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Embodying the wisdom of " what if's "

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Freedom from what if's

Freedom from what if's


Since we love utilizing our energy on things
That haven't happened yet
We love risking our time molding a scenery of thousands of what if's to eat our brain


Have you noticed how seemingly immune your brain system with this?
The following are the most common


You left with a bad conversation with your parents-
while you're sipping coffee a thought came out out of the wall clock,
What if their going to hate me for the rest of my life?
What if mum plunged into heart attack of being so mad ?
What if my entire family would hate me!?


You leave a serious comment on social media post
Later on your what if's
starts eating your brain-

What if they'll misunderstood my comment ?
What if they're going to criticize me?
They're probably going to hate me!!!


You had a fight with your spouse last night
There you are
staring at the ceiling banging your head on the walls
What if he'd ask for divorce?
What if he'd left me?
What if he'd hate me,? what if he already decided of leaving before I even try to fix the misunderstanding?


" We are more often frightened

Than hurt; And we suffer more from

Imagination than from reality. "

_Seneca


So here's the point -
" What if you stop solving-
without
Knowing the REAL problem? "

What if's are part of our life,

but assuming and believing those thoughts

are more likely to happen and that you're foretold

as if your a psychic -


PSYCHIC may be true in some sort
But here's the thing and the truth.

" What might happen tomorrow,
It depends on what decisions you make today."


the problem in here is
We're talking about your life, your spouse,

your friends, your family
The situation is no joke
And you're not a PSYCHIC


Stop relying and spending your energy

predicting on things
that haven't happened yet
Instead, and the best thing you should

be doing is to face the problem
Not running.


sit down and speak out your reasoning

behind those words and actions
Connect and listen carefully

to the other person
do not focused your attention

on your truth right and wrong


If you keep practicing this habits-

You'll probably locked up in this thought-
Sabotaging,

you will never be able to make

a reality move everytime you just watched

your what If's play and eating your brain-

Instead of putting it to reality questions

and reality actions
If you always keep your what if's play on repeat
You will always be tapped out

and will end up eating your brain.

Comments

Chrish Canosa (author) from Manila Philippines on October 13, 2020:

Very well Ms Sharan :-) thanks for sharing your thoughts as well, I do appreciate it!!

So good to hear this article make sense to you!!! I hope you have a fantastic day out there.

Chrish Canosa (author) from Manila Philippines on October 13, 2020:

Yes Ms Lorna that's true like how I always remind my self this line " Self compassion " -acceptance without judgement. I always make sure I'm ready for the consequences for all the decisions I have been through.

Have a beautiful day Ms Lorna:-) I'm always happy to see you here!!!

Chrish Canosa (author) from Manila Philippines on October 13, 2020:

Great day sir Dierker!

Glad it make sense to you :-) thanks a bunge for the comments I consider it as my guide for my writing journey.

Chrish Canosa (author) from Manila Philippines on October 13, 2020:

Indeed Sir John! I'm trying to defeat my what if's too(I always end up cutting my thoughts with omg stop stop:-D) I do appreciate your feedback O:-) God bless and have a great day

Chitrangada Sharan from New Delhi, India on October 09, 2020:

Nice and thought provoking poem.

It’s a good reminder that we must focus on the present. The past is gone, it’s over, and the future is unpredictable. Only if, we concentrate on our work and responsibilities of the present, we can have a better future.

Makes sense to me, to stop asking ‘What if—‘, whether it relates to the past or future.

Thank you for sharing.

Lorna Lamon on October 08, 2020:

I think we have all done this at some point in our lives, however, perhaps if we change our way of thinking we could turn a 'what if' into a 'it could have been worse' moment.

We all need to keep moving forward and not get stuck in events we now have no control over. Yes we will always make decisions we may come to regret, however, we can learn from them and move on. Great article Chrish - got me thinking.

Eric Dierker from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A. on October 08, 2020:

Well done and causes me great thought. I sometimes do past tense "what if's" but then I realize how good it is now and feel it is as it should be. You remind me to take that forward as well.

John Hansen from Queensland Australia on October 08, 2020:

Good work, Chrish. I used to be really bad thinking of all the "what ifs"..what if this happens?, what if I do that?" It does us no good worrying about what may happen and that we have no control over. It just makes us stressed and unhappy. Thank you for sharing. I love the image you used.