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Poem: Narcissism Love

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Poem Summary

Narcissism love is about how a man love bombs. He sweeps you off your feet listening to your words, sending texts, buying you gifts for no reason. After conquering you like a trophy he starts devaluing you. He has ready made excuses for his neglect. He rushes forward to find his next conquest.

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Narcissism Love

Love bombing is a passion
he does with finesse,
leaving nothing left to chance.

It’s a whirlwind romance,
sweeping her feet off the ground
totally by surprise.

Devoting all his attention towards her,
listening to her every word,
sending thoughtful texts,
giving her gifts for no reason
other than she’s his gal.

Conquering her is his only quest,
winning at all costs is his need,
ultimate success is his trophy.

Once hooked
the adventure winds down,
her value diminishes,
his loving attention fades,
complete with ready made excuses
for his neglect.

A sad existence
never truly feeling love,
only tasting nibbles of it’s sweet nectar,
biding time until the other woman
sees his value.

Throwing caution to the wind
devaluing his trophy,
discarding her into the garbage
with a vengeance,
rushing forward to pursue
another new conquest.

"Sometimes When We Touch" by Dan Hill

© 2019 BRENDA ARLEDGE

Comments

BRENDA ARLEDGE (author) from Washington Court House on February 05, 2021:

Love bombing

BRENDA ARLEDGE (author) from Washington Court House on October 08, 2019:

Thank you, Shaloo.

It is sad, but to them it is a way of life.

Shaloo Walia from India on October 08, 2019:

It's sad how some people treat love as a challenge and once their love is reciprocated, it loses all charm for them. Beautifully written!

BRENDA ARLEDGE (author) from Washington Court House on October 07, 2019:

Thank you, Tamara.

I am so pleased to hear it describes the Narcissistic ways.

I appreciate your kind words. Thank you for reading my work.

Tamara Yancosky from Uninhabited Regions on October 07, 2019:

Brilliant! I have written many poems, as well, on Narcissistic Abuse. Your words chime with truth and wisdom. I enjoyed reading this, immensely!

True Narcissistic Personalities are cruel children inside adult bodies, always wanting their own way, and thinking only of themselves.

For the most part, they are unable to self-reflect which makes therapy futile. Also, generally speaking, these kind do not wish to change, even if they could do so.

BRENDA ARLEDGE (author) from Washington Court House on October 05, 2019:

Bill,

So glad you stopped by to read my work.

I doubt the guys you knew ever really grew up.

Narcissism has a tendency to stay with you unless you go through counseling, and even then I doubt if it really disappears.

But we can always hope for the best.

Bill Holland from Olympia, WA on October 05, 2019:

I've known a couple guys like this when I was in my twenties. It was all a game to them. I wonder what happened to them....are they now alone? Did they finally grow up? Did they continue to cause harm?

BRENDA ARLEDGE (author) from Washington Court House on October 05, 2019:

Lorna,

Honestly, I think narcissism is so difficult to deal with because one does not realize what it is in the beginning.

It is very toxic and hard to survive.

The devalue stage is the worse part...It is hard to imagine how cruel others can be.

Thank you for reading and leaving your comments.

Lorna Lamon on October 05, 2019:

I have treated patients who have been devalued in this way and it takes years to recover, sadly some never do. Your poem gives a vivid description of narcissism and its toxic abuse.

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