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Dear Friend Goodbye

Nithya Venkat enjoys writing about nature and different aspects of life in the form of poetic verses.


This is a poem about how friendships suddenly come to an end. I guess that we all have faced this situation sometime or the other in life.

Down the years, you still keep thinking why and what went wrong.

Dear friend

Am saying goodbye

Don’t know how

Don’t know why

That we are here today

At this sad moment

Parting ways for no reason

I cannot think of even one

Can you?

I cannot

All I remember is, us having fun

Laughing together

Supporting one another

Sharing secrets with each other

That we would never tell anyone

Do you not remember, dear friend

All those happy days

When fun never used to end


All ended

Don’t know how

We are at this very moment

Parting ways

I cannot even think of one reason

That we are here today

Saying Goodbye

Can You?

Goodbye my friend

Goodbye my friend

Is this the end?

Goodbye my friend

Is this the end

End of the world

Where you and I

Were friends

It does not have to be this way

You and I

We can talk

See how far we can go

We may not agree

But that is okay


Is more than just agreeing

In the world of friendship

It is totally okay

To agree to disagree

And still be friends

I hope you see things this way

So that we can forget goodbyes

And be friends again

© 2015 Nithya Venkat


Nithya Venkat (author) from Dubai on June 05, 2020:

It is tough when you don’t know the reason why good friends part ways. Thank you for your visit and comments.

BRENDA ARLEDGE from Washington Court House on June 05, 2020:

Yes, friendships seem to fade.

It saddens my heart when this happens...left wondering what happened.

It tends to make me leary of being too close to any one friend again.

Nice write.

Nithya Venkat (author) from Dubai on September 26, 2017:

Chitrangada Sharan you are so right, both sides are going to miss out a lot if they do not patch up. A second chance is a great way to go, thank you for taking the time to read and comment.

Chitrangada Sharan from New Delhi, India on September 24, 2017:

Very well expressed poem! Goodbyes are hard and if it happens due to some misunderstandings, it becomes very difficult to recover from it. I think both sides are going to miss , therefore it must be given a second chance to rethink and patch up before friends decide to part ways.

Beautiful poem but I can feel the pain!

Thanks for sharing!

Nithya Venkat (author) from Dubai on January 29, 2017:

rdsparrowiter yes you have said it so well, better to let go with a heart full of blessings. Thank you for your visit and comment.

Rochelle Ann De Zoysa from Moratuwa, Sri Lanka on January 29, 2017:

It is sad when friendships are broken. I always dream of having friendships that long last in spite of the time differences and the distances. But then again there are friendships that you cannot force in order to keep it, but rather let it go with a heart full of blessings to the departed.

Nithya Venkat (author) from Dubai on September 04, 2016:

Nellieanna thank you for your valuable comments. I love what you have written and it is so true -

Love and friendship are not contracts or guarantees to be enforced and 'called in'. It is beautiful only when mutual and fully wanted and accepted by both parties. Otherwise, it is something else.

Thank you.

Venkatachari M thank you for reading and sharing your comments.

Venkatachari M from Hyderabad, India on September 03, 2016:

True, Nellieanna. Even though we are separated by time and distances, most of us remain friends forever with same love and affections. That's a great quality of true friendship. I love your everlasting affection and love towards all of us. Wish you a long life and abounding happiness. Seeking your blessings.

Nellieanna Hay from TEXAS on September 03, 2016:

Let me add that I feel sympathy for your loss, Vellur, or for anyone whose feelings are raw and aching. Accepting a personal loss is not easy. I've lost almost all my most beloved people to death and it has its ache and its abiding sense of loss.

Your beautiful poetry is poignant and sweet in a bittersweet way and it captures the feeling that is sincerely and deeply felt. I hope the pain fades and the awareness that it was as it had to be replaces it. Hugs, my dear.

I also sympathize with those others who have expressed their own sense of loss and grief at losing someone.

Nellieanna Hay from TEXAS on September 03, 2016:

Friends I've had a lifetime have often been 'absent' for lengthy periods but when we got together or heard from each other it was as if no time had passed. We were still friends who loved each other and delighted in our friendship. Perhaps one or both of us had changed due to changes in our lives, but the abiding connection we'd shared had not changed.

