I'd be being dishonest if I said I wasn't wearing my dressing gown to write this article.
Alternative Names For The Dressing Gown
• House coat
• Bath robe
• Fluffy armour
• Teddy bear skin (est. 2013 by my husband and I)
What Is With The Attachment?
If you, like me, consider your dressing gown to be one of the most important items of clothing you own then I assume it isn't because your home is so cold that your dressing gown is as essential as your shoes. I would argue that my home is too cold but that might be because I can't bare the thought of not having a dressing gown.
I dare to say that the attachment some people have to their dressing gowns could be more to do with psychological issues than it is with the temperature of the house. Not necessarily psychological problems, more subconscious behaviours based on things that aren't so positive.
Self Image And Body Confidence
Did you ever get dressed into a really pretty outfit, feel great wearing it and then retreated to your dressing gown within an hour? Was it because you were cold?
Or could it have been because the confidence you have within yourself isn't strong enough to last? You felt great while you were looking in the mirror but as you started moving around the house and doing things - that confidence dwindled by the minute while your attention was elsewhere and you literally forgot that you looked good. You remember the reflection but you can't channel the confidence so the quickest remedy is to wrap your body up in your dressing gown and go about your tasks feeling more mentally more comfortable but physically, too hot.
Maybe you're absolutely aware that you use your dressing gown to cover your body because if you were to take it off and present yourself in your home without your dressing gown every day then it would enforce some sort of action in you that you don't feel strong enough for. The dressing gown means that you don't need to face the personal disappointment of limited motivation.
It's like putting off the inevitable... Or so you tell yourself.
I've linked an article below that will help you if you relate to this issue and there are other issues highlighted in this article.
- The Only Person You Should Compete With Is You
Help with self-image struggles and body confidence issues. Nobody can be you better than you can.
Vulnerability, Instability And Protection
Moving house is one of the most stressful things a person can do, I understand that it seems like nothing in comparison to some of the unthinkable situations that occur on a daily basis but moving house still moves all those same stress receptors, even for children, who have no packing and paperwork responsibilities.
If somebody has moved house a lot of times in their life, that alone could be responsible for an attachment to their dressing gown. It's a familiar item and it represents comfort and suggests that bedtime is near which gives off a feeling of stability.
When you know where you're going to lay your head, you feel a lot more human than when you don't. A lot of people face this situation and wearing a dressing gown can be a lot more powerful than taking your shoes off in your home.
You might take your shoes off when visiting somebody else's home but you're not likely to wear your own dressing gown in a place that you won't be sleeping. This is all common sense but what isn't common sense is that all these facts are known to your subconscious and your subconscious isn't really looking out for you, it isn't not looking our for you - it just doesn't know what it's doing. It's like a brand new baby except with years of wisdom but no ability to use it... Thank goodness!
The reassurance that bedtime is near isn't just of comfort to people who haven't always had a bed to call their own but also to tired parents and carers, people who don't get to spend a lot of time at home and for those struggling with depression, for some of whom - being in bed of the only idea that appeals to them.
Your feelings of instability might not come from moving house excessively or experiencing homelessness. Any kind of trauma can leave you with a sense of eternal instability in knowing that traumatic events can strike at any moment. That uncertainty forces you into an acceptance of a lack of control over your safety and this fixed mindset tells your subconscious that you're under attack over and over again and that can cause behaviours such as being attached to your dressing gown because your subconscious is programmed to act as though you are vulnerable and that you need physical protection, even at home and the next best thing to a body guard is armour (because weapons and fighting and war are all STUPID) well, you don't have any armour lying about the house and even if you did - it wouldn't be familiar... Or comfortable, so the obvious choice I'd your dressing gown.
You don't even notice this process, you don't notice that your subconscious did in fact, once consider body armour because you definitely never have.
Trauma is something that many people experience and I know that wearing a dressing gown can help with the symptoms of PTSD because I wear mine to cope with my feelings of vulnerability and instability too. I'm able to go for long periods of time without wearing one but if I was forced to then I'd be highly distressed. I'm not fully aware of the process but I am fully aware that I wear my dressing gown when I'm not cold and that it's strange but not uncommon.
I wanted to share some of my theories and see if people can relate because I know that at one time or another, I've related to all of these.
But We Love You
Let's just clarify, you and I, that we still love our dressing gowns, we DO use them when we're cold and we DON'T want to throw them away... Unless we get two new ones. Right?
© 2020 Karla Taylor