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Kitty-Who-Is-Not-My-Kitty and I Do Not Walk Alone

Kitty and I have discovered that we are a part of something much bigger than we are. And we are very thankful that we have each other.

My Kitty is mine for today

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There are times when Kitty and I do walk alone. We set out on a walk to discover a bit of freshness for our mind and, in my case, for my soul.

That is not of what I speak. What is meant is that we are sharing this planets with all humans (and the amazing animals that inhabit it as well). That which diminishes one of us in turn diminishes each of us.

Something Interesting Just Over There

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How I was Fully Hooked on Writing

When I was a senior in high school I had a class termed 'advanced journalism'. I suppose it was entitled that to make us work harder. There were only 10 of us in the class.

The teacher was the most amazing teacher. His name was Mr. Raymond Fulmer. He left the planet in 2011. The world is missing a most amazing individual. I am so glad that I had the opportunity to speak with him on the phone in the late 90's when I visited my family in Pennsylvania. I told him how much he had influenced my life and how grateful I was because of it. He was most appreciative of the call.

I had always known that writing my thoughts in a journal or a diary was something that I greatly enjoyed. I was never really confident about what I had written until I was in Mr. Fulmer's class. He encouraged me and the other students to write honestly about our thoughts and views. He wanted to help bring out the true writer in each of us.

In the class he taught we had to do a research paper about an author. I chose John Donne. I became totally immersed in the study of this complex individual. I spent hours and hours in the public library researching and reading and learning. I know even at that I only barely scratched the surface. One line that has stayed with me through the ages stated that we are not walking alone. We are all a part of each other's lives. That is what prompted this article.

Bench for Dining

This is the DIY bench I erected for a memorial garden bench for my nephew. I know he will be glad the kitties are dining on it.

This is the DIY bench I erected for a memorial garden bench for my nephew. I know he will be glad the kitties are dining on it.

It is tolling for you

No man is an island, entire of itself; every man is a piece of the continent.

Any man's death diminishes me, because I am involved in Mankind; And therefore never send to know for whom the bell tolls; it tolls for thee.

— John Donne

The Largest of the three Kitties

She is the most wary of all the kitties including Mommy.

She is the most wary of all the kitties including Mommy.

Listening is a good thing.

Kitty and I spend some part of almost every day in each other's company. "Talking" to each other and listening. The listening is a very important part of our time together.

Her connection to me has connected me in turn to the neighbors across the street who also love on and feed Kitty. She has caused a bridge to form that has lead us to visit when we are in the yard and catch up with what is going on in each other's lives.

Kitty Most Like Mommy

This little gal tries to be so brave. She races around on the bench as I lay food out. But she will not stay until I depart.

This little gal tries to be so brave. She races around on the bench as I lay food out. But she will not stay until I depart.

Spending Time Catching Our Breath

Grabbing my keys, I pop into the vehicle that will take me away to some unknown place; unknown to kitty that is.

Kitty turns, looks at me, as if to ask that I do not leave, that I stay with her longer. Somewhat sadly she meanders across the road to find a critter to chase. I sit and watch before pulling out of the driveway. She quickly becomes lost in the scraggly tall grasses in the field across from my place. Later she will return to tell of her day's adventures.

Returning home, as soon as my car is put in reverse and I am backing under the carport, Kitty comes rushing toward me. It's as if she was waiting patiently for my return.

When I get out of the monstrous (to her) machine that has carried me from her, the first few minutes are spent trying to guess which way I will step so that she can wind her way through my legs. She really wants me to park somewhere and just adore her. Which I usually do. We sit for a bit and she hums loudly as I stroke her feathery soft fur. We play for a few minutes with her fluffy yellow toy on a stick.

Raking is calling me. That is just fine with her. She still loves to roll in the leaves I rake up into small piles. She is certain they are piled there for her entertainment only.


Mommy Kitty

Mommy blends into the background. There are dead leaves that create a way for her to be camouflaged.

