Do you exaggerate the negative and underestimate the positive?

Updated on August 12, 2019
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Do you exaggerate the negative and underestimate the positive?

Do you exaggerate the negative and underestimate the positive?

Haole, is a Hawaiian word that means "out of breath." And what a coincidence, many times we find ourselves feeling like this, even more when we feel anxious. Now what is anxiety? According to the Anxiety Clinic, it is a defensive mechanism in situations that we find threatening. It is universal, it occurs in all people. For me, anxiety is restlessness, a fear, or unease. It's a choking feeling, because you feel like you're in danger, and no, you're not the worst person for feeling that way. You are human, and we all go through this stage. Moreover, while writing this, I was just coming out of this stage (I know exactly how you feel).

I want you to know something: Anxiety steals dreams, goals, energies and this is no fun. In many situations, we feel helpless. We feel that the world falls on us. The psalmist wrote: "Do not lose your temper, that only causes harm" Psalm 37: 8 and how right was it. We cannot lose our focus even if it is difficult, even if it hurts, even if it makes no sense, even if things do not go, as we want. This causes us headaches, and above all, our well-being and emotional damage is not present. But it is not easy. Many times we are worried, and worry leads us to develop anxiety. There comes a time when we see the light, and we can place our trust in Jesus. It is then, when you feel liberated from the feeling of darkness.

As Christians, we are not exempt from feeling anxious. And as such, I think we carry more anxiety for what we hear a lot in the street "Being a Christian gives you peace, you have no problems, your life is perfect” and how wrong are they. If so, we would all be Christians, right? The Christian life is not always perfect, and many times we feel guilty for our anxiety. The apostle Paul wrote in Philippians 4: 6 "Do not worry about anything ..." but how difficult it is for us. We worry about what will happen tomorrow, about our studies, about our work, about our family. If we analyze the Scripture, he wrote this phrase in the present tense, in a continuous state.

Thanks to an excellent book I was reading entitled, "Anxious for nothing, by Max Lucado" I got this phrase "Do not let anything in life leave you breathless and in perpetual anguish." Many times we are in anguish and do not know how to get out of that toxic relationship. Yes, it is a continuous relationship, but you know what? The anxiety prison is optional. It is toxic to be in this situation, and in Luke 21:34 (NIV) we find this beautiful text that says: “Be careful, lest your heart be hardened by the vice, drunkenness and worries of this life. Otherwise, that day will suddenly fall upon you. ”As humans and believers, we should be an example of that passage. Many times we exaggerate the negative and dismiss the positive, WHY? Because we are anxious and only think about the bad and everything that encompasses that world of selflessness and negativity.

There is a way out. There is hope. How nice does it feel when we approach God and place all our burdens on him? We trust his plan, and we trust him. As I mentioned earlier, the Christian life is not perfect, it never will be. You will have more to evidence as a Christian, but what a beautiful verse to find more faith, and less anxiety. “Do not worry about anything; rather, on every occasion, with prayer and supplication, present your requests to God and thank him. And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will take care of their hearts and their thoughts in Christ Jesus. ”Philippians 4: 6-7 With God as your help, you will feel at peace, sleep better, and smile more. You will redefine your way of facing your fears and bad news. It takes work, and it requires a lot from you. I tell you from experience, because I just came out of this hole. Yes, many times I doubted, many times I thought I wouldn't get out of the darkness, but I trusted that God had better plans for me. I trusted his promise, his word, and I know that I have been reborn and that a new chapter of my life is about to begin.

I want you to know this. Anxiety will not go away by just reading a book, or by going to a talk, it takes time from you, and daily effort, but with God by your side, there is nothing impossible. Ask him to direct your steps, to be leader of your path, because of something I am sure, and it is that God does not want you to live like this. He created you for big things, for a life without anguish, to smile and live your dreams. God loves you, and he watches over your world and your life. He is the door to that new world of love and faith. He closes chapters in our lives, but opens new ones full of life, dreams, love and faith. Just as we turn the page of a book, would you turn a new page in your life? He is ready to write this chapter with you, do you join to have less anxiety and more faith in Jesus? I do and I’m here, waiting for you.

PD: I identify a lot with this feeling, because at my 26 years of age, I have experienced significantly strong situations that have made me the young fighter I am today. And yes, I still fall, I still cry, I still have my days that I say: “God, how much more?” But I get up with more faith, because I know that God's plans are fulfilled at his timing, not mines and I remember that key verse that says: “Don't worry about anything” Phil 4: 6 because God has control of my life.

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        Larry Slawson 

        6 days ago from North Carolina

        Great read. Thank you so much for sharing :)


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