never know it. The effects of abuse are showing up in the daughter's behavioral problems and acting out at school. We have no idea.

I am not a female and have not been in a relationship of abuse as an adult. But I grew up around viciousness and hate, screaming and torment, and even though I survived and I am the person I am today I feel like my heart was broken a million times at a very young age. Thank you for writing this, your message is very important. Jamie

I was mentally and emotionally abused by my first husband. Fortunately, I've always had faith and turned to it when times became too much to bear. I am married to a wonderful man now, but I know all too well the struggles women face in abusive relationships.

Just a heart wrenching write!

Faith, very inspirational article to women. Wow, I can't believe those stats, it's truly sad. Women have come a long way and they've worked hard to get there. You could be a speaker Faith, your words ALWAYS touch the heart, you have a very special gift my dear friend. Beautiful poetry and inspirational words. Voted up, useful, awesome, interesting, beautiful, and shared on FB and Twitter.

I hope this article reaches many more women because women are still treated as the weaker sex and it's not right. Equal rights for all women.

This was a wonderful Hub article, dearest Faith Reaper; I understand where you're coming from, as my own mother was married to a devil for over forty years which turned her into a cold woman, which she has never quite recovered from since, so you can imagine what life was like growing up in that household, but I guess that this is one of the extremes that can happen when being yoked with an unbeliever who thought he was God.

Your verse is so forthright, honest, and cuts right to the quick of what I'm sure a lot of unhappily married women feel, and you have poignantly expressed such deep emotions beautifully.You have a wonderful gift of empathy, and I trust that life is treating you well, and you are not overworking too much :) Sharing.

Take care;

With Warmest Regards,

R.Q.

Inspiring words for those who have been through abuse of some type or another. Voted up :-)

Very worthwhile article, worth reading a few times ...thanks Faith

I don't know how I missed this. Faith, this is so powerful. My first husband made me feel less than worthy. I was never just right. Never exactly what he was looking for. It wore on me for years and finally he left after nine years. And it was the BEST thing that ever happened to me because I found a most remarkable man who made me feel again and to believe in myself once again.

thank you for sharing this.Angels and hugs and blessings are on the way ps

Faith, voted up, useful and awesome. It is hard to believe there are such cruel people in this world.

'while he is enjoying every minute of your life filled with torment' shattered me...to think someone would be happy to make another person suffer so from WORDS.

But they do exist...and that is the correct word! People who treat others this way are not living...they are existing with low self esteem and doing their best to raise themselves up by putting others down.

I don't know why good people marry bad people. I see it all the time...A wonderful husband or wife who is treated so bad by his/her spouse.

FORGIVE me for being so judgmental, but my heart just aches for these victims. SO VERY GLAD to see freedom reign for this person.

This hub is truly needed to awaken others and, hopefully encourage any who are going through this to, as the Bible states, "shake the dust off your feet and go on to another city." Blessings always, Sparklea

Faith,

This piece touches me on so many levels. I know what it is like to be that woman you describe in your poem. And I also know that even when you physically remove yourself, the emotional damage can linger for a very long time. I appreciate how you offer hope and affirmation.

Voted Up and Beautiful!

Best Always,

Kim

I like what the first person who commented said. Something to the effect, 'do not let other dictate who you are'. It kind of sums it all up. Only you know who you truly are and what's within your heart. You and your maker. Good, yet sad words of truth for so many going through it.

I use to relate to it first hand, but was able to get out of my situation over time...voted it up and beautiful!

after reading this I could remember MERCY poem. Beautiful touchy poem.

My hand in over my mouth and the tears are streaming down my face. You have no idea how much your words mean to me... it is almost awkward to hear someone say such honest, loving words. Thank you so much! You are surely a role model to all and I know that those you touch, think the world of you and I certainly understand why. You are such a beautiful woman with an equally beautiful soul. Thank you, again. You've made my evening... and probably week :D

Thank you and big hugs to you, you are a lifesaver and I'm blessed to know you, Cat

Faith Reaper,

I'm glad I finally made it to your pages! I've seen you around for a long time (don't tell anyone else, but I've been too intimidated to come over; something about beautiful, intelligent women do it? :-)

Honestly, I am almost grateful in a weird way, that I have been in an ugly relationship because I've realized how much damage it can do to a person's self-esteem and emotional and psychological well-being. Now, my goal is to give my kids the strength that someone must've forgotten to give me and so, left vulnerable. I strive, every day, to help build my children's sense of worth because there are ugly people out there and I wan't my children to recognize them. I think one of the biggest problems is when someone has a compromised self-esteem, it is easy to find truth in what others say. I can personally say that I started believing the demeaning things that were said to me and I assumed that someone would only say such things if there were truth behind it. That was wrong and I was wrong, but now I know. I think that's a big reason why, despite how obvious it seems to an outsider, someone living in abuse doesn't understand that they are better than that and even if they catch glimpses, they don't feel they are strong enough to walk away from someone who has been so powerful for so long. This is just wonderful and I have it pinned. I'm hoping the right person sees it and it goes viral :D

There is no doubt in my mind; this has already helped people.