Sometimes the time lapse had changed a connection somewhat, but it was not negative. and we could pick it up and allow it to blossom again or just let it be. Other times, something that had always been a factor that we had both accepted or ignore earlier had simply become less acceptable to one or both of us, but not to the point that we felt any animosity or need to make an issue of it. We still had pleasant memories of our friendship isn it had been.

Possibly some people whom I liked or valued simply ceased desiring or seeking my company and disappeared, but if so, it didn't feel like a loss or even a rejection to me, but merely their prerogative for their own reasons. In fact, I can think of nothing worse than trapping someone. I do not want anyone to feel obligated if no longer interested or if it becomes tiresome, unimportant, burdensome or for whatever reason for their letting it go.

It may have occurred the other way around at my own choice, and ended without 'drag' or recriminations from the other person. But if someone will not accept and let go out of respect for the other's prerogative, but pursues insistent one-sided communication, while claiming it is because of her/his love and friendship, that kind of love is seriously questionable and better justifies moving away from it.

Love and friendship are not contracts or guarantees to be enforced and 'called in'. It is beautiful only when mutual and fully wanted and accepted by both parties. Otherwise, it is something else.

Nithya Venkat (author) from Dubai on June 20, 2016:

FlourishAnyway so sorry about your loss and yes he did not judge. Take care.

FlourishAnyway from USA on June 20, 2016:

Back to take a look. I've just buried my 14-year-old cat, Shep, whom we called "the best cat ever." I got him as a kitten when I did rescue work with a friend, and he lasted a lot longer than the human friendship. He didn't judge, was always there.

Robin Grosswirth from New York on May 07, 2015:

She wasn't, as it turned out, a friend. I do not know that the future holds anything great for me, but thank you. I can only reside in the "now."

Nithya Venkat (author) from Dubai on May 06, 2015:

RobinGrosswirth23 sorry that you lost your best friend, it is difficult to get over it but we have to move all and am sure the future has many great surprises for you.

Robin Grosswirth from New York on May 06, 2015:

A great topic, and one that I have been challenged with myself these past 4 1/2 years in losing my best friend.

A friend should walk in the doors when the other is in trouble, but I later learned that my once thought of best friend walked out and away forever.

I had thought I had found my soul mate friendship years ago in meeting her. She was quirky and loads of fun--made me laugh all the time. She was generous, like me, sensitive and caring, but I guess with a limit as I later learned.

So yes, this poem resonated with me tremendously. Great idea and great execution.

Thanks, Robin

Nithya Venkat (author) from Dubai on April 29, 2015:

LadyFiddler you are so right, we should do what soothes us the most. Thank you for stopping by, much appreciated.

Joanna Chandler from On Planet Earth on April 29, 2015:

Well in life these things happen, sometimes we get to attached to that particular person and we think nothing will ever go wrong.

I have been in situations like these before... I think somewhere along the lines a link go missing, mistrust, jealousy etc. Or sometimes someone else befriends them. I guess you should weigh it out and do what best soothe you.

Nithya Venkat (author) from Dubai on April 06, 2015:

Docmo, nice to see you here! Thank you.

Mohan Kumar from UK on April 06, 2015:

A poignant goodbye, Nithya, heartfelt and emotive. Well done.

Nithya Venkat (author) from Dubai on March 13, 2015:

Ruchira thank you, that is the best thing to do, move on. Hugs back to you.

Ruchira from United States on March 13, 2015:

This was beautiful, Nithya.

I have also had such moments in my life, where dunno what went wrong, but have graduated from the affair thinking that maybe we were meant to be till then...


Nithya Venkat (author) from Dubai on March 13, 2015:

Thelma Alberts it is really sad when you don't know the reason why, I understand. Thank you for your visit.

Thelma Alberts from Germany on March 11, 2015:

I can relate to this. I have a friend who don´t even try to call back. I don´t know why. I don´t know what happened. It´s sad to say goodbye. Beautiful poem!

Nithya Venkat (author) from Dubai on March 10, 2015:

AudreyHowitt yes goodbyes are hard. Thank you.

Audrey Howitt from California on March 10, 2015:

Goodbyes are so very hard--felt this one!

Nithya Venkat (author) from Dubai on March 08, 2015:

AliciaC thank you for your visit.

