Question's About Living Alone
One thought that never crossed my mind was living alone. It didn’t seem appealing but now as an adult who works from home, all I want is to be alone. It is my new big goal that I am working towards. Who knows how long it will take to get there but I really, really want it by next year, and if not next year at least before I turn 30.
But I have many questions about living alone:
- Since I’m a loner will I get lonely? I am the type of person who thrives on a lot of alone time and the only exception is my partner — who is nonexistent right now but when I meet him you better believe this loner wants lots of attention.
- How hard is it? Will I constantly have to be checking if things work? How much gardening do I have to do? Is it stressful? Do I need to buy a toolkit? How many times a month do I need to make phone calls to people to come and fix something?
- How scary is it? Will I be safe or should I worry every night that someone is going to break-in? Do I need to get a dog? Or an alarm system?
The reason I started thinking about living alone is that I realised I haven’t felt like I’ve had a home in a long time. Sure, I’ve lived in houses and made my bedrooms as homely as I could but nothing ever gives me that feeling of…
The last time I truly felt like I had a home was when I was 11 but being a child you always are carefree anyway.
Every house I’ve lived at just hasn’t given me that sort of feeling because I either lived with my parents and that was not the best living situation. Or I lived with housemates and there were too many rules.
Don’t do this, can’t do that, have to do it like this, blah blah blah. I get it, there need to be rules when you’re living with other people but it does become a bit overwhelming when leaving a towel on the bench or accidentally leaving a few crumbs can get you into trouble with your housemates.
Now I live with my sister and her partner and I still don’t feel like I have a home. I have a room, but barely because there are still too many rules here.
I sound like a broken record when I say this but I want to be free!
I dream of saving up enough money to live alone, to have the freedom to do whatever I want.
But what do I want other than freedom?
To Live Alone...
I suppose I want personal space. I don’t want my workspace to also be in my bedroom. I don’t want interruptions throughout the day while I work. I want to shower whenever I want, I want to listen to loud music and watch loud tv in the mornings and night. I don’t want to babysit other people’s pets just because I am home all day. I don’t want to answer the door to other people’s mail. I want to buy a cheesecake and eat it all to myself. I want to leave a towel on the bench or miss a cleaning week. I want to leave crumbs on the bench and eat my food while it’s hot instead of having to clean up after myself straight away. I don’t want to be woken up by other people. I want to sing loudly. Shower with the door opened, keep the heater on until I’m sweating.
There are a lot of ridiculous things I want to do but can’t until I live alone.
And all that leads back to having freedom to do whatever, whenever.
This feels like more of a rant than anything else but I just really want to live alone.
So, if you live alone or have lived alone could you tell me what it’s like? Is it more enjoyable or do you prefer to live with other people? Do you think it’s scary? And how long did it take you to move out by yourself?
So many questions, I suppose some of them will be answered when I live alone.
Anyway, thank you for reading, have a great day ❤
Eric Dierker from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A. on November 10, 2019:
Living alone is fantastic. I danced in my underwear more. I cooked more. And I exercised more. Not living alone has never been my choice. You simply fall in love and have children.
But with that said as a "stay at home" I have tons of personal space. Way cool. I got the best of both worlds.