The Boy Teacher and The Father Student 3 (The Fear and Risk Factor. Who Do You Do It For?)

Updated on December 14, 2017
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Holding degrees in philosophy and Law. Formal studies or certificates or degrees in business, theology, insurance and security. Ex-preacher.

Reach For The Prize

Don't do it. It is too risky?
Don't do it. It is too risky? | Source

Is It Worry or The Goal That is The Most Dangerous?

In this setting the boy is twelve. The father in his mid-thirties. The canyon they hike is either, boulder crawling and some hopping in the middle of the canyon or nasty sage brush on the sides. The time on the side leaves them cut on all extremities. Manzanita, Yucca, Jumping Cactus, Sage and brambles. So back to crawling on boulders larger than a Volkswagen Beetle and lesser ones that move and try to trap your ankle. They will be lucky to make a mile an hour.

The father in front spots the elusive eagles they are tracking and they scramble to be still. Cameras and binoculars are out. Slow movement and no noise. Then a sound like no other comes from on high. The female eagle dives and catches a snake on the move. From 90 miles an hour to full reverse and lift off in 2.5 seconds. That sound is the minor air displacement from 3 pounds breaking 70 miles an hour in a straight dive.

They have their prize. A worthy expedition. But they will not stop until they reach the waterfall ¾ of a mile beyond. Gatorade is passed. Nuts, berries and peanut butter are shared without a word.

B: Can we make it to the falls and still make it home?

F: It would be a bitch to do this in the dark.

B: We are so close dad.

F: Son we would worry a whole lot of people if we do not make it back tonight. So we drop our backpacks here. We do not hurry but stay moving. A twisted ankle here would be bad. You call out if you see a better path.

B: This is kind of scary dad. Are you alright with it?

F: Nope.

B: But we are still going to try?

F: Do we have a choice?

B: Nope.

Some I reckon would see this as a race against time. The boy and the father know better it is a race against fear. Not a danged word is said for an hour. Concentration is a must. And then they are at the falls and swimming in the pool below.

B: I guess we have to go.

F: We have 3 hours to do what took us 5 to get here. We stay in the canyon bed.

B: This is pretty scary and exciting dad.

F: If we do this right the only fear we have is mom saying we cannot do it again.

A Wonderful Example of Overcoming Fear

20 Years Later That Boy Leads The Man On Hikes

Time changes our roles.
Time changes our roles. | Source

Doing the Right Thing

Things started to go downhill, so to speak. And the giggle. And move out. While the light is still good. But it begins to turn into shadows which makes judging distances hard and that becomes a worst enemy. The first part goes well. They are at their packs.

B: So dad I was trying to figure it out. When do we put ourselves in more danger so that others do not worry? I mean we could just go over there under the Oak tree and sleep until light.

F: Well you got a point there son, right on the top of your head. (Laughter from an old joke.) Now please do not get this wrong son, but the only time I have ever really screwed up is when I did a wrong move to appease a fear of another. Fear is not reason.

B: I do that all the time. I do stupid stuff to make you happy. And I definitely do that for mom and teachers at the school. You are so big and strong and smart, why would you do that? I mean you always say to do things right and good will happen.

F: We go until the light is too bad to go on.

Shadows got longer and light was replaced with dusk. Of course they had headlamps and flashlights. So progress was hurried. But with no illusions that they would reach safe ground by dark. A break and a sharing of an orange and a granola bar.

B: Dad are we going to hurt ourselves so mom does not worry?

F: I always have son.

B: Dad that is not good.

F: You are so right. I really have to work on that co-dependency issue. That means that I care more about how others feel than doing the right thing. But don’t you try to act brave and strong for me.

B: No dad we have talked about this. I do not do it for how you feel I do it for how I feel.

Mountains

My Friend The Water Buffalo

Hiking Cu Chi
Hiking Cu Chi | Source

Who Do We Answer To?

It got dark. The two flipped on the lights and proceeded. There was not a murmur about what they would do. They trudged on.

F: Why are we doing this son?

B: For the right reason dad. To kick this canyon’s butt. High five!

F: Thanks for your encouragement son.

A light or lights flicker in the distance. The road is in sight. The father cautions, keep your eye on the job not on the prize. The boy grunts and speeds up. About 300 yards out two guys jump from behind rocks and scare the crap out of both of them. Dad’s big brother and an uncle in law. Laughing their butts off and sucking down brews. And they point out an easy path to get to the road.

B: Were you guys worried about us?

The shouted response was that they were worried about what the moms would do if they let the two get hurt. Chuckles and laughter the whole way back home.

Getting The Stories Down

F: Does everyone have the story down. We saved you guys from getting lost and we were fine the whole way just waiting for the beautiful moon.

B: Dad you are too funny. Let’s do it again tomorrow.

They strolled to the cabin and were met with wonderful barbeque smells and happy loud conversation. The ladies inside simply ordered the two to bathe and eat.

Later as the two of them were laying in their sleeping bags in the meadow there was time to talk as they marveled at the heavens.

