Loneliness Makes You Do Regrettable Things

Updated on October 11, 2019
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A General Reflection On Loneliness

There comes a point when you call a spade a spade.

What can drive a person to do things their friends and family would say is not characteristic of them? Why would a person compromise everything they believe in? Why would anyone settle? Why would anyone dabble in things they are not naturally drawn to? What would cause a person to mingle with minds unlike their own?

Despair can do this. Desperation can do it. And I am convinced that loneliness has the power to do all of these things to a human being. Age is irrelevant. Physical attraction is irrelevant. Upbringing and values are irrelevant. Everything we believe in is irrelevant. Or they become so the very second someone we are attracted to pays us the smallest mind while we are lonely. When we are lonely beyond our ability to persevere, we will seek out and cling to anyone who we think might rescue us. And I mean anyone.

If the root of all evil is money, then I wonder whether the root of most poor judgment is not very possibly loneliness; the awareness that we do not belong anywhere, to any group, to any establishment, to anyone, and our insatiable desire to fix this. After all, is it not a problem we need to fix? Are we not wired to connect with others and build a life with them?

In my personal life, I can trace almost everything I have regretted back to loneliness, and with a very straight line, I might add. How about you? Is the desire to belong (even to someone) so immense in your heart that you are to the point that you would do anything? If someone whom you would in good (happy) circumstances not notice suddenly now has the power to make you think of them and long for them, what is driving that inside of you?

Somehow, though society is more connected than it ever has been in history, more people feel lonely than ever have. Perhaps we should consider what this can and will mean for many of us; instead of seeking out like-minded people who share our world views and our values, we jump at the chance to be known by anyone who gives us the time of day. Where does this lead us? Do we land on our feet from this? Are we better off?

I can tell you that I never have been. The decisions I have made from loneliness have led me to utter heartbreak, grief, and a period of time in my life that I can never ever get back. Beware of loneliness and check yourself. What are you about to step into because you are lonely? Step back. Re-assess. Maybe it is worth it. Maybe it is not. There are always consequences for poor judgment, no matter what caused it. Where are you? Where do you want to be? Who is influencing you and why do they have the power to do so? It is worth the time to think it through.

Good luck, my friends.

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