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Poem for Those Who Have Lost Their Mother: Do You Want to Talk About Her?

Mother and Child by the Hearth        by Theodore Robinson 1887

Mother and Child by the Hearth by Theodore Robinson 1887

Those Without a Mom

With Mother's Day coming up, there will be some who will be going through the day thinking of the Mom they have lost. Losing your own mother has to be one of the toughest losses there is, because your Mom literally was your tie to life, itself.

I lost my Mother nine years ago, to breast cancer, and it was devastating. She was my angel, my guide, my hero, my best friend. And she had been through the worst suffering possible, smiling and encouraging us, right to the end. I wrote this poem, about a year after her passing, in my intense grieving stage.

This poem is for anyone who has lost someone they love, especially their Mother, and who still want to talk about her. Talking about the person we still love is good for us: it honours them, it allows us to express the love that has been cut short by this person leaving this world.

Algerierin mit Kind, by Pierre-Auguste Renoir, 1882

Algerierin mit Kind, by Pierre-Auguste Renoir, 1882

Do You Want to Talk About Her?

Do you want to talk about her

Every minute of the day?

Do you always think about her

When you walk and when you pray?

Do you grieve the day she left us

With a constant aching song?

Do you call out with a fresh cry

When you realize she is gone?

Do you long to see her sweet face

One more time before you die?

Do you talk to her when you're alone

And wait for her reply?

Do you? Do you?

If you do,

I want to talk to you.

For I know you understand.

We are allies in our grief

In this dry and thirsty land.

We will hold unto each other

As we share in what is gone.

As we share in what is gone.

Summer, by Ivana Kobilca. 1889

Summer, by Ivana Kobilca. 1889

Did you know her dreams of wholeness;

Did you hold them in your hands?

Did you listen to her pain's cry

As she wrestled with the sands?

Did you walk beside her walking

As her body fell apart?

Did you love her gracefully

As she loved you from the start?

Did you try in some small way

To make life easier to bear?

Did you share in her burdens

By showing that you care?

Did you? Did you? This I want to know

If you did, I want to talk to  you,

For I know you were her friend.

You valued her as I did

And loved her to the end.

And loved her to the end.

Do you want to talk about her

Every minute of the day?

If you do,

Let's talk about her

Let's talk the night away.


Alexis on October 08, 2019:

My Mamma passed away in July , She had a serious liver infection that came out of nowhere, Or it felt like.... She went to the hospital and never came back. The hospital never called us or told us how serious it was....It feels like she just vanished,I have 3 siblings who are still kids...Left with my dad . I feel , So sad sometimes, I feel like I can never talk about her because its a tragedy...But I want to talk about her all the time, I wish I could talk to her when I have problems. I wish we got to have that birthday party she was going to have for my son that weekend. I wish we could have gone to the beach and zoo. I wish she got to see my son grow. I miss her so much I could fall apart. My heart aches for her. I wish the last time I seen her wasn't in a funeral home. I wish she died as an old lady . I wish she wasn't 44. I miss her so dearly. I feel so alone about it.

Sharilee Swaity (author) from Canada on April 07, 2019:

Ram, I am so sorry for your losss. And yes, you are so right. She gives us that ultimate connection to our very selves. Take care, my friend.

Ram Di Mitr from Malaysia on March 19, 2019:

I so want to talk about her and its never enough. She left us 3 years ago and I miss her every day. there are times I wake up in the middle of the night with such fright in my heart and I am still shocked that she is no more. I miss her painfully and I wish I can see her face, touch her once more and hug her before the end of my life. You are so right that we are connected by this grief and you only know her worth once she is no more. A life without mother is living in a life so fake, you have all around you but you know no one will come wipe your face with love and love you for who you are unconditionally as mother would. sending my love and hugs to all those who have lost their most precious in life.

Sharilee Swaity (author) from Canada on September 25, 2014:

@virazoza, I am so sorry to hear of your very recent loss. So many blessings to you, too. I hope you hold all of those you love so close right now, as you are in this very difficult time.

I do apologize for taking so long to reply to your comment. I have been off of Hubpages, but am just now catching up on all of the comments.

