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My Husband Makes Me Laugh

With 2 of her own, Denise remarried and brought 2 children from her husband together to explore what it means to be a blended family.

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When I Met My Husband

When I first met him, there were two things that really captured me. One was his smooth deep voice. That voice could melt butter. It rumbles through his shirt when I put my head on his shoulder. Better than a pacemaker, his voice keeps my heart going. The second thing was his humor. He has always been able to make me laugh. I remember thinking that I could spend the rest of my life laughing and recharging my heart if I only stayed near him. Sure, he has a bad habit of losing his keys, but if that’s the worst fault, I can live with that.

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My Dad The Practical Joker

My father was a bit of a hoot as well. He had a funny kind of organic humor. Things just came to him. He had such a serious face most of the time that it came as a surprise when the joke came, or in some cases, the practical joke. He had an Indiana drawl that added to the humor. Having lived in California most of my life his dry humor and drawl were always sources of mirth for me. He would answer the phone with a YeeelllllOW. It always sounded more like a color than a greeting to me so I answered similarly in a color: “Green”. He didn’t laugh but I was amused.

Once when my sisters and I had a sleepover with about half a dozen preteen girls in our pajamas, he felt the need to go around to the outside bedroom window and scratch on the screen emitting an alarming moan: Owwwaaaawheeeeohhhh. It amused him to hear half a dozen little girls screaming for their mommy.

Once my sister and I thought it would be funny to sew the flap of his boxer shorts closed just to see how much a guy needed that particular feature. We waited for days before asking if he had had any troubles. He got a gleam in his eye and said, “not that I would tell you girls about.” That was the beginning of setting joke bombs around the house for him to find; salt in the sugar bowl for his cereal, a round dowel in his cigarette pack, etc. He got us back as good as we gave, I can assure you.

My drawing of my Kevin.

My drawing of my Kevin.

He Makes Me Laugh

So when my husband came along with his own brand of humor, I was overjoyed. It wasn’t as much of the physical practical joking as it was wordplay and puns. It has been many years of loving and laughing together. However, there are times when things go wrong with life and finances, sometimes enough to kill the laughter.

When my husband was laid off, it reversed our roles somewhat and I had to rush off to work in the morning leaving him at home alone. This usually makes men grumpy or at least reveals a bad attitude, but not my hubby. Instead, he sent me off with a smile or belly laugh every morning.

How much do you laugh in your marriage?

For each question, choose the best answer for you.

  1. How much do you laugh in your marriage?
    • On a scale of -5 to +5, do you tell little jokes to each other at least once per day?
    • On a scale of -5 to +5, do you find humor in daily occurrences?

Scoring

Use the scoring guide below to add up your total points based on your answers.

  1. How much do you laugh in your marriage?
    • On a scale of -5 to +5, do you tell little jokes to each other at least once per day?: +0 points
    • On a scale of -5 to +5, do you find humor in daily occurrences?: +0 points

Interpreting Your Score

A score of 0 means: You need to get happy! Try telling a joke to your partner today.

Me knitting.

Me knitting.

Our Jokes

The first day I puttered around the house as long as I could, not wanting to leave him there. I finally stepped into the bedroom to say goodbye before grabbing my coat and rushing out the door. I stopped at the door and said, “That’s it. I’m leaving.” He looked at me with an earnest look on his face and said, “Can’t we talk about his? At least see a counselor?” The rest is a blur because I was doubled over laughing. It was hard leaving and laughing at the same time. I chuckled all the way to work and back again.

The next day I didn’t want to make a mistake in my wording again so after puttering and putting things away, I stepped into the room and kissed him on the forehead. Then I sweetly said, “I HAVE to go.” To which he replied, “Down the hall, second door on the left.” Again I doubled up in uncontrollable laughter. You got to love a man who makes you laugh even after 25 years of marriage. At least he sends me off with a smile on my face. Most of the time I can’t wait to get home to find out what else he’s going to say.

Me working at the radio station.

Me working at the radio station.

