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What is it about an attractive or intriguing woman that turns an ordinary man into a creative whirlwind? What magical process enables him to invent, to sculpt, to paint, to write or to compose a masterpiece out of thin air simply by concentrating on the object of his desire?

While women may fantasize about attractive men and be inspired by them, men are often more likely to abandon all sense of propriety while losing themselves in creativity while women have the good sense to put this tendency of men to good use.

Emilie Floge is remembered for her relationship with Gustave Klimt, the artist best known for "The Kiss" and one of those most influential in elevating Vienna to the cultural status of a Paris or Rome at the turn of the century. Klimt's participation in this "golden age" of art was fueled by beautiful women, particularly Emilie. She in turn, used his influence and creativity to help her become one of Vienna’s most exclusive fashion salon couturiers. Klimt personally designed dresses for her. Note the loose fitting style worn by her in the “Portrait of Emilie Floge” to the right. Her wide range of textile patterns echoed the colorful, abstracted patterns found in his paintings.

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Pablo Picasso may have been the poster child for the idea of muse driven art. While Klimt confined his sexual relations to his models, thus allowing him a longer run with his muse Emilie, Picasso had torrid, and eventually tragic relationships with many women who were the inspiration for and were featured in his art. He alternated from worshiping to total disregard for the women in his life as inspiration waned and a new muse appeared.

There are only two types of women - goddesses and doormats. ~ Pablo Picasso

Love is the greatest refreshment in life ~ Pablo Picasso

Like Apollo, he had as many as nine muses from whom he drew incredible energy and each were intensely attached to him. He was a prodigious, fearless and innovative artist producing as many as 50,000 wide ranging pieces. When questioned about his non-stop pace, he said: "Inspiration exists, but it has to find us working."

According to Greek mythology, Zeus' and Mnemosyne's nine daughters were called Muses whose one being in heart, spirit and thought was dedicated to the arts, Taught by Apollo, they inspired creativity and imagination in artists.

According to Greek mythology, Zeus' and Mnemosyne's nine daughters were called Muses whose one being in heart, spirit and thought was dedicated to the arts, Taught by Apollo, they inspired creativity and imagination in artists.

Are you a person who needs a muse to get you going?

It might be helpful to make a list of the things that motivate you. These are the things that are really important to you, that you care deeply about. Try to visualize what or who you adore, cling to, hold dear, treasure and love. Include those you hold in high esteem, idolize, revere or worship and write it down.


The ideal is to fit the things that drive you in with the purposes of your life, the basic tenants or personal rules of character that define who you are.

What makes you feel vital and alive?

What inspires or lifts you?

What drives, enthuses and excites you?

What provokes you or makes you mad enough to act?

What helps you define and achieve your goals?

Now write down what actually drives or inspires you on a daily basis. Whether or not you admit it, we are all a little like Homer Simpson: "Today I am going to concentrate on the important things of life--oh look, a donut!" We are moved by the lower drives on Maslow's Hierarchy of Values, but each of us aspire to a higher motivation such as esteem or self-actualization. If your muse can lift you to the higher levels of motivation and allow you to be the best you can be, then go for it.

Of course, there are those who say the muse phenomenon is merely the biochemistry of attraction. We see an attractive woman and the hypothalamus sends out neurotransmitters--dopamine, nor-epinephrine, serotonin and a symphony of chemicals give us the euphoria, the sense of "head over heels" infatuation sensation. Driven by these stimulants, we maintain a high level of emotional and creative intensity for at most a few years when the experience wains and the "long haul" chemicals oxytocin and vasopressin take over.

Those of us who have experienced it know that the muse kind of attraction and desire starts somewhere beyond the hormones and neurotransmitters and although we enjoy the rush when our body responds, it is the mental and spiritual dimensions that give it a channel and meaning.

One of the problems of the muse relationship is balancing the flow of emotional energy. The best muse relationships involve motivation on mental, emotional and spiritual levels as well as mere physical attraction.

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I blazed through the internet looking for examples of inspiring women and found list after list of women, who may be accomplished and role models, but are not my idea of a muse. Oprah Winfrey, for example, is an amazing role model, but not what most men look for to propel them to high levels of artistic creativity. In the fabulous remake of Great Expectations, Gwyneth Paltrow is molded by Anne Bancroft to be the ultimate heart breaker muse. At times alluring, teasing and yet unattainable, she spurs Ethan Hawke to success as an artist and as a financial equal. Fortunately for both of them, she overcomes the need to destroy and they find happiness together.