Thank you so much for your kind comments about my mom, too. I will always miss her but am so glad I can also comfort others who are going through the same thing I did. Take good care.

Sharilee Swaity (author) from Canada on September 25, 2014:

@JayeWisdom, thank you so much for sharing your story. I know what you mean about imagining your Mom's reaction to things. I think that's so natural: to want to share the details of our lives with our Mom's and not having her there. Your Mom sounds like an amazing person, and I am sure she passed her wonderful qualities unto you. Please take care. Thank you so much for the beautiful comments, and I do apologize for not getting back to you sooner.

Nilesh oza from Mumbai on May 13, 2014:

just i m surfing saw ur Poem.... i m sorry to read your mom loss.

i cry after reading poem .......Because my mom pass away on 19 April 2014. I remember all her feelings and how she take care of me and family.........she is still with me in my heart.........

i understand ur feeling and your great loss...Take care...........many many blessings to you and yours.

Jaye Denman from Deep South, USA on May 11, 2014:

Beautiful and so true. More than five years after my dear Mom's death, I still look at her smiling photo and talk to her. I imagine how she would react to something new because she was a very enthusiastic person with a great love of life. She's still with me in my heart, but you can't hug and kiss a photo on Mother's Day.

Voted Up, Beautiful and Awesome


Insightful Tiger on May 04, 2013:

Thank you, same to you:)

Sharilee Swaity (author) from Canada on May 04, 2013:

Insightful Tiger, I am sorry to hear about your Mom. I am so happy that my poem touched your heart, and allowed to feel free. Sometimes that is the beauty of poetry -- that it can express feelings like nothing else can do. Please take care, from one motherless woman to another. And especially this Mother's Day coming up.

Insightful Tiger on April 28, 2013:

Such a sweet poem. I realized that the sadness I hide from people when they find out my mother died 15 years ago, I have also hid from myself.

Your poem is like a friend that let's you let your guard down. Thank you for sharing it with us.

your friend


Sharilee Swaity (author) from Canada on April 22, 2012:

@Curiad, I will definitely go and have a look at your poem, too. I am so sorry for your loss. It is very fresh for you. Take care and thanks for the comment.

Sharilee Swaity (author) from Canada on April 22, 2012:

@Jom, thank you so much for your compassionate words. Blessings to you and yours!

Fpher, I am sorry for your loss. That must have been devastating for you and your family. I am glad that this poem touched you. I like when something I write can reach out to others who are going through something of the same. It is how we can help each other heal. Take care and many blessings to you and yours.

Curiad on April 21, 2012:

A beautiful poem. I lost my mom on March 1sr 2010 holding her hand. I too wrote a poem and story for her.

Thank you for this!

Suzie from Carson City on April 21, 2012:

prairieprincess.....your words have touched my heart so deeply yet gently....my eyes are filled with tears. It will be 9 years since my own sweet Mom left us....while still in the depths of grief from losing my precious sister, only 3 months before......

Thank you so much....this is simply stunning....you have amazing talent......UP+++

Jonathan McCloskey from Cinnaminson, New Jersey on April 21, 2012:

Your poem is great, prairieprincess, the way you repeated key lines was absolutely perfect. I do apologize for your loss and hope only good things await for you in the long life ahead.

Sharilee Swaity (author) from Canada on April 21, 2012:

Till, I appreciate you letting me know. It was a very emotional poem for me to write and I so am glad that it resonated with you, too. Six years isn't very long when it comes to losing your Mom and it sounds like it's still hard for you.

I think losing a mother is unlike anything else, isn't it? Take care and blessings to you.

Mary Craig from New York on April 21, 2012:

It is difficult to even express how much this poem touched me. It's been almost six years since my Mom passed away and as I read each line of your poem I was reliving our time together and her stroke and trying to be there. I have to vote this up, beautiful and SHARE.

Sharilee Swaity (author) from Canada on October 23, 2011:

PDX, that can make things really hard. Thanks for the comment.

Justin W Price from Juneau, Alaska on October 23, 2011:

Oh, I love her, but she's mentally ill and doesn't medicate so it's hard to be around her for too long.

