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Poem on Judging Others or Being Judged

As a poet, therapist, and observer of human behavior, Janis has a keen awareness of what makes people tick and behave the way they do.

Finger-Pointing and Judging Others Blocks Communication

Standing in judgment of others often includes finger-pointing and projecting.

Standing in judgment of others often includes finger-pointing and projecting.

Judgment Creates Defensiveness in Personal Relationships

Judgment creates conflicts and arguments between partners in a relationship. Each becomes defensive as they defend their positions.

Judgment creates conflicts and arguments between partners in a relationship. Each becomes defensive as they defend their positions.

"Judgment Calls"


I see you aren't that different from me,

But still I ignore your worth.

No better than I are you than me,

A truth first told at birth.


But still I ignore your worth,

Judging farther than I can see,

A truth first told at birth,

I forget your unique identity.


Judging farther than my eyes can see,

I miss your special traits,

I forget your unique identity,

For my respect you wait.


I miss your special traits,

No attention to who you are,

For my respect you wait,

Acknowledgment sits afar.


No attention to who you are,

No better than I are you than me.

And still, acknowledgment sits afar,

Yet, I see you aren't that different from me.

Judging the Opinions of Others Creates Acrimony Among Groups

We believe our point of view is superior to that of others, more evident than ever in today's vitriolic and political climate.

We believe our point of view is superior to that of others, more evident than ever in today's vitriolic and political climate.

Sitting in Judgment Deflects Blame Onto Others

We tend to place blame onto others before looking at ourselves and taking responsibility.

We tend to place blame onto others before looking at ourselves and taking responsibility.

Scripture About Judgment

Matthew 7:1-5 (ESV)

"Judge not, that you be judged. For with the judgment you pronounce you will be judged, and with the measure you use it will be measured to you.

Why do you see the speck that is in your brother's eye, but do not notice the log that is in your own eye? Or how can you say to your brother, 'Let me take the speck out of your eye,' when there is a log in your own eye?

You hypocrite, first take the log out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to take the speck out of your brother's eye."

No Judgement: Unconditional Acceptance and Love

Young children are accepting of each other without judgment.

Young children are accepting of each other without judgment.

Judgment Does Not Exist in True Friendship

Friends don't judge each other; they are accepting of each other's opinions and love unconditionally.

Friends don't judge each other; they are accepting of each other's opinions and love unconditionally.

Judging Others

Resource on Understanding Why We Judge

© 2012 Janis Leslie Evans

Comments

Janis Leslie Evans (author) from Washington, DC on October 07, 2019:

Thanks, Brenda. I appreciate your comment. So true.

BRENDA ARLEDGE from Washington Court House on October 04, 2019:

I see this often. People say one thing but do another themselves.

I guess it is sometimes hard to accept we are all alike when we all have been raised with different beliefs.

Great read.

Janis Leslie Evans (author) from Washington, DC on January 27, 2015:

It is a bummer to be judged for being yourself. Thanks for visiting and reading this one, peachpurple.

peachy from Home Sweet Home on January 27, 2015:

thanks for the beautiful poem, I hated to be judged

Janis Leslie Evans (author) from Washington, DC on May 18, 2013:

Thanks, cloud. It's a difficult but fun form. I'll probably only do it once. Lol. Thanks for liking it and sharing. Appreciate the love.

Janis Leslie Evans (author) from Washington, DC on May 18, 2013:

Thank you much, prospectboy. I appreciate the votes and especially the sharing. Thanks for visiting me.

Bradrick H. from Texas on May 17, 2013:

Very thoughtful and interesting poem janshares. It's funny that you wrote this, because lately I've been talking to family and friends about how often we judge others, but no one is better than anyone else, and we can all end up in the same situation that someone else is in. I think that your poem really captures this subject quite vividly. Great job! Voted up, rated awesome, and shared.

Mike Pugh from New York City on May 17, 2013:

@janshares, very cool technique of poetry writing here, nice one indeed. You know something, I truly despise the whole prejudgement process that folks indulge in from time to time. Nice poem, thumbs up and sharing!

ocfireflies from North Carolina on May 17, 2013:

Thanks so much. I know I have a Norton Anthology or two. I will check for info there.

Best Always,

Kim

Janis Leslie Evans (author) from Washington, DC on May 17, 2013:

Hello again, ocfireflies. Here's the book I used for independent study:

"The Making of a Poem: A Norton Anthology of Poetic Forms"

by Mark Strand and Eavan Boland

Janis Leslie Evans (author) from Washington, DC on May 17, 2013:

Thank you ocfireflies. I will share with you the book I studied when I get home this evening. Can't recall right now. I do appreciate the visit and the comment.

ocfireflies from North Carolina on May 17, 2013:

I just started playing around with the pantoum-not such an easy form to follow-and yet-you do it effortlessly. Totally impressed.

Janis Leslie Evans (author) from Washington, DC on December 07, 2012:

Oh, thank you sooooo much, CloudExplorer, for liking this one. Your critique is well-received. Happy Holidays to you as well. Glad to have made your day.

Mike Pugh from New York City on December 07, 2012:

This poem was tough for me to consume, it was a sort of tongue twister hehe, but I get where you stepping in with it all, nice style of poetic iambic pentameter.

Thumbs up and you know the rest Jan, thanks for the recent comment you left me in a hub of mine, that was to cool of you, you made my day for sure.

Have a joyous Happy holiday once again, and I can't wait to read more in the near future by you. Cheers! to awesome poetry writing.

Janis Leslie Evans (author) from Washington, DC on November 27, 2012:

I think it's a combination of my profession, Christian upbringing, and time that has influenced my take on judgment. When I was teaching myself how to write a pantoum, these are the words that came. Thank you for your comments and for stopping by. I will visit you soon. Thanks for the follow.

AudraLeigh on November 27, 2012:

I took a dbt course and learned to notice without judgement. Your words are straight from the heart! A wonderful poem!!! Were you mindful in a certain situation? or was it something you witnessed over time?

ps...I goofed up and could not submit fan mail to you. Thank you for following my poem tonight :)

Janis Leslie Evans (author) from Washington, DC on October 17, 2012:

Thank you soooooo much, Audrey. So glad you liked this one. Thank you for that generous comment. Yes, I'm settling in, adjusting a day at a time.

Audrey Howitt from California on October 17, 2012:

Thank you janshares! This piece is spot on and so well done--sharing and I hope you are settling in here at HP

Janis Leslie Evans (author) from Washington, DC on October 15, 2012:

Thank you very much for taking the time to read this poem. So glad you liked it and the pics.

Joshua Nyamache from Kenya on October 15, 2012:

I like your poem. We judge others forgetting that what we are judging them of may be the same thing we are doing (being hypocritical). The pictures say a lot about judging, well selected for this poem.

Janis Leslie Evans (author) from Washington, DC on October 08, 2012:

Hi Mhatter. You're welcome. Yes, that title was so familiar in a distant way I had to listen on youtube. It brought back fond memories of that hymn as a child in church. Thank you for the sweet association and reminder of a great hymn. I appreciate your stopping by. Thank you.

Martin Kloess from San Francisco on October 08, 2012:

Thank you so much for sharing this. Ever hear, "Blessed be the tie that bind"? (supports this)