The author is a Registered Nurse, Teacher II in English and has worked as an Operations Manager in a BPO company for 7 years.
Our sets of standards differ from one country to another. However, there are standards set by the world for all. Examples would be for beauty and intelligence. If you are not a certain why, you don’t fit. If your skin color is not how magazines and beauty experts agree on, you are ugly. If your body weight did not meet the standards of the same experts, you are fat. Definitely, if you have skin problems and scars or marks, to their eyes you can never be pretty or handsome.
The world has ended up too critical of one another. Because of the said standards set, people are bullied and looked down for how they look, dress up, do things and say their thoughts. A lot of people fought against those established standards and lost. Most ended up with scars, those don’t heal. It lingers. Discrimination is the source of great insecurities and low self esteem. Others would have variations of behaviors use to separate themselves from unpleasant events, actions, or thoughts. It can be self destructive or a threat to other people. Each person responds differently when pushed to a certain degree. It could be prevented if the standards set by the world and everyone were not mandatory imposed to all.
We are created unique. The bible reiterated that over and over and yet we choose to disregard the teachings of the Lord. Why we do such is a wonder. Why do we hurt one another in ways that could have been prevented? We don’t agree on certain things but it’s intellectually impossible to disagree on everything. Bloated ego and false pride is the source of petty conflicts between nations. No one wants to admit when they are wrong. No one wants to lower their pride and ego. Conflicts escalate to cold war and destructive wars. You only have to use common sense. You don’t need high education to realize that if we disregard our selfish motives, conflicts will be fewer and manageable. If others have wronged us, it would be easier to forgive. What makes forgiving difficult? No one wants to be marked in the wrong. Everyone wants to say that they are right. We forget that we are humans. We make mistakes because no one is made perfect, not even the angels. If we are, then we are Gods.
In history, the Greeks and Romans created their own fictional Gods and Goddesses. Paganism became a natural pull to some established religions. Again, our desire to be perfect becomes the source of a bigger sin. We are arrogant creatures always feeling entitled to this and that. The riots and disagreements in different countries right now is because of that arrogance. Most would have tantrums when not given what they want. Again, not all that we want is given even by God. It should be fair and according to the teachings of the Lord.
When are we going to accept that mistakes were done all throughout our history? In recognizing the wrong doings and their effects to us, we can make things right for us and our children. We can forgive one another and the past for bringing in this phase. We can move forward properly without the shadows of the past lurking.
It is not easy to accept that you are wrong. It’s a big blow on your ego and self esteem. It takes more than courage to accept your mistakes. In reality, being the better person is difficult because you will have to face the first blows. Not all can take it. Not all are strong enough to endure. This is the reason why we choose the wrong options. In our heads, we win. In reality, we lost just like the ones before us.
Forgiving yourself for your shortcomings simply mean that you are willing to improve and change for the better. It is a blessing for you and the people you have wronged. Both will be blessed with peace of mind and great understanding. Perhaps, this world will be a better place is we learn how to forgive those who have wronged us and forgive ourselves for making mistakes too.