Linda Crampton from British Columbia, Canada on March 07, 2015:

This is a lovely but very sad poem, Vellur. Thank you for sharing it.

Nithya Venkat (author) from Dubai on March 07, 2015:

Sunshine625 thank you, you are right everything happens for a reason.

fpherj48 it is always better to know why a friendship ended. Thank you for reading and sharing your experiences, thanks for the many votes too.

tobusiness thank you for reading and your thoughtful comment.

Jo Alexis-Hagues from Lincolnshire, U.K on March 07, 2015:

All the people we encounter on this journey of life add value, however, there are times when even the best friendship can become strained. But this is when good friends talk to each other, and shouldn't be left asking what just happened? I've lost friends for various reasons, most often it's because I've moved or traveled abroad, always meaning to stay intouch but somehow miss that window of opportunity. For me, the friendships that stood the test of time seem to be the ones forged early on in life. Saying goodby is never easy, especially when the reason for parting remains unclear. A sad emotive poem, thought provoking and touching.

Suzie from Carson City on March 07, 2015:

Gosh Vellur.....I hate to be the odd man out...but any really good friend I have ever had in my life for any length of time....who suddenly disappeared, I know precisely WHY. Other than those I have lost through death of course, the others who are gone from my life I simply walked away from for very valid reason.

There are 4 former long term friends in particular whom I have had zero contact with in years, strictly by choice. In all cases I did not take the time to say "Good Bye" nor give an explanation. It's simple. They did not deserve even the slightest courtesy from me, nor did I feel obligated to explain myself.

(Since they are not stupid women, I'm sure they all are fully aware of why I abruptly ended all forms of communication with them and did not respond to any of their attempts.) None of these 4 knew one another, BTW and the demise of the friendships were at different times for different serious reasons. I refuse to play silly games and I cannot tolerate melodrama. There was no reason for me to elaborate, IMHO.

I do feel for you and your sadness. I will hope that you are able to resolve this or somehow comes to terms with this loss. You deserve true, loving friendships.....UP+++

Linda Bilyeu from Orlando, FL on March 07, 2015:

I have said goodbye many times. Always for a reason. It is when a goodbye is not said and a friend is made to wonder...why??? that I do not like. Yet, every thing happens for a reason. Fabulous poem. Turn that frown upside down and smile! :)

Nithya Venkat (author) from Dubai on March 07, 2015:

Frank Atanacio they are sad. Thank you for reading and the vote up.

Frank Atanacio from Shelton on March 07, 2015:

no good-byes come sweet without sorrow.. love the poem ended in a question.. voted up and sad

Nithya Venkat (author) from Dubai on March 07, 2015:

dghbrh thank you for reading and your lovely comment. Thanks for the vote up and share.

deergha from ...... a place beyond now and beyond here !!! on March 07, 2015:

Very true and so very beautifully done. You are right here, may be everybody has gone through this.

Thank you for this share. Shared and voting up beautiful.

Nithya Venkat (author) from Dubai on March 06, 2015:

Uzochukwu Mike, that is how I feel too but fate may dictate otherwise..

manatita44 thank you and yes very painful.

manatita44 from london on March 06, 2015:

A painful experience for sure. Thanks for sharing.

Okwuagbala Uzochukwu Mike P from Anambra State, Nigeria on March 06, 2015:

This Poem is well written, but I do not want to say goodbye to any of my best friends.

Nithya Venkat (author) from Dubai on March 06, 2015:

jhamann thank you for taking the time to read and leaving a lovely comment.

Jamie Lee Hamann from Reno NV on March 05, 2015:

Beautiful poetry, I felt deeply with your every word. Thank you. Jamie

Nithya Venkat (author) from Dubai on March 05, 2015:

The Examiner-1 hope you could reconnect with your friend. Thank you for sharing, tweeting and pinning, much appreciated.

FlourishAnyway thank you, it is sad.

FlourishAnyway from USA on March 05, 2015:

So sad. Many of us have been there. I wish you well.

The Examiner-1 on March 05, 2015:

I vote this up beacuse it is so true Nithya. I had one real friend from after HS before I left the northern states and wish that we had kept in touch. I shared, Tweeted and pinned this.


