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Married Life What It Is And What It Isn't


From My Own Experiences

I am no expert

Nineteen years of marriage

This is what I have learned

You both took vows to love each other

That's all I needed to know

From that point forward

Game on

I will do everything and anything to make it work

I threw out the excuse book

You may ask all kinds of questions

None are off the table

If my advice helps great

If it doesn't there are thousands of experts out there to tell you different

Let's begin

How is it to be married?

Amazing waking up in someone's arms

Going to bed after a busy day

With someone who has your best interest and supports you better than a back brace

Not all things in life are funny

That is true

But what else can I do?

I can be upset and aggravated

Then again I can find little bits of humor

That might change our minds and our outcome

So I share my marriage in an ongoing poem

It has a special place

It starts in my home

What do you do when you disagree?

I kiss more than ever

If we don't see eye to eye

I have to find a way to break down those roadblocks and barriers

A kiss does the trick

For we got married because we found love

That love started long before our first kiss

It was more what I wanted love to be

More what my wife wanted love to be

Together we made the sparks fly

Everything is o.k.

As I watched the fire department drive-by

So here is a glimpse

If you would like more

Come on over and knock on my door


DREAM ON (author) on October 25, 2020:

Sannyasi Raja When we are not married that is when we learn the most. You have so much to give and share. We do things that we like and don't like to do. Sometimes we are lazy and procrastinate. There are times we work too much and spend little time together. Before you are married is the perfect time to learn. If you have someone you really like you can pretend you are married and see at different times what your choices would be. Sometimes the same sometimes different. When they are different who is right or wrong. Maybe you both are half right. Do you learn or do you stay stubborn and stuck in your ways. Are you willing to compromise? You don't want to wait till your married to know what you really care about and the way you should and want to be treated. You are making the framework for the house that you build. Without a good foundation, the house could collapse. Then again if we do it right we don't have to fix it later. It could be small changes and they prevent big problems. Feel free to ask any questions and I will be happy to answer. You can e-mail me if you prefer. Life is filled with so many ups and downs. If you are with the right person you will ride the highs and lows. In the end, you will feel better than you have ever felt with someone by your side than you have felt by yourself. They will compliment you in ways that you never thought of. You will also be able to give more than you thought possible. I hope this gives you a little food for thought. Enjoy being single too. Then when the time comes hopefully you will love being married for all the right reasons. Life is short. it seems like we have all the time in the world. Then one day you would do anything to be twenty again. There is no going back. We can enjoy every step of the way. Then all we have to do is look into the future and what comes next. Thank you so much for reading and caring. I hope you both have a great day. You look so good together.

Sannyasi Raja from Durgapur, West Bengal, India on October 24, 2020:

I liked your perspective of married life as you have the real experience. You are casual and also serious when required. Not being married I don't have anything to share. But please share more of your observation and realization in your own style.

DREAM ON (author) on October 23, 2020:

Bill Holland I spent thirteen years in a relationship I thought was going to be the right one. Then when that didn't work out I wondered could there really be something better. Then love struck again and this time it was for keeps. We work hard and together we can accomplish so much. We have so many things in common and other things we like that are different. I wouldn't have been able to see that years ago. Things happen for a reason. Thank you so much for dropping in. My wife says she is the lucky one. I say I know I am. Marriage suits me to a t. I don't even have to make any alterations. (lol) Have a beautiful night. Enjoying the married life.

DREAM ON (author) on October 23, 2020:

Louise Powles If you know what you want and keep doing the things that make you happy when love comes along it might just be the right one. Unfortunately, sometimes you come across a few relationships that don't work out, and hopefully, they will lead you to the one you love. Thank you for reading and sharing. Have a nice night.

Louise Powles from Norfolk, England on October 23, 2020:

Marriage can be a wonderful thing if you find the right person.

Bill Holland from Olympia, WA on October 23, 2020:

That sums it all up perfectly. I love being married, and I had no idea I would ever say that again until I met my wife. The game changed after that moment, and it stopped being a game.

I hope this finds you well, my friend.

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