Finn: I did it! I did it! I am a wild success! I sold 'em all, all my paintings. You don't have to be embarrassed by me anymore. I'm rich! Isn't that what you wanted? Aren't we happy now? Don't you understand that everything I do, I do it for you? Anything that might be special in me, is you. ~ Great Expectations

We are shaped and fashioned by what we love. ~ Goethe

In Gone With the Wind, Rhett Butler is motivated by Scarlet O'Hara who in turn is motivated by Ashley Wilkes and her beloved Tara. This is an example of the worst kinds of muse--unrequited and ultimately destructive emotional energy. Compare this with Robert and Elizabeth Browning who were both smitten with each other and each other's gifts.

I love your verses with all my heart, dear Miss Barrett, ... so into me has it gone, and part of me has it become, this great living poetry of yours, not a flower of which but took root and grew ... the fresh strange music, the affluent language, the exquisite pathos and true new brave thought ...and for the first time, my feeling rises altogether. I do, as I say, love these Books with all my heart -- and I love you too ~ Robert Browning

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Muse

Voices all around me but I sit silent
Scarcely moving
Stuck in
Dreams
Colorful playthings
Images of a world where I am effervescent
Transcendentally becoming
Awash in
Light
Awaking memories
Days of laughing and loving...I smile
Almost dancing
Caught in
Stills
Vivid color
A face comes into view as I move inward
Eyes locking
Time stops
She
Her face
A universe of visions in an instant glance
Captivating look
Preserved in
Amber
Lovingly framed
All around me silence but I am singing
Vividly dreaming
Lost in
She

©Winsome Publishing 2011, All rights reserved

Questions & Answers

Question: In this life can one have more than one muse that keeps us going on with high motivation?

Answer: I certainly hope so. My first muse was Monica Kay G. who lived across the street when I was six. She used to come over first thing in the morning to get me up and going with her familiar cry: "Can Darlin' come out and play?" That worked until I moved far away the following year. My feeling about high motivation is that it is something we can all muster by ourselves. What we cannot seem to conjure up is the thing that triggers all the hormones, the endorphins until we almost burst with the need to express our highest creative work. For most men, that is a muse...and yes, you can have more than one.

Comments

Calliope on September 12, 2020:

I am a muse and it is a curse.

Helen Kramer from Santa Barbara, CA. on April 27, 2018:

So true!

lillyofthevalley on January 01, 2018:

@tomfoster does age matter? soul mates come in all shapes and forms yes? you should tell her, life is too short to wallow...

Tom Foster on November 24, 2017:

My muse is among the most important people in my life. She wakes up my most creative juices. I love her and am of an older generation than hers and she is unattainable. So for me this unrequited love is fine since I know nothing can go wrong with it. So I am able to wallow in it, enjoying her company and inspiration.

Songstress on October 29, 2017:

@klarawieck - Yes, I agree the person should be unattainable, but I also think you can know the person. For me, that makes it more real - to interact with the person and feel the energy flow back and forth. My current muse is a male coworker (I am female) and I use both our positive and negative interactions as song material. There is always some new situation and something new to feel. On the other hand, I also used the death of Heath Ledger as inspiration once and I certainly didn't know him.

poetmus on February 03, 2017:

I have a muse... a tremendously powerful white goddess archetype who has inspired a tremendous flow of words and music from my heart for a long time.... but she does not care... she is not aware of her significance and I do not believe she ever will be... I have learned over the years to leave her alone... but nevertheless I am burdened with regret that she should fail miserably in not believing in me and accepting my worship

Maddie on October 09, 2016:

....it took me a while to realize that I was his muse. He didn't want me in

his regular life (not that I didn't try). And not just him. People would

always tell me that they lived vicariously through my life. So I suppose, it's not a bad thing... Me, with all my outward limitations, just making "lemonade, and always anticipating adventure.

Winsome (author) from Southern California by way of Texas on March 09, 2014:

Faith Reaper,

Thank you so much for your considered comment. Sorry it took so long to reply...I've been off the grid for a while and I'm back.