Sharilee Swaity (author) from Canada on October 23, 2011:

PDX, thanks for dropping by and for your kind words. I'm sorry about you and your Mom. Take care.

Justin W Price from Juneau, Alaska on October 23, 2011:

Beautiful poem. Voted up. Sorry for your loss. Makes me wish I got along better with my mom

Sharilee Swaity (author) from Canada on August 27, 2011:

Phum, I can't imagine losing a mother that young. How devastating that must be. What you are going through is completely normal. I hope you have someone kind in your life that can love you through this. There is no one like your mother in life. Thank you so much for commenting. Your reactions are completely normal and I hope you are able to find some place of comfort in your life. Take care and God bless you.

Phumzile ndala on August 27, 2011:

I lost my mother at the age of 13 yearz. She died frm hiv/aids loosing her was like im alone in this world i even commited suicide bt i waz saved early. nw im 15 nd i mic her so much 2 me its lyk xe died yesterday bcoz nw im suffering lyk is nt the sym witout hr. Im gwng through hard tyms sumtyms i go 2 bed with empty stomach

Sharilee Swaity (author) from Canada on April 09, 2011:

Tsmog, what a beautiful tribute to your Mom and Dad: a garden. With a fountain, no less! Your passion for your beautiful parents sounds so strong. My Mom absolutely adored flowers, and birds, especially hummingbirds. It sounds like your Mom and my Mom would have got on famously. Thank you and bless you for dropping by ... I look forward to it. Take care.

Tim Mitchell from Escondido, CA on April 09, 2011:

Beautiful poem Prairieprincess. My mom was (is) my best friend. I do miss her much. She and my dad (also passed now) were the inspiration for my garden. I made it with the thought they could sit together listening to the fountains in the bird baths while watching the hummingbirds and butterflies. Thank you for touching my heart , , ,

Sharilee Swaity (author) from Canada on April 06, 2011:

kashmir, I know exactly what you mean. And two years is not very long, to have lost your mother. Thank you for your kindness, and blessings to you...

Sharilee Swaity (author) from Canada on April 06, 2011:

wheelinallover, it sounds like you and your family have been through the mill. wow. I think we wonder how we will make it, when there is so much loss, all at once. And there is no one like a mother, to love you. I can feel for your loss. Take care.

Sharilee Swaity (author) from Canada on April 06, 2011:

Dave, I am so sorry for your pain. My heart goes out to you, and I ask for God's comfort to you. There is no one like our mother, in this world. Blessings to you and your family.

Sharilee Swaity (author) from Canada on April 06, 2011:

Denise, wow, I am so sorry! How painful to lose her on Christmas Day ... I think all without mothers share a bond. Take care.

Thomas Silvia from Massachusetts on April 06, 2011:

Hi praireprincess.a very beautifully written poem ! I lost my mom two years ago, when something reminds me of her it still feel like i just lost her .

Awesome and vote up !!!

Dennis Thorgesen from Beatrice, Nebraska U.S. on April 06, 2011:

Beautiful poem prairieprincess My mother passed from cancer in 2004. Three days before her death the hardest year of my life started with the death of her youngest child's father. Two of her daughters and two of her sons were at her bedside till the call about "dad" came in. They left that day and never returned while mom was alive. While we were trying clean up mom's estate we found out my oldest half brother had died also. Another sister would have been at mom's bedside but she was sick herself so we kept her up to date by phone. She and her daughter died of the same disease in January of 2005. My oldest half sister called in March and told me her father had passed also. The two men had at one point been an active part of my life, my brother my best friend, my sister a well loved pain in the backside, her daughter a little angel. All these pale in comparison to the love I had for my mother.

Dave Mathews from NORTH YORK,ONTARIO,CANADA on April 06, 2011:

Prarieprincess: This is one day, where I become, lost over. Although Mom is still alive, with her advanced alzheimers, she is no longer Mom. All I can do is to cling to the memory of who Mom was, not is.

Denise Handlon from North Carolina on April 06, 2011:

Beautiful poem, praireprincess. I lost my mom to cancer in 2003-Christmas Day! I can relate to your feelings.

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