They say it's part of love
Normal for it to be in a love relationship
To co-exist with love
I’ve been mistaken to think that
The greater the love, the greater the jealousy
Insane jealousy is toxic
Its venomous power is deadly
It can cast a powerful spell on one's emotions
To drive one nuts and crazy like an idiot
To poison the entire being
Insane jealousy deprives man of his natural liberty
To be who he is
It can poison the bloodstream of a healthy relationship
It is a sleeping giant monster
Hiding behind the granite mask of love
When its ugly head is awakened
Tears and pain it causes
Many waters cannot quench the burning flames of jealousy
If there is a hell on earth, it would be a boyfriend or girlfriend's insane jealousy!
The Best Way to Deal With Jealousy
Jealousy is a monster...
...and can be detrimental in relationships if not taken firmly by its ugly horn and dealt with immediately once its head surfaces. We all experience thoughts and feelings of jealousy at some time in life or we may have been victims of jealousy. So how do we deal with insane jealousy?
Let us first consider some things that can trigger jealousy:
- Insecurity in a relationship that leads to possessive behavior.
- Comparing yourself with your partner's ex.
- Assuming that your partner is still in love with his or her ex.
- You make a mistake in your relationship and you hate yourself. Your partner distances himself and is happy and hangs out with others, you get insanely jealous.
- Constantly assessing your partner's love for you and get jealous when you assume he's better than you.
- Going through your partner's past life, dig up his or her past, and feel jealous about his/her past relationships.
- Feel jealous when one party cheats.
There are many other things that can cause jealousy. The reaction from the jealous party depends on the degree of jealously eating away at his/her heart. For some extreme insane jealousies, it can drive a sound mind crazy, and the person can be mentally deranged, causing physical harm.
Dealing with insane jealousy...
- Love yourself. Never hate yourself!
- Never compare yourself with another person, including your partner and his/her ex.
- Boost your self-esteem.
- Don't go to the cemetery digging up the dead (the past) because their ghosts will haunt your mind and heart, causing pain.
- Openly communicate with your partner. Tell him/her what makes you unhappy and how you feel.
In the negativity of jealousy, find the good or positive things about your partner and your relationship, and be grateful for them. Feel the gratitude and focus on the good things. And you'll see the situation change.
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BRENDA ARLEDGE from Washington Court House on October 28, 2019:
Jealousy comes in many forms. It destroys every part of your being...you cannot exist in true happiness for you are too busy trying to discover new facts.
Your advice is great.
Dana Tate from LOS ANGELES on April 26, 2013:
you are so right, jealousy is toxic and dangerous I have had a couple of relationships where my partner was jealous and the insecurities just turned me off. Nice hub voted up !
Isabella (author) from Outback Queensland on April 14, 2013:
Thank you PeachPurle.
peachy from Home Sweet Home on March 06, 2013:
interesting poem. Voted up
Isabella (author) from Outback Queensland on February 25, 2013:
Thank you Agaglia for these encouraging words.
Annette Gagliardi from Minneapolis on February 24, 2013:
Loved the illustration. Interesting poem and nice hub. You are off to a great start.
Isabella (author) from Outback Queensland on February 10, 2013:
Tirralan Watkins from Los Angeles, CA on February 10, 2013:
Nice poem naturalife. Jealousy is very toxic and ugly. That picture you chose just about sums up how it looks.