Thank you so much and God bless you, you are certainly special! Hugs and love, Cat

Faith Reaper,

Forgive me if I am guilty of any typos, but I'm having a heard time seeing through my terribly tearful eyes! This just has to be one of the most beautiful things I've ever read! I wish I would've read this a long time ago. The problem with abuse of any kind is the victim starts believing they're worthy of it and it is a very lonely place to be. This is so empowering and I am so moved how you reached out like this for others. There is just too much beauty here to list and the songs... oh my goodness, let the tears flow!

Up, awesome, beautiful, interesting and useful! This is a "must share"

Cat

Faith: This is a beautiful hub and so necessary in this world today. Why we are so mean and heartless and abusive to one another I don't understand. Your poll shocked me. 45% of the people answering have been abused at one time or another. What an awful percentage! I taught for eleven years in an inner city school and I know the horrible messages some of these kids get at home and then come to school so depressed because they think they will never amount to anything. It breaks my heart. Sometimes, I was the first person in their life to tell them they were worthy and wonderful. I am amazed at how cruel some parents are to their own children. I am so glad you wrote this hub - you are so caring and thoughtful and there are many that need to hear your message! Bless you!

A very profound work direct from heart. Everything here can be related so well by so many as it is so obvious from the comments overflow here. I am also one of them sure. Very nice poem dear Faith. All votes up and shared as well. God bless you always and take care. I hope you enjoy a very nice weekend ahead.

So much emotion and heartbreak. Sometimes we feel trapped by our emotions and bound by our love for someone who breaks us down everyday. Once in this position it is a struggle to break free, but it can be done.

Well...wow. you've taken the story of too many unfortunate women and penned the tragedy beautifully. It breaks my heart to know that every night by the time we get into our beds to sleep at least 200 women and children are beaten to death here in the US. and the stat is old. God knows how many more today. May their tears bend the gates of heaven and leave puddles at His throne. May He surround them with His mightiest angels and comfort them with peace and grace and overwhelm them with wisdom to find a way out. Thank you so much for writing this! And don't stop writing. You indeed have a gift. Use it and keep being the voice to those who can't afford to speak.

Very powerful... I can tell from the comments that many can relate... sadly to say... a formidable pen you wield my friend... Much love and respect

Faith, this hub is so beautiful. A lot of people suffer in silence and I'm sure your words helped some of them.....it's a great thing.

I can't say much, there are tears in my eyes.. God bless you, Faith

Dearest Faith-your poem is heart-breaking and evokes such emotion in me. As you know, my sister was married for thirteen years to a very abusive man. Thankfully, my sister's beautiful spirit returned eventually. Your words of comfort from our Dear Lord really touched me and gave me hope after reading about the abuse. Thanks for educating others that may be involved in an abusive relationship and for reminding us all we are all perfect in his eyes. God Bless my sister in Christ.

P.S.-thank you for putting a link of my poem here.

Absolutely amazing poetry. So beautifully written yet baring all about the horrors of living with abuse.

You did some wonderful work here.

Voted up and sharing.

Faith, Thanks for shaing such a beautiful work. I appreciate the Scripture you have chose to go with the poetry. This is such a needed message for so many people.

Giving your heart to someone you love from a young age that is so true you have expressed something here which is often overlooked.

Hi Faith, My heart goes out to those women who have gone through this situation. It's a terrible position to be in. Verbal abuse can leave permanent scars that can last for a lifetime. Women need to pay attention to the red flag warnings before getting involved with someone. Those signs are there for a reason. Verbal abuse are often sugarcoated truths. It is often in the form of a put down or joke followed by a just kidding or laughing out loud. A very good hub with a powerful message. Faith, thank you for the nice compliment and kind words you posted about me on debbie's hub the sweet marlene. much appreciated. God Bless.

Faith Reaper..How we feel about ourselves starts as children..sometimes adults do not realize the damage that they can do very often by their words to a child..and as we grow, the emotions are reflected in our relationship with others. I write about the

" WEEDS " of life..which is a metaphor for the " survivors " of life in all phases...

Hope you will all join me in my " weed garden "...loved your words..thanks for sharing your thoughts...

Sometimes I try not to look at the reality of life. Your poem really tells us the pain a person feels in sacrificing for others.