I actually think a muse can be in the imagination of a person...sometimes the most effective ones are in the eye of the beholder only. For example, Quixote's Dulcinea...Wiki describes it like this: "Don Quixote finds a true love whom he calls Dulcinea. She is a simple peasant in his home town, but Quixote imagines her to be the most beautiful of all women. At times, Quixote goes into detail about her appearance, though he freely admits that he has seen her only fleetingly and has never spoken with her."

She never appears in the book, but still, his vision of her propels him to tout with windmills and to dream the impossible dream. =: )

Faith Reaper from southern USA on August 10, 2013:

Superb poetry there, and what a muse you must have to inspire and propel you to write such artistry! I have always wondered about just exactly what a male means when he tells you that you are his muse, and now I understand quite clearly due to your most insightful and fascinating write here.

I understand that both male and female give off pheromones where we each give off our unique scent which attracts another, and so I am intrigued as to how one can be a muse to another just by never having met in person. However, I can relate to being inspired by the written words of another to propel one to high levels of creativity, if that is one aspect of being a muse or having such a muse.

Love that first portrait.

I am glad you gave the example of Robert and Elizabeth Browning being smitten with each other and their gifts.

Voted up ++++ and sharing

God bless, Faith Reaper

Winsome (author) from Southern California by way of Texas on May 25, 2012:

Hi G, what a thoughtful and entertaining comment. Sort of like the moon's gravity--too close and the storms would kill us, too far and we lose the tides that launch our boats.

Feel free to grace all my hubs with your unique perspective.

I watched Crazy Heart again last night and enjoyed seeing it from the muse perspective. Though ultimately unattainable, Maggie Gyllenhaal becomes the driving force that brings Jeff Bridges back from the abyss and fuels a creative force he had thought lost forever.

Bless all the muses in our lives, the art that adores them unlocks a sense of beauty in all of us.

Thanks for the visit and kind words. =:)

Gregory S Williams from California on May 25, 2012:

You have an incredible way of expressing yourself, Winsome. Muse is an interesting concept - I think there is some element of the unattainable, even if the person is close to you, particularly if they're still always just a little out of reach, but in a positive, inspiring way. It seems there is a small band of attainability that is muse - before that is too familiar, beyond that is too distant. Great subject; great hub!

G

Winsome (author) from Southern California by way of Texas on May 14, 2012:

Hi Martha, no the muse, fortunately for them, has little responsibility other than being desirable. I like your "energy of desire." Klara, above, speaks of a purer type of muse and I agree both kinds are effective. I guess the challenge Picasso's muses had was to be the current object of his "energy of desire." I love all of you charming women on HP and since I can't have all of you, I try to write with a heartfelt level of emotion or romance or insight so that at least in the moment of reading, we meet on some muse-like level.

Who knows, maybe one day I will meet a writer of passion whose joy of life and "energy of desire" joins with mine to create the extraordinary romance of our lives.

Thank you for the thoughtful comment. =:)

Winsome (author) from Southern California by way of Texas on May 14, 2012:

Hi Klara, yes a muse should be pure and inspiring and unattainable but I'm afraid if the muse didn't put out Picasso would have disqualified them for the job. Based on his amazing amount of quality output, his system must have worked for him. What we hope is that most of these were the "higher honor" candidates you mention.

I love the part of Midnight in Paris when they are discussing the portrait of Picasso's mistress and Gil finally has a chance to speak authoritatively.

I can see the unattainable part--heck I look at your cute avatar and read your witty writing and though you are clearly unattainable, I can't help trying to be clever just to impress you. We males are so easy.

Thank you for the kind compliment and the visit. =:)

martham on May 13, 2012:

'love the posts! i recently met my first muse online...the energy of desire has fueled fresh poetry and he knows he is the muse, which i did not know. problem is presenting.....we are not yet together and my desire is to inspire him..it cannot be forced, this muse relationship...focus of concentration is the very real catalyst to the writing..and the tension of not having met. i'm lovin this muse...is it a huge responsibility for them?

klarawieck on May 13, 2012:

A real muse shouldn't be a living woman or man. Muses are supposed to be pure, inspiring, and unattainable. If your muse is someone you are with, then scratch out the label "muse" because she just became "the one you love" and there is nothing wrong with that... on the contrary, it's a higher honor.

Beautiful poem, too. You're a very talented writer.

