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Poem for Those Who Have Lost Their Mother: Do You Want to Talk About Her?

Mother and Child by the Hearth        by Theodore Robinson 1887

Mother and Child by the Hearth by Theodore Robinson 1887

Those Without a Mom

With Mother's Day coming up, there will be some who will be going through the day thinking of the Mom they have lost. Losing your own mother has to be one of the toughest losses there is, because your Mom literally was your tie to life, itself.

I lost my Mother nine years ago, to breast cancer, and it was devastating. She was my angel, my guide, my hero, my best friend. And she had been through the worst suffering possible, smiling and encouraging us, right to the end. I wrote this poem, about a year after her passing, in my intense grieving stage.

This poem is for anyone who has lost someone they love, especially their Mother, and who still want to talk about her. Talking about the person we still love is good for us: it honours them, it allows us to express the love that has been cut short by this person leaving this world.

Algerierin mit Kind, by Pierre-Auguste Renoir, 1882

Algerierin mit Kind, by Pierre-Auguste Renoir, 1882

Do You Want to Talk About Her?

Do you want to talk about her

Every minute of the day?

Do you always think about her

When you walk and when you pray?

Do you grieve the day she left us

With a constant aching song?

Do you call out with a fresh cry

When you realize she is gone?

Do you long to see her sweet face

One more time before you die?

Do you talk to her when you're alone

And wait for her reply?



Do you? Do you?

If you do,

I want to talk to you.

For I know you understand.

We are allies in our grief

In this dry and thirsty land.

We will hold unto each other

As we share in what is gone.

As we share in what is gone.



Summer, by Ivana Kobilca. 1889

Summer, by Ivana Kobilca. 1889

Did you know her dreams of wholeness;

Did you hold them in your hands?

Did you listen to her pain's cry

As she wrestled with the sands?

Did you walk beside her walking

As her body fell apart?

Did you love her gracefully

As she loved you from the start?

Did you try in some small way

To make life easier to bear?

Did you share in her burdens

By showing that you care?


Did you? Did you? This I want to know

If you did, I want to talk to  you,

For I know you were her friend.

You valued her as I did

And loved her to the end.

And loved her to the end.



Do you want to talk about her

Every minute of the day?

If you do,

Let's talk about her

Let's talk the night away.

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