Paul is an American living in Japan raising a bilingual and bicultural daughter while navigating the waters of an international marriage.
My wonderful wife and I have been in a brutally honest, loving, topsy-turvy, international, interracial, long distance(at one point), nonstop educational relationship. We were both mature and ready for all of these things when we met. She was 30 and I was nearly there at the time we met. Of the nearly 20 years together, we’ve spent half in her country, Japan, and half of that in my country, the United States.
So last year, my wife and strict, but caring mother of our beautiful daughter reached the ripe old age of 47 years old. We’re both the youngest of 3 siblings, so we tend to have this “I’m gonna be the baby of the family forever” type of mentality. Neither of us think of ourselves as old. She looks over at me and asks,
“How does if feel to be married to a 47-year-old “babaa”(in Japanese), or “old hag”?
I said what any sweet, loving husband would want their wife to hear. I responded with
“I still see you as the hot 30-year-old that I used to date years ago.”
She gives me this don’t-try-to-flatter-me kind of laugh and says,
“You definitely don’t look like the 27-year-old I used to date!”
Cultural and language boundaries may be problematic at times during the relationship, but how people get along ultimately boils down to personalities.
© 2020 Paul Ledford