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Things I Will Tell My Daughter


Kui Mutua is an online writer whose mantra has always been, I'm not perfect but stories are a little better with a hint of imperfection

I have grown up in a religious home, and as fate would have it, I have grown to seek a relationship with God before anything else.

So recently I had gone to church and the preacher talked about something he had told his son. "Just because you are kind and fair to everyone don't expect life and other people to do the same to you. "

That statement really stuck to me because as a kid I used to wonder, why do bad things happen to good people ?
Ain't that why people give up on religion, they are like I'm doing everything right so why I am paying the cost.

......why do bad things happen to good people.....

......why do bad things happen to good people.....

Little by little I got to understand that sadly life isn't balanced. As much we set milestones we want to reach ; like our first kiss, first Friend, first drink, first apartment, first car, first time...etc. life isn't always on our side, it's standing in a corner waiting to attack with overdue bills, depression, anxiety, grief, pain, pandemics you name it, life's got it.

Life isn't balanced.....

Most of us grow up thinking life is a bed of roses, well, life is a bed of roses, but roses have thorns and each prick as painful as it gets, could transform you into you something beautiful. You may not see it right now, but hear a broken girl tell you healing happens. It might not be in a month, or in a year but it will happen.

Life is a bed roses, but roses have thorns.

Life is a bed roses, but roses have thorns.

"This too shall pass" is a really clichee line but I think it has helped to me to go through my toughest moments in life, because it's easy to think if circumstances were different then everything else would be different too, truth is, life is 10% what happens to us and 90% how we react to it.

life is 10% what happens to us and 90% how we react to it.

Life was not designed to be easy but your mindset could help you go through the unconquerable, and when given the choice to be right or kind, choose kind, you don't know the battle life has thrown to the other person.


Kui Mutua (author) on November 23, 2020:

@Abel Wow, that's a great insight, I have never really given much thought about out multigenerational characteristics, and this a whole new view for me. Wow.

Exy The Kingpin on November 23, 2020:

...over and above all, life goes on...

Pierre on November 23, 2020:

Inspiring words,

I love your work ,word by word. I can't say much but this is awesome Kui.

Minayo on November 23, 2020:

I agree your mindset can and will help you go through any shit life throws at you and I appreciate the fact that you have said it all what most of us grew knowing and experiencing I appreciate you sweetie

Seth on November 23, 2020:

This is what I would tell me... Life is not what we always thought it would be when we young and innocent ,but being aware of that helps me avoid so much hurt especially when bad things happen to the good people and when your goodness isn't reciprocated

Abel on November 23, 2020:

I always like to think that the story of my life doesn't begin with me rather its a continuation from the previous life of people that lived before me, my parents, grandparents, great grandparents nd way before that to the beginning. I believe that i bare their hopes beliefs and visions for the future nd that when my time ends my children will carry on from there. This means that i will never be alone I have people watching over me nd that thought alone can get me through anything.

Vic on November 23, 2020:

This is so amazing

Kui Mutua (author) on November 23, 2020:

@Charlene Gallant.......wow yeah. I couldn't agree more.

Thank you

Charlene Gallant from Cape Town, South Africa on November 23, 2020:

wow...very wise words. Yes, I too have a daughter.I tell her that there are good people and bad people in the world. I also tell her that she must be kind when she can but also be strong enough to stand up for what she believes in. Implementation nowadays, even for us as adults, is quite challenging but we must soldier on the best we can. Great Read Kui, thank you:)

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