Nithya Venkat (author) from Dubai on March 05, 2015:

Venkatachari M thank you for your appreciation and vote up.

Gypsee Rose Lee thank you for reading and the vote up. It really is sad when friends part ways.

Gypsy Rose Lee from Daytona Beach, Florida on March 05, 2015:

Voted up and awesome. It is so sad when friendships come to an end. Nicely said.

Venkatachari M from Hyderabad, India on March 04, 2015:

It's so beautiful, Nitya. You expressed the feelings so well. It makes me depressed also thinking of those moments. So excellently crafted.

Thanks for sharing it. Voted up and beautiful.

Nithya Venkat (author) from Dubai on March 04, 2015:

mary615 it is sad when we do not know why and sometimes very unsettling. Thank you for the vote up.

tillsontitan thank you for taking the time to read and the vote up.

Jodah yes time and distances or any disagreement can end up in goodbyes. I feel it is really upsetting when we do not know why good friendships come to an end. Thank you for the vote up.

billybuc thank you and maybe as you say it is sometimes necessary I guess.

Jackie thank you for reading and the share.

DDE you are so right, not everyone reacts the same way. Thank you for your appreciation.

CathrineGiordano yes it is very sad, thank you for your visit.

pstraubie48 thank you. When old friends meet again after a long time it gets really awkward because we have nothing common to talk about and we are so different. Thank you for sending the angels!

CrisSp thank you and as you say if it is necessary and for the best then we have to move on though it may break hearts.

travmaj thank you. Re-connecting can gets awkward as you say, over time so many things change.

travmaj from australia on March 04, 2015:

Vellur - I can connect with your poetry and words of sadness.

Many friends move on and often, if we re-connect at a later time, we realise how different we are. Perhaps that was always an issue we couldn't see so clearly. Your words are beautifully expressed - thank you

CrisSp from Sky Is The Limit Adventure on March 04, 2015:

This is sad but many can very much relate. I personally hate goodbyes but find it necessary in life and what's important is that we all learn to move on.

Nice, relate-able poem.

Patricia Scott from North Central Florida on March 04, 2015:

Yes I have ...I had a most dear bosom friend as Anne of Green Gables would say...we were the best of friends till I was 18...and I moved away. then the waters parted and never came together again.

I met up with her when we were both in our 40s...and it was uncomfortable and awkward and sad...

thank goodness that only happened once.

Well expressed...it spoke to the feelings

Angels are on the way to you this afternoon ps

Catherine Giordano from Orlando Florida on March 04, 2015:

It is sad when a friendship ends.

Devika Primić from Dubrovnik, Croatia on March 04, 2015:

Losing a friend or someone close to you can be a painful experience. Not everyone reacts in the same in the case of losing someone. Beautifully expressed by you here.

Jackie Lynnley from the beautiful south on March 04, 2015:

Even if we do know why; it is still very sad it has to be that way. Great writing! Sharing.

Bill Holland from Olympia, WA on March 04, 2015:

Painful for sure, but at times necessary for growth and peace of mind. You captured it perfectly.

Ruby Jean Richert from Southern Illinois on March 04, 2015:

This reminds me of a lost friend I had when I lived in Missouri. We were so close. When I moved we still kept in touch, then slowly we drifted apart. Sad poem that many can relate to...Voted up..

John Hansen from Queensland Australia on March 04, 2015:

Vellur, as you say most of us can relate to losing friends at various times in our lives. Sometimes time and distance causes you to just drift apart, sometimes there is a disagreement, other times it happens with not knowing why. This is a sad but poignant poem. Voted up.

Mary Craig from New York on March 04, 2015:

I think we can all relate to this poem. It happens and we don't know why. You've put it into words beautifully.

Voted up and interesting.

Mary Hyatt from Florida on March 04, 2015:

I have lost so many friends over the years. Some have died, and others just disappear from my life and I never know why.

Voted UP.

Nithya Venkat (author) from Dubai on March 04, 2015:

Faith Reaper thank you, you made my day! Thank you for the tweet, pin, G+ and share, much appreciated.

Faith Reaper from southern USA on March 04, 2015:

It is so hard when a friendship seems to have ended and one really does not understand why. Your poem is excellent and poignant.

Up ++++ tweeting, pinning, G+ and sharing


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