Bad Times Don't Have To Be Bad

The following day, I was ready. No more words. I obviously can’t word the message right without falling into his joke mode. He has a comeback for everything. So I stepped into the room, got his attention and held up my hand and waved. To which he said, “I love a good mime. Now try to get out of the invisible box.” There were tears rolling down my face when I left this time. I just can’t win. Everything I say and so he can make into a funny. And that has been my life for the last 33 years. Gotta love him.

Later when I was laid off too (budget cuts hitting everywhere), one would think we had the perfect right to moan and complain. Instead, my honey kept me in the best of spirits by joking with me and making me laugh every day. When we had to leave our large house and move to a small one bedroom apartment, you would think we would get on each other’s nerves were there would be lots of fighting and plate-throwing. No. Exactly the opposite. We really enjoy each other’s company and although our “offices,” which were once in separate rooms, are now in the “living room” together, we are really respectful of each other’s space and work. We still get to laugh and joke, cuddle and then separate to work on our own freelance crafts. If you like each other and respect each other, being in close proximity can be a joy.

Me working at my computer.

Me working at my computer.

Laughter Is The Best Medicine

He works on his writing and I work on my art. Together we are a couple of creative in the same workspace. One would think that couldn’t work out well, but it works for us. It’s all about mutual respect and a good sense of humor.

We are technically retired and working on our own projects each day, but still coming together to enjoy the same old time movies and TV shows. There is no need for cable or any of that contemporary TV programming. The best programs are the old ones where the humor is real and organic. We love things like the old “Life of Riley” or the classic “Carol Burnett Show.” Those were really funny people. Humor doesn’t have to be crude or vulgar or sexually charged to be really funny. At least we don’t think so. I’m so glad we think alike and love the same things. I will be forever grateful for my husband and his humor.

Comments

Denise McGill (author) from Fresno CA on June 10, 2018:

Peggy, what a sweet benediction. I appreciate that. I think I will enjoy every waking minute I can with such a dear man. Thanks for commenting.

Blessings,

Denise

Peggy Woods from Houston, Texas on June 10, 2018:

He sounds like a great guy. Your drawing of him is really good! May your share the rest of your lives together enjoying fun and laughter.

Denise McGill (author) from Fresno CA on June 07, 2018:

Dana,

Thank you so very much for the compliment. I love what I do. It's too bad it doesn't make me tons of money... but I'm okay with that as long as I get to do what I love... and be with the husband I love. Thanks for commenting.

Blessings,

Denise

Dana Tate from LOS ANGELES on June 07, 2018:

What a beautiful story Denise. Laughter is the best medicine, it releases a power that just lightens the heart. When I see your art work, I'm simply blown away at your talent.

Denise McGill (author) from Fresno CA on May 24, 2018:

Thank you, Dianna. I had fun writing it too. Thanks for commenting.

Blessings,

Denise

Dianna Mendez on May 24, 2018:

Laughter is good medicine, especially in relationships. My husband and I do make it part of our life and it is a blessing. Great article and very enjoyable to read.

Zulma Burgos-Dudgeon from United Kingdom on May 15, 2018:

Definitely better, Denise. I grew up in a house where laughter was scarce. Yes, this is so much better. Blessings to you as well.

Denise McGill (author) from Fresno CA on May 09, 2018:

Zulma,

Isn't it lovely to have such fun-loving happy people in the family? It is much better than the alternative of having mean and hateful people to deal with in your family. Thanks for commenting.

Blessings,

Denise

Zulma Burgos-Dudgeon from United Kingdom on May 09, 2018:

I feel you, Denise. My husband is the same way. My son inherited his sense of humour. They love puns. They will sit together and spout puns at each other while I sit and groan. lol

Denise McGill (author) from Fresno CA on May 07, 2018:

MsDora,

Me too about the bride in the video. Her laughter was contagious. Thanks for commenting.

Blessings,

Denise

Dora Weithers from The Caribbean on May 07, 2018:

Denise, you are blessed to have the spirit of laughter residing permanently in your home. I didn't expect such a belly laugh from that bride in the video. Thanks for sharing.

Denise McGill (author) from Fresno CA on May 05, 2018:

Robie Benve,

How very insightful of you. That is exactly the case. I don't think of myself as quick-witted or even very funny (in my upbringing that was my dad and my sister who were funny). But my husband finds me funny. Sometimes I'll say something off the top of my head and he is laughing uproariously. I keep asking what did I say. He finds the simplest things, a look, a off-handed remark, hilarious. So we keep each other in stitches... I'm still not sure how I do it. I don't find myself very amusing. Thanks for commenting.

