You're a Villain and There's Nothing You Can Do About it
“You remain the hero of your own story even when you become the villain of someone else’s.” — Anthony Marra
The reality of life: we’re all a villain in someone else’s story.
It’s a hard pill to swallow, especially considering how hard it is to change people’s minds about who you really are — and most of the time who you really are is not villainous at all.
Yes, you might have made mistakes and maybe you didn’t take the chance to fix those wrongs — it happens, that’s life. Don’t live too long in regret though.
And sometimes people just don’t like you for being you — yep, they will dislike you because of it and label you a “bad guy”.
Obviously no one want’s to be seen as the bad guy, but surprisingly we have all been seen that way at least once. Even the kindest person you know is considered a villain to someone. And sometimes people are labeled that over the silliest thing.
So you see, it’s unavoidable, and we can’t expect perfection as we are only human after all. Life will never be a smooth ride, there will be bumps along the way and unfortunately, one small thing you do can affect someone more than you know.
One of the most common “villains” is a person that broke another’s heart. Usually, people don’t set out to break hearts on purpose, sometimes it just happens and it can end up leaving them looking like the bad guy.
But how is that fair? If they weren’t happy in the relationship and decided to call it quits then why should they be labeled as the bad guy?
Even a bully from childhood might always be considered a villain to those they bullied, even if it’s been years and that person has changed.
It’s almost like it’s human nature to look for people to play the villain in their story. It’s as if they need that spot to be filled so that they can see themselves as the hero.
There are so many different scenarios we could go into but I just wanted to point out that it’s a title you just can’t escape, and it’s a title everyone will carry throughout their lives — even if they don’t know it.
If we spend too much time trying to please everyone, trying to look like a saint to every person we meet then we will have wasted our lives away.
The cold, hard truth is that not everyone will like you, and don’t try to make them. Instead, spend your time being and bettering yourself — and if you’re a kind person then those who matter will know and you won’t need to prove it to them.
I know that sometimes things are misconstrued, people get hurt and point fingers, and in all honesty, there will be times when someone deserves to be looked at as the villain. But like I said— the opinions of those who don’t truly know you shouldn’t matter too much. As long as you are kind, caring, and don’t intentionally hurt others then those who matter to you will know you’re not the bad guy. And if people refuse to see you as anything but a villain then that is their problem, plain and simple.
dashingscorpio from Chicago on May 31, 2020:
Sometimes the person who is being dumped is the "bad guy"!
Everyone has their own boundaries and "deal breakers".
dashingscorpio from Chicago on May 30, 2020:
"And sometimes people just don’t like you for being you — yep, they will dislike you because of it and label you a “bad guy”.
- Very true!
Whether you're Abraham Lincoln, Jesus Christ, or Martin Luther King you're going to have "haters" or be seen as a villain/enemy of someone. As one old adage goes: "You can't please everyone."
I would also say that anyone who is loved by "everyone" probably is not being their true self or bottling up their feelings in attempt to avoid conflict. Some people really are "people pleasers" and the only unhappy person in the group are (themselves) as they walk on eggshells.
As for breakups or firings the person who wants out of a relationship is always seen as the "bad guy" by the person who wants to continue.
It's human nature to feel hurt when we don't get what (we) want!