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My Ego - A Poem

Vanita Thakkar is an Entrepreneur - an Engineer-Researcher-Consultant and an Artist - Singer-Composer-Poetess-Writer from Vadodara, Gujarat.


My Ego

How much have you suffered

Because of your notions of my ego ?

You degraded and maligned yours !

You got justifications to trouble me.

You are successful indeed !

Your hostility does harm me,

But, it will bear bitter fruits for you.

I am glad to give you happiness

From my miseries.

Do I not owe Thanks to you

For being better than worse ?

- Vanita Thakkar (20.03.2009)


Reflections ....

It is important to understand the difference between ego and self-respect in life.

What is self-respect for one person may appear as ego to another person.

Struggles for self-respect raise questions on sensitive matters concerning individual and social well-being, including :

  • traditions
  • self-image
  • identity .... and so on ....

Whether between / among individuals or small groups or large groups / communities, such mind games, in the name of perceptions, often involve use of various labels that usually carry importance on matters of collective interests, such as loyalty towards (many times, so-called)

  • accepted practices (that may be urgently requiring changes for good),
  • social concerns,
  • religion,
  • gender,
  • region,
  • languages,
  • belief systems and so on ....

The use of "by hook or crook" ideology keeps delaying justice / possible reconciliations.

Sometimes I wonder, why do people say there are clashes in ideologies, when actually in most cases, there are clashes between self-respect and greed or between greed on both sides, that causes much harm to whatever is being fought for.


Self-respect and Greed

Ego, Trust and Love ....

© 2021 Vanita Thakkar


Vanita Thakkar (author) on July 31, 2021:

Thanks a lot, Tuli. Glad to see you back and to hear from you. I am happy that you liked the poem and the article.

Lots of love and best wishes to you.

Tulii Banerjee from Kolkata on July 31, 2021:

Very nice Vanita. Beautifully expressed the words- ego, love, and respect. Since I am not regular in Hubpages, I am not updated with your's and other's posts always, so sorry for that. Thank you for this wonderful piece of writing.

Vanita Thakkar (author) on July 30, 2021:

Thanks, dear Lora.

You elaborated it so well !!

Delighted to read your comments.

Lots of love and best regards to you.

Vanita Thakkar (author) on July 30, 2021:

Hello, Brenda.

Thanks for your visit and insightful comments. You got it right and spot on.

Lora Hollings on July 30, 2021:

Vanita, you did an excellent job at describing people in your poem and article that either have too much ego or those that confuse self-respect with ego. I enjoyed your perceptions about how ego is defined by society and, of course, psychology. We all need to have greater awareness about the needs of others and to take responsibility for our actions to others. People don’t always own up to their actions and the hurt they cause others. I enjoyed your article!

BRENDA ARLEDGE from Washington Court House on July 29, 2021:


Some people have no respect for others. They let their ego do the walking.

Great write.

Vanita Thakkar (author) on July 29, 2021:

Thanks, dear Peggy for your thoughtful comments. Sincerely appreciated.

Best regards to you.

Peggy Woods from Houston, Texas on July 29, 2021:

I like the way you started with that quote from the Dalai Lama. Respect for oneself and others plus responsibility go a long way towards leading a fruitful life.

Vanita Thakkar (author) on July 29, 2021:

Some updates added - Reflections and polls.

I hope it adds clarity and meaning to the content and it’s context.

Vanita Thakkar (author) on July 27, 2021:

Thanks, MG Singhji.

Vanita Thakkar (author) on July 27, 2021:

Thanks, Wehzo.

MG Singh emge from Singapore on July 24, 2021:

A wonderful poem. Thanks for sharing

Wehzo on July 24, 2021:

I love this poem. It actually show the power of love.

Thank you for sharing it.

God bless,

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