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People Almost Met: Pamsy in Swim Class—Should Babies Learn to Swim?

Inspirational essays and articles, with a touch of humor, are a favorite topic for Ms. Giordano, a writer and public speaker.

People Almost Met: Pamsy in Swim Class

This story is one of a series about people whom I have almost met. The stories are about chance encounters with someone that lasts only a brief minute or two, but makes an indelible impression. It’s about encounters that in a small way change my life.

The encounter is too brief for an exchange of names. We may speak or touch, but we haven’t really met—hence the title, “People Almost Met.”

This story is about a baby that I almost met one day at the “Y” when she was taking a swim class. I never learned her name, so I’m just going to call her Pamsy.

A Baby I Am Calling Pamsy

A baby who I will call Pamsy reaches for her mother.

A baby who I will call Pamsy reaches for her mother.

A Baby Howls

I heard the howls of the baby above the general din of the pool room.

I had just finished swimming my laps at the indoor pool at the YMCA Health Club. I turned in the direction of the sound. I saw a baby who looked to be about a year old, wailing and clutching her mother's sweater. I concluded that the baby was a girl because she was wearing a girl’s pink swimsuit. I never learned her name, but I will call her Pamsy, after my youngest sister who is named Pamela. I was 13 years old when she was born, and I gave her the nickname Pamsy. The nickname didn’t stick, so I feel free to bestow it onto this baby.

The mother was trying to hand the baby to a woman already in the pool. It was an epic struggle, but the mother finally pried the baby loose and was able to hand her over. I later realized that this pretty young woman with a blond ponytail wearing a blue wetsuit was a swim instructor. I don’t know her name either, so I’ll call her Dawn.

A Swimming Lesson Begins

Pamsy’s swimming lesson was about to begin.

The lesson was part of the Y's Safe Swim program that teaches water survival to babies as young as six months old. Pamsy did not appear to be very happy about her swimming lesson, but it could save her life one day if she ever accidentally took a tumble into the pool.

Here in Florida, so many people have backyard swimming pools. I moved here from New York, and I hadn't lived here even a week before I heard my first news report about a young child drowning in a swimming pool.

The Baby Swims (Between Howls)

Pamsy evidently knew the drill.

She howled and howled, but as soon as the Dawn raised her into the air (holding her with two hands, one below each of the baby's arm pits) the baby suddenly stopped crying and took a deep breath, sucking in air with a gasp. Dawn then swung Pamsy downwards so that the baby lay face down in the water. Dawn let go of Pamsy, but kept her hands close to her as she swam, her little arms rising up, first left, then right, slapping the water in front of her in a near perfect swimming stroke.

It took only two or three strokes for Pamsy to reach the edge of the pool. Her tiny hands grabbed the ledge, then she lifted her head out of the water and began howling again.

Dawn cooed, "Very good. You did that so well. " She placed her hands around Pamsy's waist and gently tugged her away from the ledge. Pamsy did not want to let go, but she was finally pulled free.

Once again Dawn raised the howling baby into the air, once again the baby stopped crying long enough to grab a breath, and once again the baby was in the water swimming. This happened over and over again. Pamsy knew she had to stop wailing and grab a breath of air, she knew she had to paddle her arms to reach the ledge to get out of the water, but as soon as she had her head above water again, she let her displeasure be known with loud wailings.

A Baby Is Placed in the Pool

A baby gets a swimming lesson. Some babies enjoy learning to swim.

A baby gets a swimming lesson. Some babies enjoy learning to swim.

Howl. Swim. Repeat.

I was fascinated as I watched this scene replayed over and over.

I sat in one of the chairs that lined the walls of the room and watched attentively, The lesson only lasted ten minutes, but it must have seemed like an eternity to Pamsy.

I was fascinated by how well Pamsy understood what she needed to do. She appeared to know that her protests would be futile; she was going to get dunked. She also knew she had to stop her wailing and grab a breath when she was at the top of the arc of Dawn’s swing. She stopped crying at exactly that point each time. Once she was in the water, she knew she had to hold her breath and swim to the ledge. Once her head was out of the water, she knew that it was safe to start wailing again

At Last, The Lesson Ends

I don’t know whether or not Pamsy thought the wailing would make the “torture” stop. Perhaps she thought that if she wailed long enough and hard enough, she’d be placed back into her mother’s arms. Or perhaps she had already learned that after 10 or 12 dunks, it would be over, and she was just wailing to let everyone know that she did not like this one bit.

A towel had been placed on the tile floor near the edge of the pool where Pamsy’s mother had sat and impassively watched the lesson.

When the lesson was over, Pamsy was placed on her stomach on the towel. The mother soothed her by rubbing her back. as she dried her off with another towel. Pamsy seemed to realize the lesson was over because her wails turned to whimpers as her mother removed her wet bathing suit and dressed her in dry clothes.

