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One Year Ago Today - Death Anniversary Poem of Loss of Child

I bought this brick to honor my nephew's memory, with the money going to a center for children that I used to work for in Northwest Arkansas.

I bought this brick to honor my nephew's memory, with the money going to a center for children that I used to work for in Northwest Arkansas.

One Year Ago Today

One year ago today

it was hot

and I was waiting for an oil change . . .

while you were leaving the world.


For ten months I tried

to get another oil change

but I thought of you

and I couldn't. My new car.


I was okay, I was fine,

but for ten months I couldn't.

How shameful, Why not?

And my poor car went on.


It was hot again, and I did it.

And it meant nothing

but it meant everything.

I did it. A milestone.


What is my family doing today?

Life goes on, they say.

Surreal after surreal day becoming real

but never quite concrete.


We have the memories

and we have the pain

and we have the reminders

and perhaps we need them.


It's sad and almost silly

but I will think of you

every time I will remember--

every hot, stupid oil change of my life.


Nearly 3 years ago

Actually, this was written less than two years ago on a one year anniversary.

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