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Looking at Success and Arrogance

Kenneth is a rural citizen of Hamilton, Ala., and has begun to observe life and certain things and people helping him to write about them.

Please Have a Seat

and get ready to learn something valuable. No. I will not share the much-coveted ability to crack a safe in some very successful bank. Nor will I give you any information that the SEC (not Southeastern Conference, college football) might think you are guilty of insider-trading thanks to yours truly. But what I will share with you free of charge, is how to know the difference in one area of life that you may be confused about.

Of course, I am talking about knowing the difference between Successful and Arrogance. Did you know that although these two terms are "first cousins," when one grows a bit too high and mighty, the other one is close to follow. You can guess whom I am talking about.

Ahhh, successful, rich, powerful. These are the aims of most guys who do not know about success and arrogance.

Ahhh, successful, rich, powerful. These are the aims of most guys who do not know about success and arrogance.

So Right now

I want to talk about being Successful in Life. And I will use me for the prime example. That way I won't be accused of talking about anyone and hurting their feelings.

What does Kenneth Avery see as being Successful? I will tell you quickly and the answers may surprise you.

Producing something (a writing project, designing a birdhouse everyone loves, etc.) that I know that every bit of my sweat, blood, and sacrifice went into the production. I did it my way, (thanks to Ol' Blue Eyes and if I have to tell you who that is, then you are in trouble), and I didn't have to pay anyone to develop my dream.

Making something that will make others happy each time that they use my creation or each time that they see or hear my creation.

Being successful enough to have my checking and savings account(s) fluid with cash, plus a few Certificates of Deposit, T-Bills, and Internal Revenue Accounts to take care of me and my wife and grandkids when I am in those Golden Years.

These are just three of the thoughts that I have on the subject of Success and Arrogance and although I am tempted to share more of these zesty tid-bits, but I will sacrifice them to give the other thoughts a moment in the spotlight so you can be more enlightened with my thinking.

Success: The Myths

may lead you, even today, that too much success can cause what was once a level-headed thinker, into a type of machine that only enjoys manual labor in long stints. Of course this is a myth, but it is also a point of controversy because it's tough to hand-out a sensible explanation concerning workaholics.

A formal education is the key to a successful life no matter if it consists of manual labor or vocations that involve business leadership. One name stands alone as the perfect disagreement: Albert Einstein. He was a school drop-out, even considered mentally-challenged. He grew up began studies of Physics and then Quantum Physics and his brain child, the Theory of Relativity. Should I say more?

Heavy amounts of success nullifies any measure of happiness. True, but only to a point. If someone loves what they do and do what they love, they can be thought of as happy. Only those with jobs performed with bad attitudes and drudgery can be labeled as unhappy.

Arrogance: The Myths

as you are about to read, is easy to understand. Let's start with arrogant people are all very closed-off and aloof. Even Howard Hughes had five real friends, so his "hermit" image manufactured by the press did not travel that long. But J. Paul Getty, once considered "the" richest man in the world, was the coldest, most-irritating people who ever met him--and he was a success. Food for thought.

Common people are most times attracted to arrogant people. And what alley did you read this graffiti?

Arrogance means wealth. How so? Some of the most arrogant people are those who know how to keep warm underneath bridges. This may sound cold, but this comes from an interesting study of Sociological Tests conducted (in secret) by a band of social engineers to find out if arrogance is only found with the rich and powerful. True, some true arrogance was found in the very upper crust of society, but even more cold-hearted people was found in the "digs" of destitute and fallen business ventures.

In Closing

I would love to have "this" lifestyle before I leave to meet my Maker.

I want to have more than enough money in order to take care of my wife and our grandkids, and speaking of our grandkids, I would not just hand-out their college trust money. I had rather see them earn it by going out and finding jobs just to show them that working does have a positive side and nothing given equals nothing gained. And my grandkids would know how to appreciate my college trust money before they know how to work.

Let's say that I am blessed with an enormous amount of money and at first, I get scared at not knowing what to do with it. Then I would consult with my friend, Dana Scott, the vice-president of my bank in Hamilton, Ala., and with her investment prowess, she could put my wife and family onto a pathway of investments that could also be of help to my church, community, and just anyone whom I feel is in need of some monetary help.

I do NOT desire to let huge amounts of money to cause me to be forced to hire a battery of press agents, lawyers, and publicity agents. Only ONE lawyer, banker, and trusted friend who I can drink coffee with and if I want to buy her something nice, I would.

I think that most husbands feel this way once they are blessed with a lot of cash.

July 14, 2018_____________________________________________

Today's businesswoman is well-versed in the subjects of success and arrogance, and the most-successful are those with an humble heart.

Today's businesswoman is well-versed in the subjects of success and arrogance, and the most-successful are those with an humble heart.