B: God that was fun dad. I like real fear. I kind of like being on the edge. Is that an adrenaline junky like you talk about? Give me some of your Bible stuff about it.

F: You mock me son! But why not, it is so boring it will put us to sleep so we can get up before the crack of dawn and go fishing. Hey buddy it is so cool because the notions come from 2,000 years ago.

B: Okay Dad not that boring.

F: We are not to sit on our hands. We are to do good works. And we are to do them for the glory of God and the betterment of others. So we do not get to be little chickenshits and do nothing. Nature and scary travels into nature prepare us to do battle with wrong. We do not get to risk it all in nature, we must, in order to be strong.

B: So what is the scariest thing you ever did dad?

F: hands down no question; bringing you children into the world.

B: I know you do not want to hear it dad, but my scariest thing is letting you down. I know you say that what is important is letting ourselves down. But dad you do not get to tell me how I feel.

B: Dad, I hope you do not do things with me for me. I hope you do them for you. That would make me more happy.

F: Hmm son. Maybe it is the same thing. I will sleep on it.

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    • Ericdierker profile imageAUTHOR

      Eric Dierker 

      2 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Thank you Tim for reading and your wonderful compliment. I do not take notes or record so these are close to my two son's and my experience. this one is about 25 years ago so maybe more embellished memory than accurate ;-)

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      Tim Truzy 

      2 months ago from U.S.A.

      Hi, Eric,

      Insightful, well written, and full of good stuff.

      I love this line:

      ?F: If we do this right the only fear we have is mom saying we cannot do it again."

      It's true,. by doing things for others, we can feel the benefits. Both dad and son are very wise in your story as is the writer of the tale.

      Thanks for sharing some light, Eric.

      Sincerely,

      Tim

    • Ericdierker profile imageAUTHOR

      Eric Dierker 

      9 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Bill thank you for pointing that out. I think Bill Holland said to the effect of these are like watching a ping pong match.

      But that is how it goes.

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      William Kovacic 

      9 months ago from Pleasant Gap, PA

      I was trying to keep track of teachable moments for both father and son, but couldn't. This was full of good stuff, Eric.

    • Ericdierker profile imageAUTHOR

      Eric Dierker 

      9 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Thanks Devika. For sure bonding.

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      DDE 

      9 months ago

      Dad and son bonded along the way.

    • Ericdierker profile imageAUTHOR

      Eric Dierker 

      9 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Nikki it is so sad. I am on a board at my son's school. And about 20% there is no dad.

      We treasure each other and count our blessings.

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      Nikki Khan 

      9 months ago from London

      An amazing hub Eric,, I guess dad and son get close somewhere at some point.Very interesting and fun story to read.

      Sorry I saw your article just now,,didn’t know you did publish one.

      Many Blessings and have a great weekend.

    • Ericdierker profile imageAUTHOR

      Eric Dierker 

      9 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Kari that is eerily true. With both the young and the elder son we can speak without speaking.

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      Kari Poulsen 

      9 months ago from Ohio

      It seems "like father, like son". I think you both are very wise.

    • Ericdierker profile imageAUTHOR

      Eric Dierker 

      9 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Thank you Manitita.

      There is an interesting job here called Risk Management". Large companies actually have someone who not only tries to prevent problems but actually has the assumption that some risks will just happen.

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      manatita44 

      9 months ago from london

      Dolly reminds me of Bob Marley. They share the same intonations in their voices that touches the Spirit. That sheer vibrancy, zeal, joy ... is so infectious!!

      You tell your story well! When I did Business and Finance, I read a piece somewhere, where the Chinese had described 'risk' as a measure of danger vs opportunity. I liked that definition.

      Fear is a big one, so big in fact that for centuries, our very own powers that be, has been using it against us. But hey, this an excellent Hub, let's keep it that way. Peace, Bro.

    • Ericdierker profile imageAUTHOR

      Eric Dierker 

      9 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Bill I am sending these to my elder son. And the scary thing is that he only corrects content on things like exact ages or distances or the like. Scary because he agrees with my accounts -- what the heck was I thinking?

    • Ericdierker profile imageAUTHOR

      Eric Dierker 

      9 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Linda as I look back, being brave was not really the deal. Fear of not making our foolhardy journeys outweighed much. Kind of a "what will I miss if I do not go" deal. In growing up my three sisters were given no slack.

    • Ericdierker profile imageAUTHOR

      Eric Dierker 

      9 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Thanks Frank. You should have seen the poor brambles! LoL We sure do have fun around here.

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      Bill Holland 

      9 months ago from Olympia, WA

      I just finished touching up my interior painting job, and rewarded myself by reading your story. And you delivered a wonderful reward for my hard work. Thank you!

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      Linda Lum 

      9 months ago from Washington State, USA

      Eric, I don't know if you and son are brave or foolhardy? Perhaps the fear of mom-wrath was post-excursion worse than what could have happened to you during your expedition.

      You have made me recognize one thing--gosh, I'm glad I had daughters LOL.

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      Frank Atanacio 

      9 months ago from Shelton

      an explosive hub my friend.. and that gash on the arm looks bad.. LOL was it worth the risk? LOL

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