Understanding Myself Through Poetry

Updated on September 28, 2018
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Writing poetry since I was 8 years old has helped me deal with the horrors of life. I love writing poetry.

I took this picture in Heckscher State Park in Suffolk County, New York.
I took this picture in Heckscher State Park in Suffolk County, New York.

Birth



from the stories I’ve heard
my birth was not a happy one
my parents were no longer in love
separation quickly lead to divorce


for my mother
I was a reminder of abandonment
loneliness and sacrifices
broken hopes and broken dreams


my father didn’t want me
such a disappointment
so many promises
never kept
such lies and such deceit
a failure of a man
unable to be my father


the world wasn’t ready for me
but I came out reaching
hand first
reaching for something or someone
staining my hand
with a mark
to be forever reminded
of my unwanted birth


Sit Back & Relax - Listen as I Read the Poem

Feeling Unwanted


As a child, I felt unwanted. There was this nagging feeling that I just didn't belong. It didn't help that I was different from others in my family. I was too emotional. I was strange. I didn't think like everyone else.


As I grow older, I gathered bits and pieces about my birth. From it, I drew the conclusion that it wasn't a happy occasion. This only deepened my feelings of being unwanted and I didn't know exactly where I belonged.


Feeling Sadness For My Mother


At first, I resented my mother. Why did she bring me into this world? Then, I began to feel sorry for her. She wasn't happy with my father. She suffered a lot being married to him. I guess it was a good idea that they were no longer together.


I began to realize that her dreams were unfulfilled. Her hopes and desires were neglected. She trusted a man and he disappointed her. She had to live with the shame of divorce and the hardships of single motherhood. It wasn't easy for her. She felt alone and she also felt unwanted.


Understanding that my mother felt horrible about the situation and about her life choices, helped me understand that life was unpredictable. I became a little more cautious and yet, a little more adventurous. I began to make plans for the life I wanted to live. I wanted to go to college. I wanted to travel. I wanted to write. I wanted peace. I wanted happiness. But most of all, I wanted to live without regrets.


I took this picture in Jennings Landing in Albany, New York.
I took this picture in Jennings Landing in Albany, New York.

Feelings of Disappointment Towards My Father


My father wanted a boy. He was drunk when he entered the hospital room the day I was born. He was upset, cursing and yelling, when he saw I was a girl. My father never made me feel wanted. He was mean. He was strict. He was a tyrant. As a child, I was afraid of him, hiding behind my mother's legs when he came to pick up my sisters.


I hated him. I resented him. Then, as I grew older, I was disappointed in him. He was never there for me. He never once reached out with a loving hand. Instead he would tell me, "You're gonna amount to nothing." Those words fueled me. I would show him. I would prove him wrong.


Realizing Where I Belong


My hand was born first. I came out reaching and it was forever stained with a birthmark. (No one knows if the birthmark was caused from the reach or if it was there from the start, but I like to think it was caused from the reach.) That birthmark always made me feel special. No one I knew had one. It was unique. It made me different. I loved it.


As I got older, that birthmark became a reminder of the day I was born and a huge reminder of who I am. I may not have been wanted but I was here. I was born anyway. And I was audacious enough to come out reaching for a world that perhaps wasn't ready for my arrival. That took spunk. That took moxie. Characteristics I displayed all of my life. And I realized exactly where I belonged. Anywhere I wanted to.


How Poetry Can Help YOU


You can choose to write a poem yourself. You can choose any poem you really like. Then, ask yourself these questions:


  • What is the poem talking about? How do I relate to it? Why?
  • Does it spark memories or thoughts? Which ones? Why?
  • How does it make you feel? Why?
  • Does it remind you of any flaws you may have? How? Why?
  • Does it remind you of any strengths you may have? How? Why?
  • Explore your feelings. What can you learn from them?
  • How can you change negative feelings into positive actions?
  • Who are you? What makes you strong? What makes you weak?
  • How can you get stronger? How can you improve your life?
  • Do you have to make amends with yourself or anyone else?
  • How can you take this experience and make your life better?
  • What have you learned? What do you want to learn more about?


Exploring your feelings using poetry can be:


  • exciting
  • scary
  • life-changing
  • therapeutic
  • interesting
  • revealing
  • emotional


It's never easy to dig deep. You have no idea what you may find. But I find it gets easier with time and practice. I find it helps me heal the wounds caused so long ago that I've neglected or tried to hide. And I've realized that in healing those wounds I become stronger and more comfortable in my own skin.


Being such a sensitive child taught me to listen and explore all of my emotions. I've had a lot of practice. So be patient with yourself if this is something you've never tried. It's not always gonna be easy, but it will help you learn more about who you are. Learning who you are helps you explore what you want next. Then, you can make plans to get it done. Is it scary? Of course it is. It's ok to have fear. Sometimes fear is the parachute we must use as we take the leap.



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© 2018 Alexa Rosa

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    • Alexa Rosa profile imageAUTHOR

      Alexa Rosa 

      4 weeks ago from New York

      I'm sorry, Mary Ann Rino. It's not an easy story. Thank you for reading and for commenting. Just know that you are not alone. xoxo

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      Mary Ann Riño 

      4 weeks ago from Romblon,Philippines

      i was crying while reading your poem, we have the same story,thank you for sharing, xx

    • Alexa Rosa profile imageAUTHOR

      Alexa Rosa 

      4 weeks ago from New York

      Thank you Mark. I'm so happy you enjoyed my story. Thank you so much for letting me know by commenting. I totally appreciate it :)

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      Mark Tulin 

      4 weeks ago from Santa Barbara, California

      Alexa, I enjoyed reading your story. For me, poetry has always been a valuable tool in propelling my life through various hardships as well as enriching life’s beauty and wonders.

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