Lisas-thoughts101 from Northeast Texas on March 31, 2012:

Winsome,

I am so glad to have met you, too. What awesome words and thoughts you have. How sad for Solomon. But I watched Oprah's master class. Bon Jovi was the featured guest. He talked about never believing you've made it because if you do how sad that would be to be "done" and went on to talk about the success of his 'slippery when wet' album and how successful it was and he was only 25, and everyone was saying he couldn't replicate that so he had to find an entirely new and fresh goal because he was, after all, only 25. He was way too young to be done. It was a great show. It said alot of what you said above. Your words have inspired me.

Lisa

Winsome (author) from Southern California by way of Texas on March 31, 2012:

Hi Lisa, you are so right--I think that's why my opening sentence says "or intriguing" because although we men are suckers for beautiful women, I personally am a sucker for a beautiful mind or personality.

Apparently artists are too because, as you point out, many of their compulsive subjects are not beauties.

I did a lot of research for my hub "Mindjacked..." trying to find the most beautiful woman in the world and found myself drawn to the ones with talent or sense of mission. I am driven to find the best of everything good in the world and when I find it, it is hard to settle for anything else. I am beginning to think that is not as wise a tact as I thought. A person who has the pinnacle of everything would have to ultimately be unhappy and bored. Solomon, if you will. The man had the brilliance to know what was the best in life and collected it--along with 700 wives and 300 concubines and the Queen of Sheba. Here is what he said in Ecclesiastes:

"I amassed silver and gold for myself, and the treasure of kings and provinces. I acquired male and female singers, and a harem as well—the delights of a man’s heart. 9 I became greater by far than anyone in Jerusalem before me. In all this my wisdom stayed with me.

10 I denied myself nothing my eyes desired;

I refused my heart no pleasure.

My heart took delight in all my labor,

and this was the reward for all my toil.

11 Yet when I surveyed all that my hands had done

and what I had toiled to achieve,

everything was meaningless, a chasing after the wind"

Why try to duplicate that? I think I will quit trying to find the pinnacle and start looking for hidden treasure in the unlikeliest of places--inspiration from every source. George Washington Carver found hundreds of uses for peanuts and even peanut shells--maybe I can find inspiration in the husks of things as well as in the sparkle of a supermodel's eye.

Thank you for a thoughtful and obviously inspirational comment. Sorry I went on and on. So nice to have met you here. =:)

Lisas-thoughts101 from Northeast Texas on March 30, 2012:

Winsome,

I enjoyed The Muse very much though I am not sure one has to be beautiful to be one. Monet's wife was far more attractive than his mistress yet he painted his mistress many times. He seemed quite taken with her to the point he didn't seem to care who knew it. And she was actually quite homely. I guess it really is a matter of "beauty being in the eye of the beholder" I truly enjoyed reading the viewpoint of a man and then the comments of other men on that illusive subject of muses. I have always been curious. The poem is lovely and soulful. I am anxious to read more hubs.

Lisa

Sondra from Neverland on December 01, 2011:

Hmmm, I will let you know what this inspires in terms of literary genius...most interesting are the ideas I have so far ;) That Vicki is a real doll.

Winsome (author) from Southern California by way of Texas on December 01, 2011:

Sounds like a plan. Vicki says thanks and made the reservations at Lido del Faro restaurant. This is the view: =:)

http://www.challengeandadventure.com/wp-content/up...

Sondra from Neverland on November 30, 2011:

Oh holy moly, you've found where I need to be to find my inspiration. Can we play checkers on the dock while we wait for the boats to come in? (P.S. Tell Vicki I said to travel safely.)

Winsome (author) from Southern California by way of Texas on November 29, 2011:

Ha ha, the case of the missing muse. Hercule Poirot is working his little grey cells and will tell us in cyberspace on the Isle of Capri where you and I will exchange our latest digital creation over dinner at ten on Sunday at Lido del Faro . I took the liberty of charting out our itinerary for the day and sent some actors on ahead to do a trial run. I told her to use the code name "Vicki" =:)

http://vicki-h.travellerspoint.com/28/

Sondra from Neverland on November 28, 2011:

Ooh yes. A nice shiny, yellow Corvette-type muse would be lovely! As I read through all the other comments I felt quite alone with my problematic missing muse. Now I am more determined than ever to discover a new place, to stumble upon a different situation, or to fall hopelessly in 'crush' with someone new...ANYTHING to make me write!

