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For Sisters Without Valentines on Valentine's Day

Ms. Dora is a Certified Christian Counselor. Her views on singleness, premarital and marital issues are influenced by her Christian beliefs.

Valentine's Day is a day for single women to celebrate themselves.

Valentine's Day is a day for single women to celebrate themselves.

Some women who have neither husbands nor sweethearts simply ignore Valentine’s Day, because it is associated with love and gift exchanges between couples. But given the established health and social benefits of friendship nowadays, love between friends deserves no less a celebration. While a friend does not substitute for a spouse, real friendship empowers the single person to appreciate and enjoy the single life.

So, single women groups are taking advantage of this colorful, heart-filled, chocolatey day to celebrate themselves. It’s their way of saying that the absence of romantic love does not leave them deprived, that they appreciate the value of the meaningful female friendships they have.

This presentation is dedicated to women, single and married who, for any reason, find themselves alone on Valentine’s Day. It encourages women to subscribe to the necessity and joy of sisterly connections. Enjoy the five sisterly-friendship quotes at the very end.

Sisters Together

Each feminine heart wants to be loved by a man,
And it’s not always her fault that she does not get her wish.
She may be the rarest, sincerest, debonairest gem in the heap,
But her quiet charm falls beneath the radars of the men
On whom she sets her sights, and they overlook her in favor of
Other women who are more eye-catching than she is.

“That’s the story of my life,” she’ll tell you when you ask her
For the reason that she spends one Valentine’s Day after another
Without her own Valentine.

You're not wrong because you're not right for someone.

You're not wrong because you're not right for someone.

But love from a person with broader shoulders and a tighter squeeze
And a beard is not the only love a woman needs.
Even the woman who gets the sexual thrill, and the spinal chill,
And breakfast in bed after her planned parenthood pill—
Even she will tell you that as satisfying as that physical love is,
There’s still a yearning in her heart for the love of a sister—
The sister whose love, although it does not substitute for manly love,
Will empower her to live joyfully and passionately without it.

For within a sister’s heart, there’s a sacred space which can only be filled
With grace and grandeur, wit and wisdom from her own kind.
She develops sensitivity and sufficiency in the nurture of other women
Who understand that their own worth is intertwined with hers.

Together, they flourish like vibrant branches on a sturdy tree,
And when the winds of womanhood cause some inevitable friction,
They sense each other’s pain beneath their nervous laughter,
They perceive each other’s cry for help within their silence,
They identify each other’s strength during the storm.
They scream honest dislikes about each other, then right after,
Laugh together, because their hearts are snuggly intertwined
Beyond severance.

Valentine's Day is a day for sisters to say how much they love each other.

Valentine's Day is a day for sisters to say how much they love each other.

So, here’s what sisters do together on Valentine’ Day
When men are absent.
They decorate their space with balloons and roses,
Delight their tastes with sweet, dark chocolate,
Breathe the cinnamon-scented whiff of red candles,
And talk about how much they love each other.

They celebrate their freedom to shine their light into each other’s hearts,
To dispel the dark of loneliness which makes some seem aloof,
To spread warmth to others who seem cold because they think nobody cares,
To dismiss the myth that men are better friends for women.

Valentine’s Day is a day for togetherness among women
Who love themselves, recognizing that the woman is God’s finest masterpiece.
They love Him first, for shaping them with His own hand,
No less than He did for the man.
They celebrate Him first, for the value He placed on them and their mothers,
In choosing them to bring life into the world.

They are grateful for the men who stand beside them
Even if only in other roles that are not romantically intimate.
And they celebrate their sisters who open their hearts to caring and sharing,
Repairing and forbearing with a gentleness that only sisters can.
They admire each other as they do lights upon a hill.
They bless the day when they spend time together
Basking in the love and prayers of sisters only.

5 Powerful Sisterly-Friendship Quotes

1. "Sisters make the best friends in the world." —Marilyn Monroe

2. "Is solace anywhere more comforting than that in the arms of a sister?" —Alice Walker

3. "We’re connected, as women. It’s like a spiderweb. If one part of that web vibrates, if there’s trouble, we all know it, but most of the time we’re just too scared, or selfish, or insecure to help. But if we don’t help each other, who will?" —Sarah Addison Allen

4. "The love of sisters needs no words. It does not depend on memories, or mementos, or proof. It runs as deep as a heartbeat. It is as ever-present as a pulse." —Lisa Wingate

5. "A sister is a gift to the heart, a friend to the spirit, a golden thread to the meaning of life." ―Isadora James

© 2022 Dora Weithers