Old Bad Habits Are Hard To Break
When we have had issues in the past
Something that still bothers us to this day
We try to do and be different
When we hit that nerve
The old bad stuff comes flying back
Holding back the tears of anger and dispair
What is so bad to fear?
Why can't we break free of the hidden chains of sadness?
I have a beautiful example
My wife gets really mad when something goes wrong
I don't get it
Even though until this point in time
Everything was going greater than fine
My wife drops a dish
You would think she dropped a child on its head
I hear her cursing from the other room
What is it?
Are you o.k.?
I have no clue what happened?
She could have cut herself with a knife chopping something up?
I dropped a dish
I was making us each a bowl of ice cream
The dish slipped off the corner
Why didn't you move one of the dirty pans from the sink
The dishes were piled by the sink
I didn't think of it
Do you get hurt?
Ice cream on the floor
The nice white dish shattered into little pieces
I wanted to take a picture
Now is not a good time
She was in her socks
I said first move away from there
It is really bad when you get a shiver of glass in your feet
I will clean it up
She walked away
The first thing we have to make sure Charlotte our cat doesn't get any glass in her paws
So my wife called Charlotte to put her in the bathroom
She didn't want to come
Now my wife became angry
Charlotte wanted to see what all the excitement was
I don't blame her
Mommy dropped a dish
Daddy is cleaning it up
Nothing to see here
I first picked up a few big pieces I saw
Then put them in a double plastic bag
Then I used a few paper towels like a pad
I swept my hand back and forth over where I think the glass broke
It was at night
Even with the kitchen light it was hard to see
My wife goes aren't you suppose to use a wet cloth
I think you are right
Make sure you put your slippers on
I might miss a piece
After doing the same thing again and again
Now I took the broom
It is amazing how we still miss little pieces
I can see them shining in the light
It was time to let Charlotte out
I will look again in the morning
The next morning I covered the same area
I still found two slivers of glass
The big thing is why did my wife get so mad?
After that, she dropped something else
I heard her say
I should go to bed
One thing doesn't have anything to do with another
Don't put things together and make up false reasons
If it was your mother's bowl
I would be sad not mad
Because we can't replace it
The dish was probably going to break anyway
Maybe it had a crack in it
We didn't see
I am just trying to make light of the subject
So I bring in my wife the bowl of ice cream she already made
I dropped mine
This is yours
I only wanted ice cream because you said you were getting some
There was only a little left from two cartons
No big deal
I can eat ice cream anytime I want
The important thing
Is nobody is hurt
Everything else can be fixed
I don't like getting mad at silly things
It is a waste of time and energy
The morning after I had to tell you the events
The best how I remember them
Does this ever happen to you?
Do you fly off the handle?
I just want to clean up the mess and move on
I took the broken glass and put in the barel
Today I took it outside
Just in case one of us forgets
We put our hand in there
To push down the trash
Then we have another problem
Off to clean up the dirty dishes at the sink
Maybe if I did them last night
This wouldn't have happened
It could have been my fault
I don't look at it like that
It was nobody's fault
Just things fall
On with life and a good day
DREAM ON (author) on September 01, 2021:
BRENDA ARLEDGE What a great observation. Sometimes we need someone to help us see life from a different view. There are many ways to look at a sunrise and a sunset. At sunrise, a whole new day is finally here. So many people would argue another day is gone. Good riddance and I couldn't wait for it to end. This day is never to be heard or seen of again. Thank God something incredible is about to happen here. We can move on and live one more day. Other people may argue at sunset we lost the best times of our lives. Our youth our childhood and our life. The next breaking day is one without us and we have lived our lives. Running out of time. It was good while it lasted. Nothing lasts forever. Then there are still people who look at both as the same as the day before. No different than the month and year before that. I guess we need to see all sides. I for one couldn't be happier to see that morning sun. Then at the end of the day with a tear in my eye, I am so blessed to do all I could and am so fortunate to have a little more time to live and dream on. 4 days later and I am just getting to my comments. I get so involved in life I don't always know where to turn. I do my best. I still fall short of doing what I love to do. I have learned to accept it. The time that has passed gives me more time to reflect and think of a better answer. Sometimes I think it works well and other times I wonder if I miss out on the spontaneity of the moment. I guess this is one thing I will never know the real answer or truth. i do know I am very thankful for everyone's comments especially yours. When I read them I leave this world and enter into a twilight zone or my own. Learning and loving people and the things in life that are possible. Thank you again and may your morning go better than expected.
