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Saying No is Ok

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Saying No is ok


Sometimes you have to speak up and say “no” to the people who misuse you. You have to say "no" when something isn’t right because it reflects your boundaries and raises your voice when you're being accused of something you didn’t do.

“Sometimes you have to forget what you feel, and remember what you deserve.” – Unknown

I wonder why it is so important for some people to please everyone, to the point that they would feel aggrieved and stressed because of it. Sometimes “no” is not always the nicest thing to say and feels impolite. And the asker thinks as if you’re somehow rejecting them personally. You can answer someone with a simple No.”

We all have the desire to help others. It gives immense pleasure in knowing that we were of help and often people help others to sing their own praises about it later. We don’t realize that by often helping others we’re compromising our happiness and ignoring our responsibilities. Half of the troubles of this life can be traced to saying yes too snappily.


Saying “no” can create more mental health stability and help build your self-esteem.

A direct yet respectful “no” is much better than giving a reaction. Turning down requests for help. Telling what you are going to do instead of directly saying “no” or suggesting an alternative.

Sometimes a “no” can be accompanied by some form of explanation if it is given to someone you're close with or an employee etc. It’s called the “positive no.” Consider sharing why you're occupied with your work. So, be direct, honest, and respectful. And always choose the right words.

Sometimes “no” is enough. It’s a crystal-clear answer. It doesn’t require any explanations.

“It is simple to say no when your priorities are in order.” – Unknown

I learned my lesson the hard way. I tried to please everyone. I said yes way too often.

The word “no” is something that should be heard in a growing and innovative way.

Will they hate me if I say no to them? And will I be able to handle their reaction? In the event that I can't, it's an issue with me, not them. You’re strong enough to face it all.

Figure out how to identify when you reach your maximum limit and safeguard your time. You’re not here to serve others all the time. Not everyone has to like you. Look out for yourself first!

Standing up for yourself is more important.

You can't perform 100 percent constantly. You really want balance. It means a lot to Support yourself.

Satisfying people doesn't help anybody.


“It’s only by saying NO that you can concentrate on the things that are really important.” – Steve Jobs

It is not only used for objection but it’s also for protection. It protects you from your limitations and can even lead to new opportunities. It protects you from being lied to. All you can say is “no”, when someone walks in and out of your life, for distancing yourself from negative people or situations or when someone makes you feel sad, and when someone doesn’t value you. You’re strong enough to deal with the consequences after you say “no” even if it means being alone because it’s the only word that can stop you from unfaithfulness or heartbreak.

He who trims himself to suit everyone else will soon whittle himself away.” – Unknown

Now I’m learning to say “no” more often because I know that always saying “yes” can flip my life upside down.

Helpful phrases for saying, no.

• I'll decline for the time being. If anything changes, I'll let you know. I'm unable to make that commitment at this time.

• I am unable to complete it. However, this is what I can do.

• I recognize how much you need my assistance, but I'm sorry, but I'm unable to accept.

• I'm sorry I'm unable to respond right now. Please come back to me.

• I want to, but I can't.

• Thank you so much for asking, but I'm afraid I can't.

• I recognize how much you need my assistance, but I'm sorry, but I'm unable to accept.

• I appreciate the question, but I must decline.

• I simply don't have that to provide at this time.