FlourishAnyway is an Industrial/Organizational psychologist committed to uplifting and educating others to be reach their full potential.
Born Still: Child We Already Knew
Pink, yellow, blue
Child we already knew.
No milk-sweet breath, no tiny yawn
No late night feedings, then up at dawn,
But we knew you.
No first words or midnight cries,
No ABCs or lullabies,
But we knew you.
We knew the hopes we had for you
And the joys of expecting you
And our dreams of who you might be
Half your Dad, half of me.
You were wanted and waited for, then born to us, still
We love you now and always will.
We held your dainty fingers,
Kissed your sleeping face
Looked for signs of life, searching just in case.
Perfect, small, and already with God.
Pink, yellow, blue ...
Child we already knew.
This poem is dedicated to my sister who gave birth in 2009 to a stillborn daughter, Lacey. "Stillbirth" refers to fetal death at 20 weeks of life or beyond, whereas miscarriage refers to the loss of a pregnancy prior to 20 weeks of gestation. In the U.S., for every 167 births, there is one stillbirth, leaving families to mourn at a time when they were expecting to be celebrating new life.
I read this poem at her funeral and presented the book below to my nephews to help them in understanding the loss.
Help Siblings Understand Their Loss
© 2013 FlourishAnyway
FlourishAnyway (author) from USA on September 09, 2020:
Peggy - That's very sad. Thank you for reading and commenting. My sister is still very much affected by it, especially around the anniversary of her death.
Peggy Woods from Houston, Texas on September 09, 2020:
This beautiful poem could serve to ease the pain of all those who suffer the loss of a stillborn child. While our neighbors a few houses down did not have a stillborn child, they did give birth to a little girl who only lived a couple of hours before she died—such a heartache for them and all parents like them.
Lacey will always be in your sister's and your entire family's hearts. The reunion in heaven will be wondrous!
FlourishAnyway (author) from USA on June 10, 2020:
MG - Thank you.
MG Singh emge from Singapore on June 09, 2020:
Flourish, is a very touching poem and brings all of us back to reality as to what life really is.
FlourishAnyway (author) from USA on June 09, 2020:
Lora - Thanks for your kind comment regarding my sister's stillborn child, Lacey.
Lora Hollings on June 08, 2020:
Your poem is such a beautiful tribute to a child who was a stillborn. Such a sense of innocence, sweetness, and loss you create in your poignant verse, Flourish. It is true that you will always mourn the loss of this child. But the soul of this child lives on eternally in heaven as you have so eloquently written.
FlourishAnyway (author) from USA on May 07, 2016:
Rajan - Thank you for reading. Having a stillborn child is devastating and so sad. The experience always lives with my sister.
Rajan Singh Jolly from From Mumbai, presently in Jalandhar, INDIA. on May 05, 2016:
Here again to read this. This touched the very core of my heart. A new life is a part of the couple's life from the moment it is known and becomes the pivot around which their days revolve.
FlourishAnyway (author) from USA on March 09, 2015:
Susie - I'm so sorry about your loss. My sister loves her three boys but lives with baby Lacey's memory just below the surface. Thank you for reading and commenting.
Susie Lehto from Minnesota on March 09, 2015:
Such a beautiful poem about a sad event. Knowing the baby is with God is comforting. I have a baby there.
FlourishAnyway (author) from USA on March 18, 2014:
ologsinquito - Thank you. She now has three boys, all under the age of 8.
ologsinquito from USA on March 18, 2014:
Sorry about the loss of your precious niece. I hope your sister is doing okay now.
FlourishAnyway (author) from USA on January 04, 2014:
Jackie - I imagine losing a child is one of the hardest struggles to endure. I'm so sorry you faced this in your life with your sweet granddaughter, Cassie. I hope one day you will hold her hand again in the great beyond.
Jackie Lynnley from the beautiful south on January 04, 2014:
I do know how she feels and your poem brought all those feelings to the surface and it really does not matter whose baby it is always such a terrible loss so hard to recover from, if anyone ever really does. There is that hole in your heart forever, of what might have been.
FlourishAnyway (author) from USA on October 30, 2013:
Crafty - That's very sad. You have a good idea with the memory box. Thanks for visiting again to share it.
CraftytotheCore on October 29, 2013:
I'm visiting this one again. I just had a friend call me Friday night. We were out of town. She miscarried her baby. I felt so badly, but luckily I've been through it myself and was able to comfort her. It's so hard for a woman to lose a child. I told her to start a memory box and put all of her memories in it so she could have some closure and find peace.