Winsome (author) from Southern California by way of Texas on November 28, 2011:

Hi Ardie, I'm laughing, envisioning a soap box derby where there is no accelerator and no brake, where you are at the mercy of the terrain of ups and downs. We need to find you a nice Corvette-type muse with horsepower at your beck and call. 50 hubs--vrooom--75--vroom--100--vrooom, vrooom.

Thanks for the cute comment, I always get a boost from you. =:)

Sondra from Neverland on November 28, 2011:

I have yet to find a true muse. I cant make it come and I cant look for it. Somehow my inspiration just smacks me in the face and my fingers fly. I hate it - no control. Perhaps I will try the above mentioned muses in the poll and see if one hits my fancy. For now, I sit below 50 hubs in 3 years hahaha Sad...

Winsome (author) from Southern California by way of Texas on June 13, 2011:

Greetings my friend, I am grateful to Vincent and the others who propel you onward. I know that often you wield the quill without them, but it is comforting to know there are those we can look to for that spark that fuels the Apollonian fire. Before I wrote this, I hadn't really noticed how many of our words draw from this simple concept--muse-eum, muse-ic, a-muse-ment.

May we move each other to summits of beauty and understanding. Here's to the muse and here's to you. =:)

saddlerider1 on June 12, 2011:

My muse Vincent lurks in the shadows, staying close to my writing desk, forcing me when my energy wains to take Quill in hand and create. Sometimes it takes more than one glass of grape to bring forth the demons and angels from my heart and soul.

Yet my muse leans patiently against my desk, almost smirking, and pursing his lips quietly whispers into my ear. Write Saddlerider, write, write and I do. I also have been moved by the opposite sex to do many things and in my life they have won out. Peace to you my fellow poet. Excellent scribe, rated way UP...

Winsome (author) from Southern California by way of Texas on June 12, 2011:

Thank you AC, your bright smile has made poets out of many a fan. Keep up the good work. =:)

Winsome (author) from Southern California by way of Texas on June 12, 2011:

Ha Ha CW, thank you for the kind words, it would be an honor and a mocha latte comes with the package. =:)

acaetnna from Guildford on June 12, 2011:

Wow and totally thought provoking too!

cwarden from USA on June 11, 2011:

Wonderful hub! I was going to ask you to be my muse, but after reading all of the comments, I guess I will have to take a number or just grab a cup of coffee! ;)

Winsome (author) from Southern California by way of Texas on June 10, 2011:

Ahh, better I see Q. Glad to help. =:)

Winsome (author) from Southern California by way of Texas on June 10, 2011:

RH, it would be an honor. =:)

quicksand on June 10, 2011:

Hi WinAll! I am in a low state of confusion after reading this article! :)

Kelly Umphenour from St. Louis, MO on June 10, 2011:

Ansel Adams are breath taking - but this hub just kept me thinking! So way up and outta site! Hey - maybe you are going to be my muse? Lol

Winsome (author) from Southern California by way of Texas on June 10, 2011:

Hi RH, I know! As I was looking at your comment it occurred to me that Jess might be short for Jessica and it may have been a guy who wrote it. I'm with you, my mind goes in a million directions, but like Ansel's masterpieces of all white birches with a tiny bit of dark emphasizing the art, that single poignant entry among the beauty was one of the most poetic pieces of true life I have ever seen. Wow. Thanks for coming back, I'm glad you see it too. =:)

Winsome (author) from Southern California by way of Texas on June 10, 2011:

Hi Jason, nice to meet you. I am also intrigued by what makes us create. The idea of a beautiful muse is only one idea and your experience of writing during intense emotional times is very common. Some of my best poetry came out of emotional trauma. I guess it's a little like stirring up a school of fish, it's easy to catch one when there are a lot moving around. I watched "Something's Got to Give" again last night and the heroine/writer is blocked until she gets her heart broken and then she attacks her computer with kleenex handy as she bawls and laughs until she finishes her best work.

If you want to be a good writer, just live your life and work hard at it. If you want to be a great writer, it's likely you have to have a few train wrecks along the way so that you understand what makes characters and dialogue believable and gripping.

