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On Virginity

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The Leading Lord and the Led Lady

Who are you to ask me if I’m a virgin

Who are you to check the authenticity of my hymen

Who are you to judge me based on my configuration?

I have not given that liberty to any of your dominion

To comment or criticize on any of my personal regions

As for centuries I’ve been tortured by your questions.

How dare you forget, as you, I too am a human,

Like you, I too have rights, dreams and expectations

But you kept on ruling on me as one of your possessions.

When young, in sports I might have lost my virginity,

In some accident I might have lost it unconsciously,

Or it would have lost in some infatuation willingly,

But why will you understand my problems silly

As you are so engrossed in your world of follies,

Considering yourself as the godfather of humanity.

How hypocritic you’re to expect me as a chaste lady

While you’re known to have many in real or in fantasy,

Just proving yourself the king of your hypothetical dynasty.

Hypocrisy of the Men Dominated Society

No, no, I am not at all a feminist or feel that women should get anything more than the men. I never speak in favour of women as I do believe that gender never comes in between right or wrong. It's just a person who does an action, whether good or bad. It's not male or female but just the individual himself or herself responsible for his/her actions.

In the journey of my life, I have seen numerous men so chaste and earthly who don't even know what disloyalty means. At the same time, I have come across so many cunning and disrespectful women who don't have any idea about humanity or chastity.

But my observation of the well that I lived in doesn't signify the whole vast society, its norms, customs and regulations which have always been harsher for the women as compared to the men. It's okay for a man to cheat his wife but if a woman does the same she is considered as a witch. It's okay for a man to forget his responsibilities but a woman dare not do that. It's okay for a man to do whatever he wishes to but the woman will have numerous restrictions. Her eating, walking, communicating, doing the chores, everything is observed and expected to be done in a particular manner.

Recently, I was surprised to read an article on virginity where the data of those women were shared who go for some cosmetic surgery to get their hymen back. On amazon there was a capsule or some pouch with which fake blood could be shown to the husband just to prove the virginity. I was horrified with this height of obsession for virginity and with the fact that women too were accompanying this madness of the men.

© 2020 Anupam Mitu

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