Some Hard Truths About Sexual Harassment

Updated on January 23, 2019
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Kenneth, born and raised in the South, resides in Hamilton, Alabama. He enjoys sharing his unique perspectives on life through his writing.

Office Quiz: Is this the proper handshake for women and men? Answer: Yes. The man and woman should NOT be any closer than what you see here.
Office Quiz: Is this the proper handshake for women and men? Answer: Yes. The man and woman should NOT be any closer than what you see here. | Source

Let's Talk About Sexual Harassment

right now and although (some) of the points below may seem comical, believe me they are NOT.

Here is a cold fact: sexual harassment in the workplace is generally treated as a civil wrong in the U.S. This means that the victim may sue the perpetrator (or, more typically, the employer) in civil court for monetary damages. (For information about civil liability, see Civil Liability in the numerous items online or in your city library.) Sexual harassment, as such, is not a crime under state or federal law in the U.S. However, certain acts of sexual harassment are also crimes.

I would guess that you would like a few examples of “this” dangerous act that is going on (right now) in some male-dominated workplace and the same may be said about some female-dominated workplaces.

The day where we could get up each day, dress, have breakfast (while reading your daily paper) and the ONLY thing we had to do was gripe about our workload or some employee who beat you in some poker game last week. Now as 2019 is evolving, the workplace is more dangerous location than Tarzan’s jungle thanks to the sexual predators who are wearing sheep’s clothing and doing pretty much what they want and whom to do it with.

If you think this is offensive, then talk to most victims of Sexual Harassment and get the scary word from them—how an employee, (male or female), lured you into a very inappropriate situation that might have cost you a good job, your credibility, and sometimes a physical bruise that serves as a dark reminder of predators in three-piece suits with thousands of bucks spent on dental work.

Read the following and see if you will agree with me that Sexual Harassment is dangerous:

14.) Calls you to his office and after a few minutes of fake compliments, he boldly threatens you by termination or some other illegal ac . . .that is, unless you go out with him or have a drink at the corner bar—make sure that you spell your lawyer’s name right. You will find plenty of Female Lawyers in the Yellow Pages.

13.) After you have worked for the company for a good length of time, the boss asks you very discretely, if you would like to come into his office for an after-hours drink, but he assures you that some women and guys will be joining you, fact is, there are no other employees but you--and the boss and his bottle of whiskey. Do not sit down. LEAVE!

12.) Boss is always scheming to force you to work "some," as he says it, "needed overtime," because your work is not to specifications.

11.) Boss finds it necessary to give you border-line compliments. The best rule of thumb is: if you, the female employee, feels uncomfortable by a male manager's comments, then the comment or compliment, no matter how legal it sounds . . .is Sexual Harassment.

10.) Spending more time near your desk than in his office or with other employees.

9.) Being so bold (or brazen) that he insists on you going to lunch with him and not with other employees because, as he explains, "wants to get to know you better because he feels that YOU show a lot of potential in the office."

8.) Calling you at your home or apartment and giving some slick reason for calling. "Uhhh, yes, Jeanne, I forgot our Main Frame's pass word--you mind if I borrowed yours?" Watch it.

7.) If he hears that you are having car trouble, guess who appears (like a good magician) to take you home because he "cares for you because he cannot see a woman experience car trouble like a man."

6.) Goes by your desk more often than he should to ask to see some report that he knows ahead of time that you do not have such and such report and this gives him more time to ogle you.

5.) Presents a bouquet of flowers and tells you that your work should be commendable--and you deserve more than just a paycheck. I bet he does.

4.) Asks, (very sly) other female employees to find out important personal information about you---where you live; cell number and marriage situation.

3.) Gives, for no reason, an envelope of cash to you because he is still working on that raise he promised two months ago, but it has not materialized yet.

2.) (If you are not married, but having some financial problems) he shows up unannounced at your apartment or home for him to show you some Christian compassion and volunteer to take you to work. How slick can a man be?

1.) (This one is so sly that a fox would blush with shame) the boss pays one of his buddies to act like that he is making a pass at you, but the boss "rescues you," by telling his buddy just how inappropriate his remarks are and you are snowed-under by the boss' saving you from an otherwise nasty situation.

All that I can say to you married and single guys: Hands off of any female that comes into your presence. And the same to the married and single girls: BEWARE!

To read more about sexual harassment, check these sites:…

January 23, 2019___________________________________

Pop-Test: For MEN Only--if a Girl looks like this in your workplace what are you to do? Answer: Two Things: Resign right away and Go Home.
Pop-Test: For MEN Only--if a Girl looks like this in your workplace what are you to do? Answer: Two Things: Resign right away and Go Home. | Source

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      Ken Avery 

      19 months ago

      Cecil -- what an honest guy you are. And as for your line of 'nobody is safe. Even college," and the way college kids are today, mostly, it is a miracle for most of them to graduate.

      Thanks again and write anytime.

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      Cecil Kenmill 

      19 months ago from Osaka, Japan

      Nobody is safe. In college, I got a job in a warehouse packing [whatever] one summer. It was a great job: good pay, good team and good manager. I was really happy. Then it started: one of my coworkers started talking about my [take your pick]. Soon, every time she walked by my station, she touched it. Every time. I didn't know what to do or say so I just let it go. "Man up. It's only for the summer," I told myself. Others noticed and stood up for me right away. But she just wouldn't stop. I couldn't take it. I gave my notice and left. I was 19 y/o.


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