FlourishAnyway (author) from USA on October 21, 2013:
Benjamin - Thank you for reading and commenting.
Benjamin Chege on October 21, 2013:
Hi FlourishAnyway. I guess the child to whom you dedicated this poem must be about 7 months old or so. If only they knew how you love them!! This is one of the loveliest poems I have read on HubPages. Voted up, awesome, and beautiful.
FlourishAnyway (author) from USA on October 19, 2013:
Crafty - The experience had to be so painful for you and your family. My heart goes out to you.
CraftytotheCore on October 19, 2013:
This is so beautiful. I miscarried twins before my daughter was born. It was such a painful experience. I was already a few months along when it happened. I developed dark circles under my eyes. I had a twitch on my face. It was hard to cope after such a profound loss. Especially when all of my friends were having babies. I couldn't even go to a baby shower or walk near the baby dept. It took a year for me to get pregnant with my daughter. She was also a twin, but the other one didn't develop. They call that a vanishing twin. Having been through this, I can honestly say I can't imagine what it would be like to give birth to a still born baby . It is truly a heart-breaking experience.
FlourishAnyway (author) from USA on October 03, 2013:
DDE - Thank you for reading and for your kind comment.
Devika Primić from Dubrovnik, Croatia on October 03, 2013:
A beautifully written poem and so heartfelt make sone think of how precious life is.
FlourishAnyway (author) from USA on August 31, 2013:
HeatherH104 - Thank you for reading and commenting. I appreciate your words of support.
HeatherH104 from USA on August 30, 2013:
Beautiful words for such a difficult time. It's good to keep sharing these stories so others know how difficult it is.
barefoot*princess on August 06, 2013:
Congratulations to your family
FlourishAnyway (author) from USA on August 06, 2013:
barefoot*princess - Thank you for reading and your well wishes. I wrote this for my sister on the stillbirth of her daughter, Lacey. It was read at her funeral. My sister still grieves her baby years later, although I hope with a growing sense of quiet peace. I just returned from holding her newborn baby, Robert, a testament of healing.
barefoot*princess on August 06, 2013:
so kind, I hope this brings comfort for the heartache your family must be feeling.
FlourishAnyway (author) from USA on July 09, 2013:
prairieprincess - Thanks for reading and for the well wishes for my sister. So sorry about your sister's losses. My sister has been deeply affected by the loss of her stillborn baby. She is a women's health nurse practitioner, too, which for me at least would make it even worse to be faced with pregnant women constantly. The good news, however, is that she is expecting her third boy any day now.
Sharilee Swaity from Canada on July 09, 2013:
FlourishAnyway, what a beautiful and thoughtful poem! My sister lost two of her children to stillbirth, and I know it is so devastating to those couples who lose a child this way. I am sure your sister must be grateful to you for writing such a sensitive tribute to her unborn child. I am going to share this poem with my sister. Thank you, and I wish all the best for your sister with her next one. My sister now has two little girls, aged 10 and almost 12. They both know about the two little siblings they never got to meet.
FlourishAnyway (author) from USA on May 17, 2013:
Thank you, livingsta. My sister is expecting again in late July and we all hope tremendously for a different result.
livingsta from United Kingdom on May 17, 2013:
This is so beautiful. Your little niece angel is up there, watching over the loved ones.
Thank you for sharing this with us. Voted up, awesome and sharing!
FlourishAnyway (author) from USA on April 22, 2013:
Thank you, Rajan.
Rajan Singh Jolly from From Mumbai, presently in Jalandhar, INDIA. on April 22, 2013:
Very touching poem. But comfort in the fact that she is up there safe and loved in your hearts.
FlourishAnyway (author) from USA on April 08, 2013:
Thank you, kabanov and christin53. I read it at my niece's funeral.
Ann-Christin from UK on April 08, 2013:
What a beautiful and touching poem for such a sad occasion.
kabanov from Russia on March 22, 2013:
It is a very touching poem, FlourishAnyway.
FlourishAnyway (author) from USA on March 17, 2013:
Thank you so much for your kind and encouraging comments!
Peggy Woods from Houston, Texas on March 17, 2013:
What a sweet poem about such a sad event...the birth of a stillborn child. At least there is comfort in knowing that he or she was already reunited with God. Up and beautiful votes.
Joan Veronica Robertson from Concepcion, Chile on March 14, 2013:
Hi there, this was a stunning read, so welcome to Hubpages! I hope to see many more of these lovely Hubs, you are very talented. I wish you all the best, this is a good site and the community is very nice. Have a good day