Thank you for the insightful comment. =:)

Kelly Umphenour from St. Louis, MO on June 09, 2011:

Winsome - that is such a spectacular peek into someone else's reality. "Jess and I broke up at 10:50p.m." amongt Ansel Adams photographs. That just makes me think of a million thoughts! Lovely commentary:)

Jason R. Manning from Sacramento, California on June 09, 2011:

Hello Winsome,

I guess I will stand in line to visit you with fine compliments and beautifully constructed subject matter. I find not only your historical references very helpful, but equally intriguing. I have always felt the deepest pull to write when I am under severe emotional strife. The deeper my conundrum, the stronger my creative juices. I find that when I am in a state of equilibrium, I really have little to say, almost stupefied if you will. Great story, thank you for sharing.

Winsome (author) from Southern California by way of Texas on June 08, 2011:

Hey WB, I know what you mean. I was cleaning out the garage and found an old Ansel Adams calendar I had picked up at a yard sale somewhere and was thumbing through the marvelous pictures, thinking I would love to do a pencil drawing of some of them when I stumbled upon the only entry in the calendar. July 20th, 1999, it read like this: "Jess and I broke up 10:50 pm."

Framed by page after page of black and white awesome beauty, snow covered peaks and trees, majestic summits, skies of God, gnarled pines smack dab in the middle of the book--Jess and I broke up 10:50 pm--it was like she didn't want to deface the beautiful book with mundane appointments, but then this happened and she made the simple entry and closed the book forever --enough to break your heart. Now that is what I call a "muse" situation.

Thank you for your visit, the honest words and for being a soul writer with me. Blessings =:)

Winsome (author) from Southern California by way of Texas on June 08, 2011:

Ha ha, are we that transparent? Thank you DB for an insightful comment. Please feel free to visit anytime. =:)

Wayne Brown from Texas on June 08, 2011:

I enjoyed your perspective on this subject. I have not thought of it much but in doing so feel that I am touched by both situations and individuals which prompts me to write at my best. Witnessing particular situations can really bring out the imagery for me and cause my imagination to flow. The beauty of women has certainly driven my creativity as well as fired my distraction in many ways...they are a blessing and a curse to the writer. Thanks for sharing this nice piece of work and the great verse at the end. WB

debugs from Odessey777, Umbris on June 08, 2011:

A muse inspires, a dormat says nothing but YES and the psychology of men is simply that they are more intrigued by women who "seem different". Great hub!!!! :)

Kelly Umphenour from St. Louis, MO on June 07, 2011:

Right - I was thinking about it as I read your comment - screaming kisses? LOL! Omg!

Winsome (author) from Southern California by way of Texas on June 06, 2011:

Hmmm, The Kiss, The Scream...what is the next factor in this series? =:)

Kelly Umphenour from St. Louis, MO on June 06, 2011:

Winsome - haha! (a-MUSE-d)! You are right though - I do write about things or people that surprise me in some way. Klimt is dreamy. I also love - The Scream (Edvard Munch)! Figures:)

Winsome (author) from Southern California by way of Texas on June 06, 2011:

Hey RH, I thought you might enjoy this one. I have noticed in the comments by you and to you that you are inspired and moved to create by others you read or meet. It doesn't have to be romantic, a muse such as a Klimt can move you into a world of new ideas and thoughts and where you emerge often surprises everyone, including yourself. Thanks for the warm words. I am always a-MUSE-d by you. =:)

Winsome (author) from Southern California by way of Texas on June 06, 2011:

Ha ha I'll take two. =:)

Kelly Umphenour from St. Louis, MO on June 06, 2011:

Winsome - The Kiss is just about one of my favorite paintings - all time. I love Klimt anyway. Lovely hub:). I've never really thought much about muses - interesting - Up and awesome!

Phoebe Pike on June 06, 2011:

Interesting. I just got the image of a jacket made entirely of romance. With it, a person is Casa Nova, without it, they are an average citizen who longs for love but cannot obtain it. :)

Winsome (author) from Southern California by way of Texas on June 06, 2011:

If Gustave and Emilie designed it--both. =:)

Phoebe Pike on June 06, 2011:

Cute. But that still doesn't answer my question. -_^

Winsome (author) from Southern California by way of Texas on June 06, 2011:

(smile)

Phoebe Pike on June 06, 2011:

Wait, would the color be "romantic" or would the fabric be "romantic"?

