Don't Verbally Pamper Someone's Self-Inflicted Pain: A Rhyme With Message

Val enjoys writing his own style of what resembles poetry, just hoping to catch someone's heart on the same page.

You are responsible for your life. You can't keep blaming somebody else for your dysfunction. Life is really about moving on.

-- Oprah Winfrey

When a balanced person gets in the emotional mess

it's human and noble to approach them with support

to mend their wounds and to minimize their stress

give up much of our own comfort as last resort.

I've done it more often than I would care to brag

"a silly saint" some called me for my soft heart

none of those many deeds wore a price tag

but life taught me about need to go smart.

You don't help with pampering those self-inflicted pains

while some people just refuse to get to their sense

as if in their life mission to torment their brains

moping around with victimhood pretense.

First few days you feed hungry man nourishing dish

because he may be too weak and in a big need

but then you teach him to catch his own fish

or he turned into mockery a good deed.

Thus I've been showing the way

by often pointing at nature of a mess

and then how to keep all suffering at bay

those issues not to pamper -- but to address.

That's when I stopped being a "silly saint" any more

"a heartless asshole" it was, even if not openly said

as I stopped pampering miserable brats like before

now expecting them to start using their own head.

Well, I had to do it with myself-- so I know the drill

it's not others' solemn duty to make me feel good

at the end of the day -- it's always me and my will

to do something for my happiness, and my mood.

Your best friend is not always the one

who keeps pulling you out of the deep end

but unlike all noble gestures that are said and done

the one who throws you in water may be your true friend.

© 2022 Val Karas