Mommy blends into the background. There are dead leaves that create a way for her to be camouflaged.

Making Connections

She tells me: "You know, Padi Kay, when you are gone, I am not totally alone. Even when my family across the street is not home."

"O, not alone?" I query.

"No, not alone. You see, I have discovered there are other little fuzzy critters that look like me who live most of the time in your backyard. We visit a bit each day spending a few minutes maybe racing and playing. I soon head off to discover some new adventure that calls me.

We have agreed to share you. Actually you feed some of them each day. They hang out just out of sight most of the day but sometimes it seems your yard is littered with colorful little critters as they spread out back there, sunning or playing or curled up in a ball snuggled next to each other. Three of them are smaller than me. Their Momma is a bit larger."

"I do spy them throughout the day," I reply.

"It really is a cute sight. And when I go out to feed them, one of the kitties, the smallest one, comes up very close to me and then dashes off. It is as if she is telling her sisters to look at how brave she is.

You see, I do feed them but have not become their Momma. Soon they will be gathered up and taken to a nearby location to have an operation so that they will not be able to have babies. If anyone at the business where I take them wants to adopt them that will be wonderful. They are adorable but we do not need any more feral kitties in our neighborhood.

You know what 'feral' means, right?"

Kitty looks a bit puzzled.

"Okay. So it means they are wild. They have not been tamed like you. You are a domesticated kitty which means you are cared for and loved.

The babies and their Momma in the back yard were dropped off out there and they have to fend for themselves. I am glad that you brighten part of their day by spending a few minutes with them."



More Connections

After a bit, Kitty wanders away and I go inside. After our chat I realize that our human lives are filled with many connections too. We encounter many people each day. And, we have a choice. We can acknowledge each one of them in some way--a smile, a nod, a greeting or we can brush past them as if something more important is just ahead.

Mr. Donne's words speak clearly to us down through the ages. We truly are a part of each other's lives. The person stocking the shelves in the big box store or our local grocery story are a part of the bigger picture. Each one of us no matter how humble our job or station in life may be is connected to every other person on the planet.

Likewise, most everyone appreciates being spoken to and appreciated for whatever contribution is being made by their presence on this planet. That little smile or kindness we afford another can be a game-changer. It may just lighten a burden they are carrying that day.

Just because

Help your old neighbor, give your seat in the subway to someone who needs it, buy a coffee for a homeless man that you see, bring flowers for your colleagues without a reason. Make someone smile, even for a brief second, and you will see how your day will change instantly for the best.

— Lucas Bailly

Putting on Someone Else's Moccasins

The evenings and early mornings have become cooler, finally. This morning it was 42 which is a big jump from 80s and 90s just a few weeks ago. This week we are told it may be 80 again. One never knows what to wear.

This morning I let Kitty in to dine inside. She has gotten her winter coat which is quite poofy but she allowed as how she was chilled to the bone, poor thing, and wouldn't I show her some mercy. She had more than one serving of the food she loved. After dining she decided she needed to go on a little tour which I allowed. After a few minutes I reminded her she had her nice warm coat and that it was time to go back outside.

She was back out visiting and exploring. I even saw her out back.

You know, I am reminded of the saying that we should walk in someone else's moccasins in order to try to understand them. Getting to know someone and their needs helps us to be more compassionate and less judgmental.


An Incredible Rendition of Never Walk Alone

A kind gesture can reach a wound that only compassion can heal.

— Steve Maraboli

Good Fences Make Good Neighbors

However, getting too close to someone can become problematic. We need to find how we feel comfortable sharing our time and ourselves with others.

Mr. Frost reminded us of that in the poem Mending Wall. The poem is open to an individual's interpretation for sure. He states that "good fences make good neighbors" He does not stop there though. Read it and ponder it for yourself.

One thing that really bugged me when I was taking literature classes was when the poem or story was dissected and interpreted so much it took the beauty from it. Thus I shall not do so here.