The Swim Lesson Regimin

Pamsy had to do it all again the next day.

The lessons are five days a week for four to six weeks. At the end of the course, Pamsy will know how to stay afloat and how to swim. She will feel comfortable in the water. And one day, the skills she is learning could prevent her from drowning in a backyard swimming pool, or a retention pond, or at a lake.

After that day, I often watched other children have their swimming lessons. Some of the babies didn’t cry and appeared to enjoy their time in the water. Some of the lessons were with toddlers and children up to about the age of five or six. The older children were usually quite pleased with themselves as they improved their swimming skills. Instead of wails, there were gleeful shouts of “Look at me, Mom. Look at me.“

A Baby Swims Underwater

Even infants can learn to swim, or least learn how not to drown.

Even infants can learn to swim, or least learn how not to drown.

Why Babies Need To Learn How To Swim

Your child may take lessons in many things as he grows up—music lessons, dancing lessons, art lessons—depending on his interest. None of these will be more important than swimming lessons.

Drowning is second only to auto accidents as the cause of injury-related death for children one through four years of age. More than six in ten children who drown are under the age of five. Drowning accidents can happen anywhere--in swimming pools, bathtubs, anyplace where there is water. A child can drown in as little as one inch of water.

It takes only a moment of inattention for a child to drown. After about two minutes under water, a child will lose consciousness. After four to six minutes, there will be irreversible brain damage.

Swimming lessons will not drown-proof your child. It is important for an adult to supervise young children in or near water at all times. That means eyes-on. If your nose is in a book or you are busy with your phone, your child is not being properly supervised. (Read People Almost Met: Lily at the Pool for more about this.)

What is your opinion about Pamsy and her swim lesson?

A Baby Floats

Learning to float is important.

Learning to float is important.

Safe Start Survival/Infant Swimming Resource Program

Safe Start Survival/Infant Swimming Resource is a program to teach infants and young children how to avoid drowning. Children as young as six months will be taught how to hold their breath underwater and how to roll over onto their backs in the water so they can float unassisted until they are rescued.

Children from age one to four will be taught how to swim until they need air and then roll over onto their backs to breathe. They can then resume swimming. They will learn to repeat this sequence until they reach safety. If they are in a pool, this means the steps or the edge of the pool. In other cases, it would mean reaching the shore or water’s edge.

All instruction is done one-on-one by a certified instructor. The final test is when the child is dropped into the pool fully clothed and she must save herself. The lessons continue until she can pass the test.

This video will show you how babies and toddlers learn to swim.

For More Information

Please check these websites for more information about swimming lessons for babies and young children. Find a program near you.

YMCA Safe Swim

© 2015 Catherine Giordano

I welcome your comments.

Catherine Giordano (author) from Orlando Florida on November 11, 2015:

marcelocarach: I'm so glad you enjoyed my story. I'm glad you were lucky enough to survive. You will definitely like my other story "People Almost Met: Lily at the Pool." It is a true story about a near drowning of a young child.

Marcelo Carcach from Westminster, MD on November 10, 2015:

I enjoyed your writing and story so much! It reminded me of a time (I must have been two or three years old) when I was at the edge of a pool, filling a bucket with water to dump it on someone. At some point I put too much water in the bucket, and I fell in. I didn't know how to swim. The person did not come to aid me (maybe that person was not an adult). I remembering opening my eyes underwater, trying to cry, and thankfully floating up and getting a hold of the edge. The I was coughing.

The only other time that I had a similar incident was years later at the beach. I was walking behind my aunt, uncle, and cousins along the beach, on shallow water. A riptide caught me and pulled me far behind. Fortunately, one of my older cousins (I must have been 5 or 6) was a good swimmer and got a hold of me.

Catherine Giordano (author) from Orlando Florida on February 15, 2015:

Al-Lyn: You may be right about refresher courses. It seems logical, however, I didn't come across anything about this when I was researching swim lessons for babies. Thanks for letting me know that you found this essay interesting and useful.

Allen Neims and Lynn Raynor on February 15, 2015:

Very interesting and useful Hub. One thing I did not find mentioned is having "refresher" lessons if the baby doesn't go swimming over a period of months after learning, like wintertime. I have read the younger the baby the more easily they forget.

Did you find any information on this?

Catherine Giordano (author) from Orlando Florida on January 27, 2015:

MsDora: I loved how you expressed it. You get to lean over my shoulder to "meet" the people I have almost met." Thanks for your comment. I'm glad you enjoyed the story.

Dora Weithers from The Caribbean on January 26, 2015:

Beautiful story of Pamsy learning to swim. Although you do not actually meet these people, you do so well with sharing their stories, and you let us lean over your shoulder to watch them. Creative and interesting!