Blessings,

Denise

Denise McGill (author) from Fresno CA on May 05, 2018:

Hari Prasad S,

Thank you very much. I wish you a life of laughter today. Thanks for commenting.

Blessings,

Denise

Denise McGill (author) from Fresno CA on May 05, 2018:

Linda Crampton,

Thank you. I love his cleaver responses too. Thanks for commenting.

Blessings,

Denise

Robie Benve from Ohio on May 05, 2018:

Such a blessed couple, it's a pleasure to read about your chemistry and sense of humor. I'm sure you make him laugh too, these things are always reciprocal. I bet in many instances you just have to look at each other and you start laughing because you know exactly what the other one is commenting in his/her mind. Congrats on this great relationship!

Hari Prasad S from Bangalore on May 05, 2018:

Amazing hub. Congrats for a life of laughter.

- hari

Linda Crampton from British Columbia, Canada on May 04, 2018:

This is an amusing and enjoyable article, Denise. Your husband sounds like a wonderful companion. I love his wittiness and his quick and clever responses.

Denise McGill (author) from Fresno CA on May 04, 2018:

Excellent point. I like sharing the laugh but you notice I don't share anything private between he and I. There is a time for everything under heaven. Thanks for commenting.

Blessings,

Denise

Bede from Minnesota on May 04, 2018:

Hi Denise, thanks for sharing some of your husband’s quick wit- he made me laugh too. Humor is a gift from God and it’s good to cultivate it, just as long as one keeps it in balance. Let me give an example. Yesterday, I was looking for some images of old people to use in my next article. I found this picture of an old lady smoking a cigar, and it gave me a good laugh. It came to mind this morning, giving me another chuckle. Unfortunately, I was in a public setting- people may have wondered. “There’s a time for every season under heaven.”

Denise McGill (author) from Fresno CA on May 04, 2018:

Mary Norton,

You may not be able to tell a joke but I bet you can understand something that is funny. Watch some old Charlie Chaplin movies. My favorite is "City Lights". He doesn't need words to make you laugh.

Blessings,

Denise

Denise McGill (author) from Fresno CA on May 04, 2018:

Mary Wickison,

I think you are right. My sister is like that too. I never had the quick-witted banter down but I can get a joke and love to laugh. I used to say that in a battle of wits with my sister, I was unarmed. That's okay. I have a husband who loves to make me laugh and I can appreciate his wit. Thanks for commenting.

Blessings,

Denise

Mary Wickison from Brazil on May 04, 2018:

What a joy it is to share a life with someone who makes you laugh. My sisters and kids are quick-witted and so much fun to be around. I haven't seen them in a long time and miss that side-splitting rapid-fire banter.

Life just isn't the same without humor.

Mary Norton from Ontario, Canada on May 04, 2018:

Paintdrips, I have not been gifted with a sense of humour. I have so many other gifts except this. It's alright. I am happy as I am.

Denise McGill (author) from Fresno CA on May 03, 2018:

Mary Norton,

I'm so sorry you have lost your humor. Is there any way to get it back? I think it's so important to laugh every day just for our mental health. Thanks for commenting.

Blessings,

Denise

Denise McGill (author) from Fresno CA on May 03, 2018:

Louise Powles,

Oh, I am so sorry for your loss. I know I would be devastated. I knew an elderly lady who had just lost her husband and she said it wouldn't be so hard if he had just been a BAD man. She made me laugh too. Thanks for commenting.

Blessings,

Denise

Mary Norton from Ontario, Canada on May 03, 2018:

I'm so happy that you both can still laugh after many years of marriage. We do, too, but most of the time, I really lack a sense of humour. My husband knows this so he jokes less now.

Louise Powles from Norfolk, England on May 03, 2018:

Your husband sounds like a lovely man, and you are blessed to be in such a wonderful marriage. My husband passed away 4 years ago, but we did laugh a lot in our marriage and always joking around. I enjoyed reading your article.