Walking on the planet would be very lonely if it were a singular walk. Maybe less complicated at times, who knows.

O, I see Kitty. It is time for a visit.

Robert Frost Reads "Mending Wall"

Mr. Frost's Poem: Mending Wall

Something there is that doesn’t love a wall,
That sends the frozen-ground-swell under it
And spills the upper boulders in the sun,
And makes gaps even two can pass abreast.
The work of hunters is another thing:
I have come after them and made repair
Where they have left not one stone on a stone,
But they would have the rabbit out of hiding,
To please the yelping dogs. The gaps I mean,
No one has seen them made or heard them made,
But at spring mending-time we find them there.
I let my neighbor know beyond the hill;
And on a day we meet to walk the line
And set the wall between us once again.
We keep the wall between us as we go.
To each the boulders that have fallen to each.
And some are loaves and some so nearly balls
We have to use a spell to make them balance:
“Stay where you are until our backs are turned!”
We wear our fingers rough with handling them.

Oh, just another kind of outdoor game,
One on a side. It comes to little more:
There where it is we do not need the wall:
He is all pine and I am apple orchard.
My apple trees will never get across
And eat the cones under his pines, I tell him.
He only says, “Good fences make good neighbors.”
Spring is the mischief in me, and I wonder
If I could put a notion in his head:
Why do they make good neighbors? Isn’t it
Where there are cows? But here there are no cows.
Before I built a wall I’d ask to know
What I was walling in or walling out,
And to whom I was like to give offense.
Something there is that doesn’t love a wall,
That wants it down.” I could say “Elves” to him,
But it’s not elves exactly, and I’d rather
He said it for himself. I see him there,
Bringing a stone grasped firmly by the top
In each hand, like an old-stone savage armed.
He moves in darkness as it seems to me,

Not of woods only and the shade of trees.
He will not go behind his father’s saying,
And he likes having thought of it so well
He says again, “Good fences make good neighbors.”


Love is not patronizing and charity isn't about pity, it is about love. Charity and love are the same -- with charity you give love, so don't just give money but reach out your hand instead.

— Mother Teresa

© 2019 Patricia Scott

Comments

Patricia Scott (author) from North Central Florida on May 04, 2020:

Some of the kitties did find homes, Peggy. A few of them still come to visit every now and then.

Patricia Scott (author) from North Central Florida on May 04, 2020:

Hi Flourish... you are so right. My little Kitty has become very special to me

I have come to think of her as my kitty now. Although she doesn't live here she comes and visits many times a day and I allow her to come in to eat and lots of time she'll set up on my couch next to me. I really think she loves me to pet on or under door as much as she loves the food. I hope all is well with you and yours and that you're staying safe. Angels are headed your way this afternoon. PS

Peggy Woods from Houston, Texas on April 24, 2020:

I hope all of those kittens found good homes. I hope you are doing well and staying safe. Sending virtual hugs your way today.

FlourishAnyway from USA on April 24, 2020:

What beautiful creatures to keep you going. I find that my pets are valued partners for sleep and regular companionship while the community cats that I spay/neuter, vaccinate, and regularly feed each day keep me motivated to show up every day whether I feel like it or not. They brighten my day knowing that they depend on me and trust me.

Patricia Scott (author) from North Central Florida on December 02, 2019:

Thank you for stopping. I sometimes chuckle and say....they call me the cat whisperer. We seem to have little secrets others may not know. How blessed I am to have furry critters in my life along with so many lovely humans Angels are headed your way this evening ps

Patricia Scott (author) from North Central Florida on December 02, 2019:

I appreciate you returning . Like I have told others I have had similar issues with posting Thank you for coming back. Thanksgiving was special this year. Angels are headed your way this evening ps

Patricia Scott (author) from North Central Florida on December 02, 2019:

You are correct. I do enjoy doing just that with the neighbors who live behind me. and thank you....I think the kitties are mighty special especially Kitty. Angels are headed your way this evening ps