Winsome (author) from Southern California by way of Texas on June 06, 2011:

Ha ha, point taken, I hadn't thought about the "incurable" part--perhaps "dyed in the wool romantic" would be better. I will check out your articles. =:)

Winsome (author) from Southern California by way of Texas on June 06, 2011:

Hello my friend Hello, how nice to see you. You are most welcome, I'm happy you enjoyed it. =:)

Phoebe Pike on June 06, 2011:

You should take a peek at my hubs, the 'fairytale' ones, I go in depth on my first installment about my muses. :) I didn't take the poll because it didn't have an "all the above option" because my muses are the following; Soda, Jiffy, Valeriu, written words in general (I actually have written over 12 books just based on a single phrase or word) and art in general. Deadlines don't really inspire me, they are just there for a "sell-by-date". Lolz. Well, for me anyways.

That doesn't make much sense, does it? How can one be a "hopeless/incurable" romantic if they are enjoying every minute of it? Incurable almost makes it sound like a disease eating away at your very core, but many don't actually 'suffer' from it. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, but beauty isn't necessarily romance. :)

Hello, hello, from London, UK on June 06, 2011:

A most enjoyable hub and very thought provoking. Thank you.

Winsome (author) from Southern California by way of Texas on June 06, 2011:

Hi Phoebe, I love the *shrug*--I can just see the rolling eyes as well. I don't know about the "meant to be" part, but speaking as a man, you ladies are a wonder to behold and I am thankful every day for you. I noticed in the poll that not a single reader has stepped up to admit that they are most inspired by a muse, so I will have to be the first.

Yes I am motivated by caffeine, deadlines and works of others, but oh how the delicious rush of admiration, infatuation, I-Thou, and sometimes boyish crush propels me to the heights of expression no mere cup of coffee could create. I do not apologize for it, I only wish for others the same exhilaration and joy of inspiration.

As to your point of romance, I agree that a romantic relationship can only happen if there are mutual desires, but just as "beauty is in the eye of the beholder," in my humble opinion, you can be an incurable romantic whether or not it is returned. In fact, I think most beautiful movie stars or models have vast audiences suffering from this very common and mostly harmless condition.

Thank you for another thought provoking and kind comment. =:)

Phoebe Pike on June 06, 2011:

I love this hub. It's very unique and interesting. I love the "goddess and doormat" quote. The same goes with men as well. I think that many people believe it's not the same because society has trained us to believe that woman are meant to be admired and men are meant to admire the women. *shrug*

I once had a whole discussion with a friend on who is more romantic, men or women. I told him neither because you can do all the romantic gestures you want, but it up to the one you are doing it for to determine if it is romantic or stalkerific. :)

Romance is only romance if it is wanted.

rebekahELLE from Tampa Bay on June 05, 2011:

WOW, that quote is beautiful, and so very true. I'm going to copy this into my journal.

I'm flattered Winsome, hurry up and sell your first book!

I'll buy the first copy. :D Strolling along the left bank with you sounds de-lovely!

Winsome (author) from Southern California by way of Texas on June 04, 2011:

Hello Rebekah, thank you for the muse-worthy eloquence and inspiration. I like how you described the experience. I read again what Robert Browning wrote to Elisabeth and it echoes your sentiment:

"... so into me has it gone, and part of me has it become, this great living poetry of yours, not a flower of which but took root and grew ... the fresh strange music, the affluent language, the exquisite pathos and true new brave thought..."

It's a great pleasure to me that you see the immense value in these meeting of souls. Perhaps we will have an opportunity to stroll along the left bank and immerse ourselves in the music, art and poetry one day. When my first book sells n'est pa? =:)

rebekahELLE from Tampa Bay on June 04, 2011:

Love the poem! Your muse was working overtime? I love this hub and the topic. An artist finds his/her muse at the perfect time, and it may be for a moment or a season.

The muse finds that part of you that no one else can touch.

It's secret and exhilarating, hypnotic, energizing, sensual, poetic, ethereal, one goes into another realm when the muse is at work. I think everyone benefits from finding their muse at least once in their lifetime. I know I found mine at one point, and he reached within and found my inner self waiting to exhale. It lasted for about two years, we never met face to face. We wrote stories together, I for his photography themes, he for my poetry. By writing, I helped him learn English. He went on to become a very successful fashion photographer and has his own modeling agency in Berlin.

I treasure those years, for he showed me where inspiration lives and breathes.

Thumbs up Winsome for another favorite hub. I always look forward to reading your inspiration.