© 2018 Kenneth Avery


Kenneth Avery (author) from Hamilton, Alabama on July 28, 2018:

Elijah -- remarkable feat. Thank you for sharing and keep a safe day ahead of you.

Elijah A Alexander Jr from Washington, DC USA on July 28, 2018:

Thanks for the perk, Kenneth!!

When you said "I do not mean be stingy, but very inventive and sensitive to the needs of others. Those with REAL Needs" to Audrey it reminded me of how my less than $1K a month retirement is often used to assist people I believe are honestly searching for liberation from monetary wealth. I believe I have provided nearly half of the five and half year of for that purpose and have never gone without because of it. A look at my wardrobe alone should reveal how it is done, I'm 50% naturalist.


Kenneth Avery (author) from Hamilton, Alabama on July 27, 2018:

Gregory -- yes, I have heard of Andrew. He is a gifted Bible teacher on TV and I agree with your description on him not being arrogant. Okay. Since we are sharing, in the latter part of March, this year, I surrendered the call to preach the Word of God--and I had been convicted for this for over 30 years. I just wanted to be correct in which way that God had chosen for me to go.

Thanks and pray that the place of my ministry, Facebook, will be a fertile place for seeking God and when God blesses the move, I will not get in His way by my arrogance.

Come back anytime.

Kenneth Avery (author) from Hamilton, Alabama on July 27, 2018:

Hi, Audrey -- thank you for your Non-Arrogant Examples. What about Will Rogers? And Jimmie Rodgers? It was said of Jimmie, that when he became famous, then wealthy, he had a "soft touch" to those, the hobo's, who rode the rails with him, because he knew what it was like to be really without.

To be honest, I would love to be Very Wealthy starting at sundown today and just have the knowledge and how to save it.

By save, I do not mean be stingy, but very inventive and sensitive to the needs of others. Those with REAL Needs.

Write me soon.

Kenneth Avery (author) from Hamilton, Alabama on July 27, 2018:

Elijah -- thanks for the lecture which was very educational. I appreciate your IQ and I can tell you that your IQ is on a higher level.


Kenneth Avery (author) from Hamilton, Alabama on July 27, 2018:

Liz -- you are so right. (that), the distance between someone's brain and their bank book.

Nice point.

Your turn.

Kenneth Avery (author) from Hamilton, Alabama on July 27, 2018:

Jodah -- thanks so much for the kind comment. I appreciate it so much. I really don't think that wealth and human feelings are always in the same state, but in my case, I would NOT change one of my life's details even if the wealth came rolling in--enough so I could pay the debts of my neighbors, friends, and my house. Sure I would help our church and other churches and the established charities, but I would draw the line when the recipients of my charity wanted to snap a photo for the paper--that is my pet peeve.

Write soon, Jodah.

Liz Westwood from UK on July 17, 2018:

I once heard it said that arrogance comes when people let success go to their heads. This is an interesting discussion.

Gregory DeVictor from Pittsburgh, PA on July 15, 2018:

Kenneth, you wrote:

“Arrogance means wealth. How so? Some of the most arrogant people are those who know how to keep warm underneath bridges.”

Kenneth, that was very well stated. I heard a very similar comment about a year ago on a talk show on Pittsburgh-based CornerStone Television. (The topic that was being discussed was pride.)

I’ve met some people like that over the years. A wise woman here in Pittsburgh once taught me a very useful slogan when it comes to dealing with human behavior and motivation: “Always consider the source.” (This strategy works 110% of the time too.)

Kenneth, I don’t know if you know who Andrew Wommack is. However, Andrew is a very successful man who is not the least bit arrogant.

Audrey Hunt from Idyllwild Ca. on July 15, 2018:

We have many examples of people being successful without being arrogant. Geroge Washington was known for his success and humility and so was Neil Armstrong and Captain Sully Sullenberger. I dislike arrogance in anyone.

Thank you for this article, Ken. Take care.

Elijah A Alexander Jr from Washington DC on July 15, 2018:

I must admit, Kenneth, in talking about yourself you sounded arrogant. Not really, that was just for a laugh.

Very well written and quite true.

In the seventh grade when I was told "zero is not the only whole number" although all other numbers added to a negative of equal value becomes zero, I wanted to be a school dropout but my schoolteacher mother wouldn't have it so I got my diploma. If you have read any of my hubs I believe you would say I am "arrogantly educated without college." By choosing to become self educated [the only way one cam be] rather than institutionally schooled I am able to see what most schooled people don't so it makes me arrogant enough to listen to the concepts of anyone and not believe I'm superior. That also makes me feel successful for accomplishing the ability to live even without the comforts of civilization. What more can I ask for?

Thanks, I enjoyed it.

John Hansen from Queensland Australia on July 15, 2018:

Interesting comparisons and insights, Kenneth. It is hard to disagree. I too, do feel you can be successful without being either wealthy or arrogant.

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