My Life with the Superwoman!
I deny the illusion that love is a heavy burden.— Sean Dragon
The Beginning of the Story
My wife and I literally grew up together. We first met each other in our early school years, when we were about 11 years old, and we understood that we were in love when we were in high school, 16 years old.
Since then we have been together without a break, for 34 years now. I cannot describe the spiritual and physical beauty that I have experienced with her, over all these years. But the most beautiful thing is that I have been watching this beauty evolve since then.
I saw her evolve from child purity to the fire of a young woman, and then to the wisdom of Love. And this Love gave me the best partner in life. I feel blessed with living the miracle seeing this beauty of Love grow, evolve and become more evident day by day.
A Life Like a Movie
The Illusion of Time
She, naturally, is concerned about the passage of time and the wear it brings. Besides, who can say that is not tormented, even a little, by this fear? The fear that through this "transformation" that time causes to our bodies, we will cease to be handsome and likeable in the eyes of others.
This is one of the most potent illusions that our egotism creates, and that is why I try to help her, with my love, to understand her real beauty, a beauty which comes from within, so that to set free from the torturing bonds of this illusion. We all have to try it.
We must understand that beauty, real beauty, even physical, is not material, and therefore it is not subject to body wear. It's spiritual. It is this magical aura that is emanating from each one of us and is the product of all the positive features we have developed.
This aura becomes stronger when we "feed" it with positive energies resulting from acts of love and offering. So every human being who, as grows up, struggles to walk the path of Love, becomes every day even more handsome, since this aura projects in the eyes of the other people his or her inner beauty, covering all normal bodily wear.
If I try to keep only my body beautiful, whatever if I do, sooner or later I have to face the time-image in my mirror, and it will bring me bitterness and pain. But if I am interested in developing my inner beauty through the struggle of the offering and service, then time will be my friend and not my enemy.
I will never stop to thank for the blessing of the people who love me.— Sean Dragon
Choosing the Demanding Path of Serving
My wife is such an example of dedication in the way of love and offering. For me, she is the offering in practice. While she is a scientist who could choose the form of personal prominence, through what the world calls a career, she, instead, decided to dedicate all her energy to the growth of our four children.
Every day she puts aside her needs and desires and strives with all her strength and soul to offer the best she can in order to serve our needs. It is incredible her commitment to this daily struggle of the offering, overcoming her personal needs to meet the needs of others, who through this process become an extension of herself. They stop being others and they become us.
Love Makes You Superhuman
From my point of view, what she does, many times exceeds the human limits, because it crushes egoism. Once, one of my students asked me:
"You, sir, who is your favourite superhero?".
Without thinking at all, I replied:
In my eyes, and I know that the same applies to our children, her love and her serving is the most beautiful lesson of life she can offer us. Because, what she does, show us daily, in practice, one significant thing. When your daily purpose is to provide love without caring to claim something for your personal benefit, beyond the happiness you will feel when you see your loved ones being happy, knowing that you have contributed to this happiness, you realise that nothing can defeat you. Neither fatigue nor body wear, nor pain. You are really becoming superhuman.
That is one of the magical gifts of Love. The flame that grows in your soul through this effort, this Divine essence, the real self that you help to improve by defeating the pseudo-selves, created by selfishness and its pseudo-needs, finally, is overcoming the wear and tear and surrounds you with an aura that shows your real beauty in the eyes of others. That's why every day that passes makes her more beautiful.
In the humility she has developed, my wife thinks that what she does is little compared to what she would like to offer. She tells me all the time that there are women who do much more than she does, with more calmness and love.
I know that (fortunately for our world) she is right. There are many women and men like her and clearly even better. But, I try to remind her that the value of each one of us is not measured by our comparison with others who may be in a superior or inferior spiritual level than we are. What matters is the self-denial, patience and persistence we show in walking with Love our own path. That's why I consider her as the most excellent life lesson for our children.
Also, when I tell her how much more beautiful is getting every passing day, she claims that this beauty is in my soul and I project it to her. Therefore, she tells me that I am not an objective judge. Then I respond to her that there is no more objective judge than Love because one of the magic abilities of Love is that beautifies the soul of the receiver. So if it is, really, my soul that makes her beautiful in my eyes, it is the soul that through her Love has learned to see in such a way. That's why she is my partner, my wife, my friend and most importantly, my teacher!
I serve, so I exist!— Sean Dragon
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