Patricia Scott (author) from North Central Florida on December 02, 2019:

That is true--it is a ripple effect passing from one to the next to the next. Thank you for your meaningful comment. Angels once again are headed your way ps

Patricia Scott (author) from North Central Florida on December 02, 2019:

Hi Ann I have reported to HubPages Editors that I have had trouble such as you mention as well as with saving text and photos. thank you for stopping and for your persistence in leaving your comment. Extra Angels are headed your way this evening ps

Patricia Scott (author) from North Central Florida on December 02, 2019:

Yes, Mr. Frost had a way to hold his reader due to his magic with words. Thank you for stopping. Angels are on the way this evening ps

Liz Westwood from UK on December 02, 2019:

You give an interesting and illuminating insight on your world. Pets can be a great way to connect with others.

Patricia Scott (author) from North Central Florida on December 01, 2019:

Yes being retired has seemed to give me new eyes. I see maybe what I was missing before. I do agree that kitties own us. They choose to love us or not. My friend has a kitty who was his wife's. She died and now she wants to love on him. He is a reluctant 'daddy'. He wants to love her on his terms. I have tried to explain that he should be flattered. Kitties do choose to spend time with us. thank you for stopping. Angels are headed our way this evening. ps

Patricia Scott (author) from North Central Florida on December 01, 2019:

O my...I have replied to this but am having some problems with text/photos/etc here on HubPages So here goes again. The kitties get cuter every day. In about a week we are gathering them and taking them to have their surgery. It is so sad that folks dump such dolls and they are left to fend for themselves. Thank you for stopping. Angels once again are headed your way ps

Ruby Jean Richert from Southern Illinois on November 29, 2019:

I left a comment here two days ago. Still wishing you a wonderful Thanksgiving. You are blessed to have Kitty. Thanks for sharing.

Patricia Scott (author) from North Central Florida on November 28, 2019:

O thank you for stopping to read and comment. It is a bittersweet time right now but that gives me more reason to reach out to others. I will look for the kitty quotes. I have spoiled Kitty...that IS her name. She is invited in to dine as it is chilly her now (not this morning so much but I invited her in anyway). Have a lovely Thanksgiving Many Angels headed your way ps ps

Ruby Jean Richert from Southern Illinois on November 27, 2019:

There's nothing like having a chat with a neighbor over a friendly fence. Your kitties are sweet. Thanks for sharing your walk. Enjoyable read.

manatita44 from london on November 27, 2019:

A reflective piece, Patricia, moving from cats to one of my favourite writers John Donne and his philosophy of Oneness as my Guruji does. To yet another favourite of mines in Robert Frost.

Yes, good fences make good neighbours. You and I affect this world, by the vibrations that we offer to the world.

“The very nature of kindness is to spread. If you are kind to others, today they will be kind to you, and tomorrow to somebody else.”- Sri Chinmoy Much peace.

Patricia Scott (author) from North Central Florida on November 27, 2019:

Yes, she is. Now that the mornings are cooler I do enjoy inviting her in to dine on my Christmas rug at the door so she can shake the chill a bit which she seems to enjoy as much as I do. Angels once again are on the way. ps

Patricia Scott (author) from North Central Florida on November 27, 2019:

Kids do 'get it' more often than not. And what a lovely thing it is..and O, the lessons they can teach US. Hoping you and yours have a lovely Thanksgiving. Angels headed to you all this morning ps

Ann Carr from SW England on November 27, 2019:

I thought I'd left a comment but it doesn't appear. I'll come back to see, just in case it's caught in the ether! Will re-comment then if necessary!

Ann

Patricia Scott (author) from North Central Florida on November 27, 2019:

For sure. You are around the world from me yet you are indeed a part of 'my world.' Take care. Many Angels headed your way this morning ps

Kari Poulsen from Ohio on November 26, 2019:

I also feel it is most important to acknowledge others. I feel a smile and kind word helps greatly. I enjoyed re-reading the Robert Frost poem. I have always loved his poems.