Winsome (author) from Southern California by way of Texas on June 04, 2011:

Thank you Laurel, it would be an honor as your writing and support has inspired me from the beginning of my time here at HP. =:)

Winsome (author) from Southern California by way of Texas on June 04, 2011:

Very a-Muse-ing GH, and if masterpieces of art, Muse-ic or literature are created out of these simple pleasures I say "think" on.

Notice that I carefully said "beautiful or attractive or intriguing women." Even if you weren't beautiful GH, a beautiful mind such as yours can be a powerful muse as well. =:)

Laurel Rogers from Grizzly Flats, Ca on June 04, 2011:

Haha, Granny's House! But Winsome-you've written a powerful and lovely poem which speaks volumes about you. I love your writing, which is extremely inspiring. Perhaps I'll consider you as my muse...if you don't mind!

Thanks

Granny's House from Older and Hopefully Wiser Time on June 04, 2011:

Men love a beautiful muse because they think with the other head. Like you said, Oprah was not one. LOL

Amy Becherer from St. Louis, MO on June 04, 2011:

Well, Winsome, I can't compete with Shakespeare, but I will say, thank you for your beautiful comments, and add that you are adorable.

Winsome (author) from Southern California by way of Texas on June 04, 2011:

You have a lovely way about you Amy, a true muse and whether it is the rush of brain chemicals or simply poetic desire, you and others like you make writing for me a real pleasure. Thank you for the excellent comment, for the kind words, for reminding me to include a paragraph on the biochemistry of attraction, and for being who you are.

Shakespeare said it best:"How can my Muse want subject to invent, while thou dost breathe, that pour'st into my verse thine own sweet argument" =:)

Amy Becherer from St. Louis, MO on June 04, 2011:

Your poetic art captures the transcendent exhilaration of the muse relationship perfectly. Otherworldly, all consuming, real in the moment, but is it real? I think Plato's experience is the consuming, but transitory epitome of the muse. It can be like a drug and I wonder if the rush of brain chemicals are more the addiction than the object of desire. Mesmerizing, inspiring, thought provoking, excellent piece, Winsome, and your poetry is a masterpiece.

Winsome (author) from Southern California by way of Texas on June 03, 2011:

So so true DJ, the muse touches the soul and that's where all the beauty begins. Thank you for your warm and heartfelt comment. =:)

Winsome (author) from Southern California by way of Texas on June 03, 2011:

So good to see you Doc. Now you have to come clean with us--tell us about your muse...hmmmm?

Isn't that painting wonderful--I was going to put in a cubist one but this one was just, well cool. Thanks for coming by. =:)

Winsome (author) from Southern California by way of Texas on June 03, 2011:

"Locked in an artists frozen moment" what a lovely bit of musing AH. I have been inspired by many muses on HP as well as in the non-virtual realms and it is like high octane fuel in a supercharged engine. I don't know exactly how it works, but I am so glad it does. Thanks mate as always for lively and meaningful dialogue. =:)

Winsome (author) from Southern California by way of Texas on June 03, 2011:

Hi HB, I agree that the artist has a lot to do with a good muse relationship. While some artists/writers can have a one-sided muse energy going, it is so much more fun if the energy works both ways. Thanks for the great input. =:)

DjBryle from Somewhere in the LINES of your MIND, and HOPEFULLY at the RIPPLES of your HEART. =) on June 03, 2011:

Thanks for sharing another cool and awesome hub! The muse may vary depending on the taste of the artist, but above all, they can always touch the very soul of the one who knows to appreciate it. You shared a very soulful poem too... I love this hub! Cheers! =)

drbj and sherry from south Florida on June 03, 2011:

Interesting subject and beautiful poem, Winsome. The ultimate 'Muse' photo is sensational.

attemptedhumour from Australia on June 03, 2011:

What could be more desirable than a beautiful muse for most artists? (and bricklayers)

Who would want to paint a mountain when one could have a beautiful muse to muse over. The depth of your poem demonstrates how hypnotic and alluring a beautifully painted muse can be. Time marches on for everyone, except for a muse, locked in an artist's frozen moment. Cheers Winsome

Brenda Barnes from America-Broken But Still Beautiful on June 03, 2011:

The muse is as different and varied as the person who loves him/her. One can be ethereal or dowdy and an artist might go creatively crazy. Love of one inspires and creates a muse. This is a cool Hub. Thanks.