BRENDA ARLEDGE from Washington Court House on August 27, 2021:
It's hard to get those slivers up off the floor.
Been there...done that. Found teeny pieces days later.
Like you, I always worry about the kitty's feet too.
I think it's about so much more. It's that struggle we been holding onto, not saying anything...then something dear to our heart breaks.
Everything that has been building up cones gushing out.
We really don't mean what we say...tomorrow we will look at it different.
But in this moment...we lost a dear piece of ourselves.
DREAM ON (author) on August 27, 2021:
Chrish Canosa I never would have thought of that. If you ever decide to be a psychologist I think you have a great future. You also have the first two patients. I keep thinking of the obvious. I asked you before not to act that way and soon as you get mad you forget everything I say. All my words go out the window. Now it is not she doesn't listen as she has trouble dealing with her emotions. I will try to be more understanding. Even I often get signals wrong. That is what friends are for. I can't thank you enough. What a relief. My mind is at rest. You gave me a whole new perspective. Maybe I have some more learning to do. I was to busy pointing the finger. I know I will put on mittens next time and hold my tongue. You are a very sweet, sensitive person with a wonderful heart. When your mom gets mad and my wife too maybe we both could learn to write about it and that would make a good story. Combine both and see what we come up with. Of course, we would have to change the names to protect the innocent. That would be us. (lol) Not much time now. Off to work. Fill me in on your job too. Have an incredible day. Most of all enjoy whatever life teaches us if we are ready for it or not.
Chrish Canosa from Manila Philippines on August 21, 2021:
You are very clear Sir Dreamon. Since my mom doesn't have thyroid she always gets upset of every little thing, everything is a big deal. My patience has been bent 100 and 10 percent....
[I remember your beautiful wife has thyroid problem too could be one of the reason]
Most of the people are easy to get upset maybe they're having a hard time controlling their emotions I just have to like okay or sometimes when I really want to react or say something but what's in the back of my head '' don't speak don't speak ''
I love your soul sir Dreamon!
Sending power hugs and a bunch of love!!!!!!
DREAM ON (author) on August 21, 2021:
Gypsy Rose Lee Watching the kittens has sparked an old love. Your passion for animals might take you in a different direction. Maybe you could be a pet sitter for cats and dogs. A dog walker for people that are busy at work. All you need is a couple of families and that can be a constant extra income. They are so happy to have you there taking care of their loving pets and you love animals. You set your own hours and you get exercise at the same time. Thank you for reading and caring. Have a great day.
DREAM ON (author) on August 21, 2021:
John Hansen I find it funny how certain things bother some people and not other people. I have seen people get a small dent in their car and go crazy. As long as the car runs I am fine with that. Other people have to get their car washed all the time. I like ours to look nice but it doesn't have to be spotless. Other people are so picky about their clothes or their hair. The list goes on and on. Thank you for sharing and I love your explanation. Two weeks and I am getting to all my comments. It is nice to keep busy. Then there is a point of no return. I have to reel it in and do a little less. All work makes life no fun. Thank you for reading and sharing. Two weeks go by so fast. Wouldn't it be fun to freeze time so one moment would last. Hope you and your family are all well. Have a lovely Saturday.
Gypsy Rose Lee from Daytona Beach, Florida on August 07, 2021:
My problems lately consist of looking for little furballs beneath my feet meaning the kittens. So many tails stepped on and so many squeaks but somehow we manage to live together Makes ,life more interesting now that I have others to consider than just me,
John Hansen from Gondwana Land on August 06, 2021:
These things happen, Dream On. It is easy to get upset or fly off the handle on the spur of the moment. When we have had time to settle down we usually realise what happened wasn’t such a big deal. We all make mistakes or are clumsy now and then. Things get broken, that’s normal. Thank you for sharing.