Dora Weithers from The Caribbean on November 26, 2019:

I like stories like these in which human beings take time to communicate with an animal. Connectedness with humans or animals boost our well-being, even the wellbeing of another human being who reads about it. A wonderful, positive mood-booster for me. Thank you and a Happy Thanksgiving to you and family!

Ann Carr from SW England on November 26, 2019:

I was totally absorbed reading this. Such a delight and a wonderful way of presenting thoughts and wisdom. Cats are wise I think; no one owns them, more like they own us.

I find that when I go for my daily (if possible) walk by the sea, I encounter others whom I see fairly often as well as those who seem new. I nod and say hello as often as I can. Mostly, I get a response. Sometimes there is a firm gaze to one side, as if to say 'I don't want to notice anyone, let alone acknowledge them.' That is their prerogative.

When one offers smiles, usually they are returned, then the next time we see each other the smile is broader and maybe there is a little conversation. We share the environment, whether we live here or not, and that is important. We share, we marvel at the view, we exchange pleasantries. That's what life is all about.

I have more time in retirement, so I look around me much more, to take note of what is there and what is missing. The world is wondrous and half the pleasure in it is sharing those feelings with others.

I love Frost's poem. I had not read it before, in fact I don't know his work so I'm going to make an effort to look into it, like you did with Donne.

Lovely hub, Patricia!

Ann

Peggy Woods from Houston, Texas on November 26, 2019:

Robert Frost is one of my favorite poets. Like you, I always disliked dissecting a poem. I rather enjoy the message as it is interpreted just by the reader. Everyone probably receives a slightly different message. Your Kitty is such a blessing to you. So glad that the feral ones will be spayed and neutered so that they do not go on reproducing. Sending many blessings your way this week of Thanksgiving.

Randi Benlulu from Mesa, AZ on November 26, 2019:

Perfect sentiment! As individuals we walk so many different paths. How blessed we are to have people to walk beside us in so many of them. I cherish the encounters, some brief, some a lifetime! Thank you for this timely reminder. Love to all and the beautiful kitties. Somewhere on here, I have a collection of kitty quotes that I think you will enjoy! Xo

Bill Holland from Olympia, WA on November 26, 2019:

A lovely walk indeed PS. Thank you for taking me along on your journey. Kitty is a joy to spend time with, as are you, my friend.

Wishing you the Happiest of Thanksgivings, and sending the angels your way, laden with love.

bill

Eric Dierker from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A. on November 26, 2019:

Wonderful my good friend. We had a bad drought and the coyotes needed food. We lost several feral cats. But my 92 year old neighbor and I decided we could not judge the coyotes or the cats. (us crazy Christians) But the cats were our friends but maybe we had to many and they got culled.

Gabe named a few. Sylvester was his fav. But Pussy cat was close.

We parked about 60 yards away shopping yesterday. Gabe asked why when there were great spots closer. I just looked at him and an old person. He got it without a word.

Wonderful work here, thank you.

Devika Primić from Dubrovnik, Croatia on November 26, 2019:

A beautiful thought here Our lives are connected to nature and people. Thank you for this hub.

Patricia Scott (author) from North Central Florida on November 26, 2019:

Good morning Pamela ....Her name is Kitty. It just seems to suit her. You are correct...there are so many ways to show our thoughtfulness. Thank you for stopping. And hoping you too have a wonderful Thanksgiving Angels are headed right back to you. ps

Pamela Oglesby from Sunny Florida on November 26, 2019:

First, that first picture of kitty is beautiful Does kitty have a name?

I enjoyed your article, the sayings and Frosts poem. It takes little to smile and speak kindly to people. Helping people a different ways and just giving someone a seat who may it more then you is also very nice.

Wishing you a lovely Thanksgiving, Patricia. God bless you and your family. Sending angels your way this morning.