Catherine Giordano (author) from Orlando Florida on January 26, 2015:

FlourishAnyway: I'm glad you are enjoying the people-almost-met series. It's too bad your swimming classes as a child had to end too soon. Swimming is such a great activity. I'm not a strong swimmer myself, but I find when I do laps it is like meditation.

Catherine Giordano (author) from Orlando Florida on January 26, 2015:

Thank you tillsontitan. I always try to include useful information even when I'm writing something that is more for entertainment--a nice story--than information. I appreciate your votes.

FlourishAnyway from USA on January 26, 2015:

Great addition to this series. I never technically learned to swim as a child because my mother enrolled my younger siblings and I and my instructor quit right in the middle of lessons. It's always been an area that I'm not confident in because of it, even though I've picked up skills here and there.

Mary Craig from New York on January 26, 2015:

Not just another interesting "almost met" but a very useful hub as well. You make such good points and provide good information. I have a friend who used to teach babies how to swim so I knew basically how it was done and having children know how important it is as well, even though I don't live in FLA ;)

Voted up, useful, and interesting.

Catherine Giordano (author) from Orlando Florida on January 26, 2015:

Thanks so much sallybea. I'm so pleased you are interested in reading the other essays in this series of "People Almost Met" They are really fun for me to write. They are all true stories. I wrote them shortly after meeting each person. Now I am revising them for HubPages.

Sally Gulbrandsen from Norfolk on January 26, 2015:

Wonderful, I was totally enthralled from start to finish. I can't wait to see the rest in this series.

Thank you


Catherine Giordano (author) from Orlando Florida on January 26, 2015:

annart: I hope that someone reads this essay and gets swim lessons for their baby. Maybe I will have saved a life by writing this. I'm so glad your grandkids are learning to swim at a young age. As I kid I could stay afloat, but I didn't really learn to swim properly until I was in my 30's. Thanks or your comment.

Catherine Giordano (author) from Orlando Florida on January 26, 2015:

Joel, Thanks so much for your comment. A lot of people have the same initial reaction to forcing a very young child to learn water survival skills. The baby may have been screaming, but I could see that she was learning. There is so much water in Florida with pools, retention ponds, lakes, rivers, beaches-- so it is not surprising that we have a lot of drownings of young children.

Ann Carr from SW England on January 26, 2015:

Another great 'almost met', Catherine. My two youngest grandchildren are learning to swim and doing pretty well; the granddaughter is afraid of jumping in but otherwise enjoys it immensely. The older granddaughter is a competent swimmer at 14.

In fact, my daughters and all my grandchildren are all way ahead of me in the swimming stakes. I hate being in the water but made myself learn to dive at the age of 40! I still don't like it but at least I know what to do, so I sympathise with Pamsy.

It is so important for children to learn to survive in the water.


Joel Diffendarfer from Jonesville on January 26, 2015:

This article evoked a range of emmotions within me. My first inner response was of anger that a mother could allow such horror be placed upon a baby, but as I read further, I began to understand. In the end, I felt satisfied that the initial pain was, indeed, an investment well worth making. Not only was this an investment into the very survival of this child, but also an investment into the very mindset. Great article. Worth sharing and presenting to a wider audience. Thanks Catherine!

Catherine Giordano (author) from Orlando Florida on January 25, 2015:

Mel, Thanks for your comment. I learned to swim as an adult. I appreciate you taking a look at my essay about learning to swim. Thanks for doing the poll too.

Catherine Giordano (author) from Orlando Florida on January 25, 2015:

bilybuc: Have you read something called 'The Writer's Mailbag." It's a great series. Thanks for your enthusiasm for my series of People Almost Met.

Mel Carriere from Snowbound and down in Northern Colorado on January 25, 2015:

Excellent story. I actually answered "I don't know" because, having survived some Nazi swim instructors at the YMCA as a child I know it can be a frightening experience. I was a late swimmer but I eventually learned it on my own at my own time and pace. I think the correct answer is that it varies from child to child. Great hub!

Bill Holland from Olympia, WA on January 25, 2015:

I've told you this before, but it needs repeating. This is one of the most creative series I've seen on HP in a very long time, and I absolutely love it.

Catherine Giordano (author) from Orlando Florida on January 25, 2015:

Wow! lambservant. Thank you so much for sharing so widely and praising so highly. It's so nice to have such a positive comment as my first comment. When I moved to Florida my son was six. We had a pool home, so the very first day in Florida I bought him a vest. Soon afterwards I got him swimming lessons.

Lori Colbo from United States on January 25, 2015:

This was wonderful. I remember my first swimming lesson at about age 4 or 5 and screaming bloody murder at the chest high water but mom made me continue. I had a two year old who just dove into a pool without knowing how to swim. It was a small backyard pool so I was able to go in after him, but I got him to lessons right away. I voted across the board and will share on facebook.

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