I have met a few women and know some that have been abused. Words hurt more than the physical at times. Your words will comfort many out there who need to hear they are so much more valuable than what they were told. This post reminds me of the song Britt Nicole sings "More Than Gold".

No probs have a good weekend

Hi Faith Reaper... touching and a reminder of those we know who stand and continue to take the abuse for the sake of the children. It is a blessing to watch the abused simply pack up and start all over again. Yes it is difficult and yet after the fact they begin to again build confidence and become the person they were called to be...

Excellent poem and the message is powerful...

Hugs and Blessings

Thank you for this hub. It really helps, when you sit here wondering what went wrong. The worst part is that you are abused, but you still love them with all your heart and stay on, hold on thinking one day it will all change. Not many think that God is there to love them unconditionally and His love never fails. This is a very motivating hub. Thank you again for sharing this! God bless!

You are so very strong to have held on this long

It is past time to rise above this and set your heart free

Echoing, endless echoing, are his choice of words to wound

Revelation . . . this is not living life, nor who you are meant to be

Oh how true ; this was me for the first four decades of my life.However I found the strength to rise up and disown my parents and left my abusive alcoholic husband of 26 years back in 2002.Today I live my life as ME with the most wonderful man ever, my partner,my best friend and soul mate..

The alcoholic is almost bedridden due to his drinking ;this speaks for itself and the abusers are the ones who are weak and pathetic.

Thank you again for sharing your words and I wish you a wonderful weekend.

Here's to so many more hubs for us both to share on here.

Lots of love from my little corner of Wales.

Eddy.

I have not been affected by a poem in this way ever. Not to sound, creepy, I felt you where talking to,and about me. I married my high school sweetheart, with a love that I never thought a person can feel. He became abusive the same day of the wedding. His specialty was verbal and psychological abuse. After five years of hell, when I gathered the courage to leave, he got sick, disabled. Fifteen years later, I am still his nurse and legal guardian. I could not bring myself to just walk away.Maybe I should have,maybe not. I was 15 when we met,17 when we got married, and 22 when I realized that he never loved me, or so he said. My heart died on my wedding day. And I still mourn my youth and probably will never know what it feels like to be loved by a man. I don't wish this on anyone. Twenty years have passed and for what ever reason, I still have to care for the very person that took away so much. Ironic, isn't it? That is why when I give talks at the local women's shelter, or give advice to any woman in a similar situation, I always point out the fact that love does not have to hurt to be real. And that no one deserves to be treated like garbage. Forgiveness is necessary, but is imperative to feel loved and appreciated by your significant other.

Is not worth it.

Keep using this incredible gift of yours. God has blessed you so my dear. Use it, be proud of it. Someone ,somewhere will be prompted by your words to break free from this evil of the spirit, that is called apathy. Bravo my friend. Blessings.

Do you mean to tell me there are people in the world who haven't been verbally abused? Hmmmmm....interesting concept...sigh...

This poem hit me hard, Faith - it is raw and open and oozing truth and passion..

abuse is such an insidious thing - especially verbal - it breaks you down slowly but surely - till you don't even know you've lost all self-respect and self-esteem - until it's too late. That's why abuse is so hard to escape - they feel incapable and unworthy..

it happens to the best...the strongest..and the smartest..

Keep fighting the good fight, my friend, and - i do so hope you're moving forward from your grief!

"You're beautiful and i love you too"...

up and sharing..

i'll be away for about a week starting sunday...just in case anyone wonders..lol..

xx

Life sometimes seems so unfair to us women, men don't have anything to really to go through.

1. A woman as to endure monthlies/period pains go through that cycle for 40-50yrs of her life. While men don't have to.

2. Women suffer pains during pregnancy and after. Men don't have to that's why some can say plainly they want 1o children because they have no clue what it is to make just 1.

3. women face most if not all of the children's stress as she is the first teacher of her children.

4. She is the one to nurse the baby go through many sleepless nights with her newborn while the daddy sleeps that's if he's around.

5. Women CAN TAKE PRESSURE OF EVERY KIND. Men cannot stand up during pressure or they seldom do most times they look for a way out.

6. Women have to do all the house work, cooking, cleaning, ironing, washing etc and yet sometimes there is NO GRATITUDE SHOWN men still decide to treat us like DOGS.............

1 Peter 3:7 says, Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered.

Colossians 3:19 says : Husbands, love your wives, and be not bitter against them.

Apparently they ride over that scripture

Thanks for sharing

Voted up. It's abuse that makes women think their ugly or worthless. It's important for women to let their inner beauty shine and to stand up for themselves and say I'm great. It always helps to have someone on hand for support and understanding. Thanks for writing this as it can help women who find themselves in such situations. God bless and passing this on.