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Cougar Women

I cut my teeth writing on Hubpages back in 2009. I've written 17 novels, numerous songs, and short stories since. I love to write love.

Beauty is ageless in the eyes of those who can see.


As I remember, from a boy's point of view, older women were more a part of young fantasies than girls. While the girls rolled their eyes at his antics, an older womanwould smile. She was smiling, not to embarrass him. She wasn't really impressed that he could juggle his shoes and hat while blowing a bubble gum bubble. She was just being nice.

Of course, he thought that one little smile meant she wanted to ravage his body, especially if she was recently divorced. Usually teachers or moms of friends couldn't resist the 14 hairs he had on his chest. The most embarrassing moments were voice changes and trying to hide swelling when his friend's mom was walking around in a swimsuit.

Boys learn how to lie from turning fantasy into a great story about having wild sex with an older woman. The boy dare not reveal her name because he is so honorable. He promised her he would never kiss and tell. Older women are simply a mystery to boys and it doesn't stop there.

When boys become young men, they are very attracted to young women but that older woman thing still lingers in their minds. If they find themselves in a relationship with an older woman, they usually screw it up by treating her like a girlfriend. A older woman can read him faster than a cheap comic book. She has dealt with men, she knows men, she is smart.

The "Cougar Woman" has been around since the beginning of relationships. It isn't a new fad, it is just talked about more through the media outlets. I wrote a song about such a relationship more than twenty years ago. Here are the Lyrics:

Cougar Woman

I was 23 and she was 41

We watched the sun come up seven days

She was too wise and I was to young

I thought for sure she would see things my way

I said, "I love you" and she said, "Boy, there's more to love than meets your eyes."

She stood up with just my shirt on and said, "Let's make a good...goodbye."


Time takes beauty to the heart

And brings it out again

We were some 18 years apart

If I could go back to then

We would still be lovin'


She is 49 and I am 31

I met her accidentally yesterday

She still looks beautiful and young

I mentioned love and she said, "It's too late."

But she said yes when she heard me say


Time takes beauty to the heart

And brings it out again

We were some 18 years apart

If I could go back to then

We would still be lovin'

To Hear the song on Reverb Nation

I don't know for sure but I believe you have to be a man to really appreciate an older woman. I could use the old,"vintage wine" line here but it just sounds lame. I don't even think it is about sexual or emotional experience either.

I think that older women carry a kind of mystery in their hearts that men search for and never find. I just never felt that when I was dating younger women in my 20s. I see a kind of intensity in older women's eyes that takes years to develop. There is peace in her smile but one had best not disturb that peace.

I believe that an older woman can have a wonderful relationship with a younger man, if he indeed is a worthy man.

Even the "Old Days" had Cougar Women.


Loving to dance.

I am not going to pretend that I know a lot about women. I do know that women want love, respect and security. Any man who has ever claimed to figure women out is a man who doesn't know what rolling her eyes means.

Back in the 1980s, I played guitar and sang in a Country band. One of my favorite songs to sing was called,"Older Women," originally recorded by Roddy McDowell. From 18 to 80, the ladies would hit the dance floor and sing along with me.

One of my fondest memories was playing that song for them. They were all beautiful.

Older Women by Roddy McDowell

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