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The Power Words of Language! Yes and No!

How are yes and no the most powerful words in language?

Yes or no are the anchors at the core of every decision, interaction, connection, deal or contract made between two or more parties. These words and their meanings also sit at the core of every decision made by an individual internally to commit to a situation or deny a situation from occurring.

Which of the two is the most powerful word? This decision can be made individually from ones own perception and experiences. Is it possible they are both equally as powerful?

How you ever witnessed in your own awareness how many times you say either of these two words?

As you say these words opening or inwardly, have you ever took notice of what outcomes manifest from these actions chosen by you?

Decisions, Decisions?

Decisions, Decisions?

The oldest, shortest words - 'yes' and 'no' - are those which require the most thought.

— Pythagoras

Are these words used sincerely in your life?

The use of yes and no is extremely common throughout the world and throughout history. Yet in today's world the importance of such words can alter an individuals life path so extremely they have no idea how they have come to end up where they are, be it for better or for worse.

Yes, is a word of openness and acceptance, of which all is well if intentions of the individual are clear at the moment of the decision. This word is used to confirm something will be done or achieved. Essentially making a promise to self, other or organisation. It is also this word that can get a person into all sorts of unforeseen mischief's.

No, on the other hand is considered closed and negative. This is because when no is used, especially when in a barter or trade, this word is denying or removing an individual from a transaction, connection or whatever the situation may be. Thus invoking a feeling of disappointment from the other party, whoever that may be. The word no and its meaning used for internal dialogue however, has a completely different effect dependant on the individual and their mindset.

Which decision is harder to make?

Is it harder to say yes or is it harder to say no when choosing between these two core values?

Most will agree it is harder to say no, especially when confronted with a decision connecting two parties or more. Saying no often but not always results in an individual feeling negatively perceived emotions. Examples of this type of decision, directly saying no, can bring on the feelings of letting someone down, guilt, selfishness or a hurt pride. This should not be the case, for if an individual does not want to participate in whatever it is that is being asked of them. They have the right to say no, and provide no explanation even if further inquires take place from another party. This can, with practice allow an individual to find the space to feel the true empowerment within from saying no, when they truly mean it.

Of course one cannot simply go through life saying no all of the time, as yes is the other side of the metaphoric coin. Yes is no's opposite, complimenting each other and for one to exist, both must exist equally.

Saying yes is also equally empowering when the word is used with sincere intention. Meaning those who say yes then do not follow through with what they have agreed upon, creates a dishonest outcome for the individual and any parties involved. As does saying yes when an individual wants to say no internally, this often brings the feeling of resentment and/or regret to the individual. To prevent dishonesty to ones self and others, the opportunity to say no should be pursued at the moment the decision was/is available. Also one can say no after they have said yes if they realise that they have made the wrong choice, however this may only apply in some scenarios dependant on the situation.

By staying true to your own being and intentions, saying yes when you want and desire to pursue a decision and having the ability to say no without explanation at times when you don't want to pursue a decision. Will result in an individuals growth in integrity and respect for themselves and their peers.

The Third Option!

The Third Option!

Saying yes all the time won’t make me Wonder Woman. It will make me a Worn Out Woman!

— Lysa Terkeurst

The Third Option!

When making a decision between to do and not to do. There is a sneaky third option that can often creep in, this is the result of an individual's brain working through past experiences relating to the decision laid before an individual. This third option is uncertainty, which creates an undecided mindset. Due to this saying yes or no at the present time may be the wrong decision as their decision making becomes clouded and unclear.

When this occurs one of three decisions can be made, the individual has had negative past experiences and chooses to go no further. The opposite of the first option, past experiences highlight good memories and the individual says yes, or the individual is honest with themselves and the other parties if present and informs themselves and/or others that more time will be needed to make such a decision. When the uncertainty arises a persons mind is in a state of confusion and is not clearing thinking, the best option would be to make the decision in a clear mind space to improve the chances of following true intentions after finding certainty. This option cannot always be employed dependant on the gravity of the situation in front of them, sometimes split second decisions are required such as in war zones or in emergencies. These type of decisions often come without any thought through what one may call divine intervention or automatic action, many have witnessed such experiences and can't explain it.

Building integrity and respect for ones self propels integrity and respect to ones peers, thus having the same energy returned in most cases. Further empowering an individual by simply witnessing the use and power of yes and no in their everyday lives.



Oops!

Oops!

When mistakes are made!

Each and every mistake made will reach at the core to a decision made and an individual employing yes or no against their true heartfelt intention.

For instance, if you were to spill a cup of coffee over a laptop, you may blame something else, there will be a decision at some point of ones life that lead up to that mistake. Was it the decision to stay late after work knowing your tired? Was it the decision of taking on a job that requires a tight deadline that your unsure if you will make? It could be a multitude of decisions and truthfully you may never realise or know. When mistakes like this are made one should learn from them and let them go. At these times it is good practice to alert yourself to your own awareness, reminding your own being to become aware and present in the given moment. Remember mistakes are also an integral part of everyone's learning. For without mistakes, we would not know how to improve.

There is times when you know that you have made the wrong decision when your internal intention was telling you to do the opposite. These mistakes are common and happen to everybody. A prime example of such a mistake is when an individual suffers from buyers remorse, which is the wish of never buying a product and often these feelings relate to larger items of fiat value such as cars. The remorse comes from either paying more than the individual can afford and their quality of life is affected. It could be from purchasing an item that is just not needed or they have been persuaded by sales staff to say yes, rather than following their own inner intentions and feelings by saying no at the time. A method used by sales and marketing companies to coerce an individual is the fear of missing out, which is designed to create urgency in the psyche of an individual to ultimately get a product before it runs out. Often seen when technology companies release new products and people line up for hours before a shop opens. Trust me that product will always be available at a later date and probably for a cheaper price. Fear is a method used on a constant basis to bias an individual or group of individuals decision making, the ones perpetrating the fear tactic may want the decision to be yes or no! Fear can be adapted into many forms and produce many pre-foreseen circumstances and end results.

Being coerced into saying yes when internally you want to say no is effectively allowing someone to take your power away! You empower your own being by standing firm and saying no, there is no need to explain your actions but you do have the choice to do so if you desire. Saying yes will no doubt open up many doors for you, however, you can only walk through one door at a time. Which is why you should use your own power to set boundaries by saying no in your decision making from time to time, remember it is your life, time and energy. If you are someone who rarely says no, I urge you to become aware of this, begin observing your peers and environment, have others noticed this and are they utilising this for their own gain? If so, its probably time to start taking your power back!

Saying yes and saying no is as easy as you make it, becoming witness to the power of these words is a doorway into your own self empowerment. Having the ability to say no when the feelings of guilt, selfishness and pride arise will benefit you if you truly want to choose no at the given situation or decision that is in front of you at the time. Allowing you to hold on to the energy and time for yourself that otherwise would have been spent by saying yes and doing something you didnt want to do. You can now utilise that time and energy on another decision or commitment in the future that you do want to spend your energy on.

Remember to say yes to life!

Thank you for reading.


James Annan


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