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Who are Succesful in True Sense?

An artist,a poet at heart & a teacher by profession, pursuing masters in psychology now. Passionate about reading & writing the expressions.


What's Success?

People strive throughout their life to be successful,

A few devote almost the whole life to taste success,

While most of them don't know what's success in real,

They see it in earning a lot of gold and money in excess,

Or in getting known to a huge audience of cheerful people;

They see it in having an enormous mansion with a status,

And in having degrees, awards, and certificates multiple.

But they ignore the things which flourish an individual,

That's neither money nor any other sort of rich access;

Success is not a factor or agent judged by any external,

It's a feeling that's born within the heart in life's process,

An economically poor living its life with charm is successful,

The one who sleeps on the street but behaves as a bliss,

And those are considered as successful who remain cheerful.

When the mind knows how to go with life's flow,

And the heart is prepared for every kind of blow;

When the feelings aren't controlled by others' remote,

And the experience is based on every lesson learnt;

When a man isn't governed by any greed external,

But is aware of materialism and the soul eternal,

Then only one can be considered as successful.

Story of A Prodigy

This story is of a brilliant boy who was always a hundred percent scorer, thus being a topper in academics.

With his brilliance in academics, he became one of the top rank holders in IIT preliminary examination and was selected in IIT Madras.
For his further education, he went to the University of California and received the degree of MBA.
He was selected by a high paying multinational company on his campus and settled in America.

He started his married life with a beautiful Tamil girl of his interest and bought a luxurious five-room house and the lavish stylish cars.

In terms of society, he was really a successful man in every term and had everything that could prove him as an astute individual. He was always a winner. He remained as a topper since he got his senses till he lost his job. He had never seen what's a failure or what's the taste of defeat.
Unfortunately, this successful brilliant man once lost what he had achieved, he couldn't stand on and committed suicide after shooting his wife and children.



California Institute of Clinical Psychology Studied his case and found what really went wrong.

Through the research and analysis done with the help of his family and friends, it was found that he killed himself with his wife and children just because he couldn't accept this fate of loss. He had lost his job due to America’s economic crisis and he had to sit without a job for a long time. After even reducing his previous salary amount, he didn't get any job. All his possessions were lost one by one as he couldn't pay back the loans that he had taken from the bank.

Though he tried to live with this no income for a few months, he couldn't adapt himself and gain his strength to start once again. He along with his wife decided that it would be better to end life and get rid of all their problem. He first shot his wife and children and then shot himself.

The case concluded that the man was Programmed for success but he was not trained for handling failures.

Can the Man be Considered Successful?

My Personal Opinion (It might vary for you)

  • Not at all, as he didn't know the basic lesson of life, that is adaptation. Whatever he might have achieved and earned in either monetary terms or in the form of degrees and accolades was not enough for him to understand life from a better perspective.
  • He wasn't aware that everything is tentative, any moment we might lose any of our beloved things, person or position. This is the most important lesson in life, where we cannot win all the time. If he couldn't stand the loss then his success doesn't make sense.

Who can be Considered as Successful?

  • Those ones who strive with full dedication and devotion.
  • Those ones who passionately do their duties.
  • Those people who know that they are successful.
  • Those people who make others joyful with their presence
  • Those people who know that whatever they have achieved can be taken back from them at any moment.
  • The people who are prepared for the failures and don't lose their spirit with any material loss. Even if they are depressed, that's momentary for them. They let the feeling of depression leave with their optimism and self-conceit.

© 2020 Anupam Mitu


Anupam Mitu (author) from MUMBAI on July 27, 2020:

Yes, William. So sad! They need help. We need more and more people to spread positivity and motivate others to live life even when we are in adverse circumstances.

William Kovacic from Pleasant Gap, PA on July 26, 2020:

This truly is a sad story, Anupam. Unfortunately, there are many people that have done the same thing. Still, it is very sad.

Anupam Mitu (author) from MUMBAI on July 26, 2020:

Thank you Liliane for reading it and commenting.

Lots of love and blessings

Liliane Najm from Toronto, Canada on July 26, 2020:

I totally agree with you when you say, “ The people who are prepared for the failures and don't lose their spirit with any material loss.”

Good read.

Anupam Mitu (author) from MUMBAI on July 26, 2020:

Yes, Manuela. Those people do need our help. They do this as they become mentally sick.

Miebakagh Fiberesima from Port Harcourt, Rivers State, NIGERIA. on July 25, 2020:

Sad indeed. But others will must learn from the story.

Manuela from Portugal on July 25, 2020:

I don't understand why we took his wife and children's lives, it was obvious that he didn't know how to deal with failure but to fail is also part of life and part of sucess as well.

This is a sad story.

Anupam Mitu (author) from MUMBAI on July 25, 2020:

Hi Ruby.

A few days ago read similar other stories. So many couples have killed themselves with the kids just because they lost their high paying jobs.

Hope you are doing well

Take care dear

Lots of love and blessings.

Anupam Mitu (author) from MUMBAI on July 25, 2020:

Thank you so much John. Yes, it's strange why people do that.

We can just keep on spreading positivity.

Anupam Mitu (author) from MUMBAI on July 25, 2020:

Thank you so much Riffat for reading and commenting.

Lots of love and blessings

Anupam Mitu (author) from MUMBAI on July 25, 2020:

You are so right dear Lorna.

Thank you so much

Lots of love and blessings

Hope you are doing well.

Take care

Ruby Jean Richert from Southern Illinois on July 25, 2020:

I will never understand why a man kills his family before committing suicide. Just because he was a failure is no reason for his actions. Sad indeed....

Miebakagh Fiberesima from Port Harcourt, Rivers State, NIGERIA. on July 25, 2020:

Anupam. I appreciate your response.

John Hansen from Gondwana Land on July 25, 2020:

Good article and poetry Anupam. Success can be different for everyone, unfortunately some just cannot handle failure and commit suicide.

I can never understand why men feel the need to also kill their wife and children though.

Riffat Junaid from Pakistan on July 25, 2020:

Wonderful article Anupam, it is really very important to understand that what is success.

Lorna Lamon on July 25, 2020:

I think if people try to measure their own level of success through external means, it will be flawed because these means were created by someone else.

Perhaps success can be measured by how many times you fail, pick yourself up and keep on trying. This is a interesting and thought provoking article Anupam.

Anupam Mitu (author) from MUMBAI on July 25, 2020:

Thank you Eric

God bless you

Hope you are fine

Take care

Eric Dierker from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A. on July 25, 2020:

Well you it my measure of success. Well done.

Anupam Mitu (author) from MUMBAI on July 25, 2020:

Thank you Miebekagh.

Take care

Anupam Mitu (author) from MUMBAI on July 25, 2020:

Thank you dear Ankita

Lots of love and blessings.

Miebakagh Fiberesima from Port Harcourt, Rivers State, NIGERIA. on July 25, 2020:

Anupam, I agreed that success is not the big money in the bank, nor the many houses, lands, and machines. Top of the wisest men was King Solomon. He has excess of all these. But success elude him. The point is that when the mind has not taste and experience a little failure here and there, success is a delusion. Now come the greatest test. It is life or death. If you choice life, you can manipulate or programe the factors that cause you to fail to your favor. And you bring out the best. The world is full of such peoples.

Ankita B on July 25, 2020:

Excellent article. It is necessary that we understand the true meaning of success. Greatly explained.

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