Cheryl is an ordained minister who counsels with a Biblical perspective. She has been married to her high school sweetheart for 38 years.
Remember you are a married spud
it's amazing what can be gleaned from cartoons, especially when the information can help improve your marriage. In Toy Story 2, Andy's toys are riding in a vehicle through Al's Toy Barn when they come to the aisle where the Barbie dolls are singing and dancing. When tour guide Barbie jumps in the front seat, Mr. Potato Head begins to repeat over and over "I'm a married spud I'm a married spud." Ham, the pig pushes him aside and replies; "Then make way for the single fellows." This comical exchange packs volumes of wisdom because Proverbs 5:15 KJV tells us; Drink waters out of thine own cistern, and running waters out of thine own well. In other words, remember and respect the fact that you are married and get your lovin from your spouse. Leave the single life for those who have not exchanged vows. So remember, remember
If you are prone to wandering or like Mr. Potato Head have temptation fall right in your lap you might need to repeat to yourself that you are a married spud,(man or woman. Some people laughed when Vice President Mike Pence said he did not dine alone with other women. He should have been commended for not purposefully placing himself in a compromising situation that might cause him to break his vows. Remembering that you are spoken for will help you to obey Proverbs 5:15 and drink your water from your own well Conducting yourself as married instead of single is a big plus in any marriage.
Your spouse should be your favorite deputy
There is a scene in Toy Story where Andy pulls Woody’s string and the cowboy says: “You’re my favorite deputy,” Sometimes randomly I say this to my husband. Your spouse should be your best friend, as well as your lover. You should always be thankful for your husband or wife and give him or her proper respect. In the movie The Color Purple, there is a point where Sophia is having a drink with her former husband Harpo. His new wife Mary Agnes, (AKA “Squeak”)walks up and announces, "He my man now." You don't have to shout it out loud as she did but you should be beaming with pride when you are with your husband or wife. Your attitude/aura/energy should be screaming to the world "He my man, (or woman, whenever you are together.
Proverbs 5:18-20 KJV tells us:
18 Let thy fountain be blessed: and rejoice with the wife of thy youth.
19 Let her be as the loving hind and pleasant roe; let her breasts satisfy thee at all times; and be thou ravished always with her love.
20 And why wilt thou, my son, be ravished with a strange woman, and embrace the bosom of a stranger?
It's important for married couples to congratulate appreciate and celebrate one another. Make sure your spouse knows how much you care so there will be no need to seek a strange woman or man.
Know your partner's Spanish mode
In Toy Story 2, Rex the dinosaur pushed a button and Buzz Light year began speaking in Spanish. He became super romantic towards Jesse the cowgirl and later she joked that if life in the attic became rough, she now knew about Buzz’s Spanish mode. The toys believed they were going to be living in the attic and Jesse was saying it would be all right because she could get Buzz to give her flowers and whisper sweet nothings in her ear. it's important to know what turns your spouse on, not only sexually but what makes them romantic and loving towards you. I get goosebumps when my husband refers to me by the pet name he gave me decades ago. He gets tickled when he asks me to purchase a particular snack or flavor of ice cream and I tell him I had already just bought it for him.
I randomly rub his back or shoulder and he replies that I got just the right spot. There are days when he tells me I look like I need a hug and gives me one. Sometimes when we pass in the hallway and simply hug each other without saying a word. Every married person should instinctively know their partner intimately in and outside of the bedroom. Mrs. Potato Head always seemed to know just what her husband needed.
Don't forget to shave!
At the end of the first Toy Story, the toys were gathered in Andy's bedroom listening on a monitor as he opened Christmas gifts. When it was announced that there was a Mrs. Potato head, Mr.Potato head said, "I gotta shave" and took off his mustache. He realized this was a special occasion and wanted to make a good impression. Make time to do something special for your spouse that you know will be impressive. When the phrase, "I gotta shave." comes to mind just think of something spontaneous that will please your sweetie. You know what your spouse will appreciate so just do it.
Sadly the Potato Heads did not have many lines in Toy Story 4 due to the death of Don Rickles. Although they were quiet they were together whenever they were in a scene. The lesson to learn from this adorable couple is to stick together no matter what. I think that’s amazing.
Remain madly in love
In an early scene from Toy Story, Andy is playing with his toys and he knocks over a box. Behind it was the Potato Heads, embracing each other and smooching. During Toy Story 2, Mrs. Potato Head lovingly packed different items in her spouse’s backside. These were all the things she believed he would need when Andy’s toys went searching for Woody. During Toy Story 3, when it looked as if the toys would be incinerated, the potato heads held hands and moved closer to one another, preparing to die together.
During the second and third installments of the trilogy, the Mrs.referred to her spouse as darling and sweetheart. In Toy Story 3 when Lotso the bear removed Mrs. Potato Head's lips t keep her quiet, the Mr. became angry and said he was the only one with permission to do that to his wife. Utilizing terms of endearment and defending your spouse are methods of expressing love for your spouse. Near the end of TS3 Andy was filling Bonnie in on the specifics each of his beloved toys. He held up the married spuds and said, “The Potato heads, Mr. and Mrs. You gotta keep em together because they are madly in love.” No matter what comes against your marriage, stay together and continue to be madly in love.
This can be easier said than done many times, but the lessons from Toy Story can be an incentive. Always remember you took vows, and respect that fact even if others don’t. In tough times tell yourself that you are a married spud, remember your spouse's Spanish mode, and tell your husband or wife often, that he or she is your favorite deputy. Hold hands, hug, or kiss and be affectionate as often as possible. Even if you are not traditionally one to be sentimental just give it a try every once in a while, and don't forget to shave.
The bottom line is to be your spouse's "Big strong spud" or his "little sweet potato", till death or Christ returns.
© 2019 Cheryl E Preston